Dear Savvy Woman,

Yesterday was one of those days for me…a low energy day.  Not only was I on the tired side, but I was feeling low-vibe.   In Law of Attraction-speak, this is death in an Attraction-based Universe.  I fully subscribe to this, as I have witnessed this Universal principle at work (both ‘positively’ and ‘negatively’) in my own life.   So, come evening last night, I knew I needed to raise my vibration.  

Thankfully, I slowed down enough to listen to my intuition and play a video a FB friend had sent me from Esther Hicks -a message from Abraham.  After watching the video, I felt myself feel a little lighter.   I sent it to a few clients and to a few friends.  I felt a little more light.   My husband came into the room to hang out with me, and I engaged with him from this uplifted place (and he was low-vibing himself with little sleep and a cold), feeling inspired by the witnessing what was happening within myself - and feeling all the more lighter.

Having fallen out from my morning & daily routine (morning reading/writing and daily doses of inspiration/teachings of spiritual and Universal principles) and my exercise routine, not to mention healthy eating, I was feeling a bit depleted.  The holidays came and I jumped on the carpet ride for a week or two - a fun one but getting off had me feeling off-kilter.

So, my savvy friends, I sat down this morning to a cup of coffee and Esther and Jerry Hicks “Ask & It is Given” before my workout.   I soaked up some pages and felt like I had been reunited with an old friend, and made a mental note to blog this little gem to you today, to share the love.

And that is, “When you think about the WHY you want something, you usually soften resistance, but when you think about the WHEN or HOW or WHO, you often add resistance, especially if you do not already know the answers to those questions.”

Resistance is that low-energy, low-vibe state….it manifests as negative feelings, and results in the bad behavior or avoidance that we do that depletes our energy and well-being, rather than adding to it.  So, to guage if you are resisting, notice how you are feeling.  This is the Attraction-Dial. You crank up the dial and increase your vibration and Attraction by up-ing your feelings.  Low and negative feelings attract like-results in people and situations.  Like attracts like in Attraction.

Keep going back to the WHY as you write those 2009 intentions, goals and dreams.   Focusing on the HOW, WHO or WHEN can shut you down, and shut off the valve of feel-good vibes that up your Attraction levels.

As far as the WHO, WHEN, HOW,  maintain a framework of expectation, and let go of the fixation.   Focusing on these only invite doubt and fear to join you, resulting in low-vibe, same results experiences.  As we take inspired actions, these things unfold without us needing to attempt to CONTROL or ORCHESTRATE them - we can’t.   However, YES, we must mingle inspired actions with this focus of the outcome, keeping in touch with the WHY - what these new experiences and changes will bring to us  - how they will add to our well-being.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friends,

I gratefully stumbled across a few people in 2008 who have continued to inspire me as I pursue my own business doing what I love,  one of which is David Neagle.  David teaches about Universal laws and principles and delivers the material in such a simple yet profound manner.   Sign up for his newsletter and see if he resonates with you.

I want to share with you this, taken from his most recent newsletter:

“For many, 2008 was a year of great challenges, heartaches and disappointments.

But if we look for the truth, we see that wherever there is severe disappointment there exists simultaneously an equal and opposite blessing.

In 2008, I recognize this blessing as the emergence of an incredible breakthrough in human consciousness and awareness.

Upon reflection, if you remember 2008 as a year of struggle and disappointment, I invite you to consider ALL experiences are meant to encourage your spiritual growth.

With the closing of 2008 at hand, understanding the importance of what we have experienced this past year positions us to experience 2009 as the most amazing year yet.

Don’t believe that the best days are in the past.

Believe that your best days are NOW, and yet to come.

Love the people that are around you with all of your heart, and meditate upon who YOU want to BE over the next 12 months.

Who you’re going to be this year versus last year is a choice that only you can make, Leslie.

Make a decision that you will treat yourself better than you ever have before this coming year and commit to see only greatness in yourself and in all those around you.

This is the greatest gift that you will ever give yourself.

And, it is also the greatest gift you can give to the world.”

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

This is always something that is “up” for me, and it’s in the middle of my work with clients.  It’s responsible for the results that we receive in our lives.  Our minds.  Our thinking.  What we allow in.  The nutrients that we feed it.

You’ve seen me write a lot about mind-set, and my clients experience my focus on it in our work together.  I recently re-read some old journals from years back, and low and behold - as I worked on shifting out of corporate and ending a toxic relationship with a boyfriend, along with attracting more opportunity into my life - what was changing within me was my mind-set.  What makes all the difference with this is sustainability.  Protecting your focus, your intentions, your vision and your thinking.

Ways to do this:

1. Surround yourself with like-minded people, and decrease time with the rest.

2. Keep your environment positive, including what you listen to (audios instead of random radio) and what you read.

3. Take time to connect to your vision - your desires - your dreams - EVERYDAY (see a prior blog post on Mind Movies).

4. Do whatever it takes to BELIEVE. You must have belief.  Fear and doubt are everywhere, and they destroy the thinking and mind-set that’s required to live the life of your dreams.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I went to a Holiday party last night with my husband.  It was one of those gatherings where there was a magnetic buzz and energy in the room (as a coach I’m trained to notice such - we call it “Level 3 listening”), and despite a high noise level and somewhat crowded conditions, I managed to have great conversations and connections with friends and first-time meetings. 

I’m most certain that the outcome for me - I felt so filled up coming home (and not from food or wine, although that was certainly yummy!) - was due in part to the energy and mind-set that I went to the party with. I had expected it to be great, yet not in a way of putting my expectations on a string around my neck which would read, “Meet these, please.”  No, it was an intention that I had had (and I’m not quite sure why), and then simply let go of.   It rested somewhere in the background, kind of like creating a lovely table setting for dinner vs. grabbing paper towels for napkins as you make your way over with the food.

But I digress, as the reason I write about this this morning is about something else, which does relate to the outcome of my evening.

That is the topic of JOY.   And the feminine.  Women being JOYOUS.  Do you know that it is our birthright to be JOYOUS?   That we, as women, are meant to experience and through that, spread JOY to others?

Walking in the door, I met up with a friend I hadn’t seen in some time.  I knew that she had been back and forth with a man that’s been in her life for years, and that recently the relationship had ended.  We spoke of it, and she told me of the struggle, and now of what she is up to, including losing extra weight she felt she was carrying while she was unhappy.   She looked radiant.  When we had hugged hello, I could feel her JOY.  Yes, it was tinged with other things - transition, being with ‘what is’ (a love was changing form, no longer her boyfriend), giddiness about new possibilities.  But, the JOY of standing in her truth and facing it, and living life was palpable.  Call it a more subtle , quiet JOY - but it was JOY.

Later, I saw a few women that I hadn’t seen in some time.  We were catching up, being silly and at times laughing loudly.  I noticed that a few men nearby couldn’t take their eyes off of us.  Another man, and friend of my husbands, later told me how nice it is to watch and listen to women laughing together.

We were JOYOUS.  Women have a way of being JOYOUS together that is SO attractive, SO contagious, SO necessary. 

And, we can also be JOYOUS alone - just with and being ourselves.  When a woman feels joyous she has a lightness to her walk and to her face.  It truly attracts the world - plants, animals, children, men, women.  This AUTHENTIC JOY is what truly moves mountains, amongst all the rest.

Please remember to fill yourself up with JOY on a regular basis.  Take inventory of what you can be grateful for if you are questioning what you can feel JOYOUS about.   The simple things truly bring us the greatest JOY.  If you have women in your life, connect with them on a regular basis.  If you don’t, make it a goal to change that and cultivate connections with other women.  This is an important part of cultivating and replenishing the feminine within us - being around other women and being JOYOUS together.

It is so contageous, so magnetic, so attractive.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Recently a client of mine was ‘dumped’.  I’m using quotes because I just struggle with that word sometimes,  and I have saved clients (and myself!!) from marinating in that “I was dumped” perspective by offering them this one instead:  “Rejection” is G-d’s protection.  (Insert : Universe, Source, Divine).   You know how it is, you look back and you thank G-d that you were, indeed, ‘dumped’.  Dodged a bullet, in many cases.

But, that doesn’t take away from the sting, and my client “Jane” was definitely allowing herself to feel the fullness of the sting, and beating herself up in the process.  However, with her own awareness, our coaching, and the caring & clear-headed voices of those who cared about her chiming supportively in -  Jane slowly began to get back to life.  She made plans again and began to keep herself busy.

After a long weekend away, she called me for our session and told me that ‘Brian’ had called her.  But he didn’t leave a message.

“He called me!  But, there wasn’t a message.  Well, in fact, my phone had fallen at the sink area of my hair salon and no one found it for days - oddly -  so he could have kept trying me all weekend but my cell was dead when I picked it up on Tuesday.  Maybe he tried me 10 times?  I have no idea. Ok, he probably didn’t.  He probably just pocket-dialed me by accident.”

Jane didn’t, and wouldn’t, know - unless Brian contacted her again.  So, she painfully waited.  She weighed her options and desperately wanted to call him, but she used her own discipline and the voice of reason (yours truly) to remember this truth:  She wanted a partner. She wanted a man who could meet her on the levels she was ready to be met on - someone who would celebrate her as she him.  Brian had (sadly) shown himself to not be that man.  And, I reminded her, this only meant she was closer to the man who would. 

I don’t believe that Brian has tried to contact my client Jane again.  Maybe he did just happen to pocket-dial her that day.  Or maybe he was feebly reaching out to her.  Either way, Jane knows that each day that she focuses on who she is, all that she has and what she wants - and not on what is seemingly lacking in her life - she is a day stronger, wiser, richer, and more hope-filled.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I’m re-reading a book of Marianne Williamson’s right now, called “Enchanted Love: The Mystical Power of Intimate Relationships.”  I keep coming across these excerpts and little golden nuggets that I have saved and carried with me for years now, since first reading the book.

There’s so much to share here (you’ll have to pick up a copy for yourself) but today what resonates with me is this piece below about staying on our own side of the ‘net’ in a relationship; staying largely in our feminine.  Learning how to receive what we need and not trying to make it happen out of desperation, whether it is being courted or working through an issue.  

I think about a good friend who recently lost a romance, and she agonizes over how she reached over in with her masculine too much and the bloom wilted.    I think about my own relationship, and how I am faced with an issue that keeps me on my toes in terms of staying on my own side of the net in the ‘ match ‘ right now.  It’s challenging at times as I want to reach over and use my masculine to ‘fix’ or ‘control’ or ‘change’ what I cannot.  I must remain true to myself in my feminine and allow for the process to unfold where I can receive what I need.  Just as my friend wanted to receive being courted, but staying in her masculine too much had her courting him, however unconscious it was at the time for her - which it largely was.

“Only a woman with high standards, who has no interest in anything but the most adult interaction between a man and a woman, has the capactiy to inspire a man to learn how to act like one.  A man will not be attracted, or at least he will not remain attracted, to a woman who emotionally tries to do the work for him, because in his heart what he wants most is the experience of his own manhood.”

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com