Dear Savvy Woman,

For years I was inspired by the regular newsletters that Debbie Ford sent out, and as I was doing some planning for my upcoming Boot Camp event, I read through a few that I have archived.   This today is the first of a two-part entry that I want to share with you.

“Withholding acknowledgement from yourself, minimizing your gifts, and projecting your greatness onto others are all forms of self-abuse. So I ask you, what would it take to acknowledge this and to penetrate the defense mechanisms that guard your heart?

For each of us, I believe it takes a shift in perception where we truly understand that there is no more time. It’s not going to happen next week, or next month, or next year. We cannot wait for things to get better, because they won’t while we’re still beating ourselves up emotionally and psychologically! And how CAN it get better if we surround ourselves with others who aren’t in the presence of our greatness and are not willing to see the greatness in themselves?

We have to set a new standard for ourselves where loving-kindness, compassion and acceptance replace judgment, ridicule and rejection.  We have to demand a higher level of cared, respect and emotional integrity from ourselves, and then look for friends and a community that hold us there.”

Amen.

The gap between who I am today and who I was five years ago (heck, even last year) is due to what I decided to give to myself.

Decide to give to yourself.

Join me at my Savvy Woman’s Boot camp – a retreat here in San Francisco this Saturday, January 31^st – and decide to lay the foundation for a year and life unlike that which you’ve known before.

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

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Dear Savvy Sister,

Don’t for a minute doubt that where you are is where you will always be, or that you can’t have experiences beyond your wildest dreams.

Our doubts begin to creep in (and creep UP) the moment we start to step out more into our light.  It’s that inner critic that says, “Who are you foolin?”  “Why would it get better than this – be grateful for what you already have, gf.”  “Who are YOU?”.

Often, we don’t even know we’re doing this. 

Are you feeling:

-Tired of the same, ‘ol – same ‘ol?  BORED.

-Hesitant of trying somthing NEW, depsite the craving for it?   Ie.:  New style, Online dating, New work, New way of Being in the world

- Like you’re playing ‘small’, but don’t know the HOW? of playing the bigger game you so desire

This Saturday I’m hosting my first Boot Camp in Ft. Mason, where we’ll spend the day working on creating a blue print for LOVE & SUCCESS in 2009.    This day will help you to see that the world is truly your oyster, and give you some incredibly valuable exercises that help you create a Vision that pulls you forward into what you desire.

We can live in a  continuous flow of Well-Being, and yet it’s easy to feel very disconnected from that, and just look for evidence that supports otherwise.  Remember, whatever we believe to be true, we very easily find evidence that supports that.

Enroll in my Savvy Woman’s Boot Camp today!  You’ll be inspired and equiped to have a year unlike any other!

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From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

The Feeling of a Pure Desire Feels Good To You

“Unfortunately, many people think that the uncomfortable feeling of wanting something they do not expect to experience is what the feeling of desire is;  they no longer recognize the feeling of pure desire as that fresh, eager, feeling of expectancy that they knew when they were younger.  The feeling of pure desire is always delicious, as it represents the vibrations that are stretched out before you into your unseen future, preparing the way for the Law of Attraction to match things up on your behalf.”

-Ask & It is Given: Learning to manifest your Desires, by Esther & Jerry Hicks

From my savvy & desiring heart, to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

In honor of Dr. Martin Luther King Day …

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Hate multiplies
hate, violence multiplies violence, and toughness multiplies toughness in a descending spiral of destruction….The chain reaction
of evil–hate begetting hate, wars producing more wars–must be broken, or we shall be plunged into the dark abyss of
annihilation.”    -   Martin Luther King, Jr., Strength To Love, 1963

We can equate darkness to prejudice, terrorism, violence – all that we witness and experience as manifestation of individual and collective dark thoughts.

This great man fought against so much.  He had such bravery , and such vision.

You and I live in such different times.  Imagine what he was up against. I simply CAN NOT.  

Stop for a moment and think about that.   It is so incredibly HUMBLING, isn’t it? 

Sometimes it may feel as if you’re up against SO MUCH.  What you desire feels so far out of reach.  Your reality may seem so  vastly different from that of your dreams. 

 I certainly have my moments…

It seems that we as individuals – and particularly as women – create these horrible thoughts against ourselves (even if they’re little tiny ones, subtle…)  and these thoughts can turn into self-sabotaging acts, and acts against others – that take us so FAR away from our purpose of being in an abundance of JOY and WELL-BEING.    It begins with our thoughts. 

Which leads me to another quote of MLK’s that I stumbled upon, which I loved…

“We must combine the toughness of the serpent and the softness of the dove, a tough mind and a tender heart.”   -Martin Luther King, Jr., Strength to Love, 1963.

From my savvy – and tender  – heart, to yours ~Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Almost as good (depending on personal preference) as receiving Daily Candy is receiving a Daily Affirmation.  Imagine FREE Coaching, just dropped into your Inbox every morning, before you wipe your eyes and slip out of bed to start the day.

It’s actually a great ‘structure’ (coach speak for ritual, or place holder) for me to center my thoughts and myself as I get into my day.  Some days, when I’m really tired, stressed or some other version of not feeling my Best Self,  I reach over for my Blackberry after waking up and scroll to find the Daily Affirmation.  It gets the party started on those days.  I value this little structure so much I’m inspired to add it on to my website for those who want to sign up and receive daily thoughts from Moi.

I happened upon Laura Fenamore’s site when I met her at CTI, the coaching school I attended, and I’ve been receiving her daily messages for years now.

Passing on the love with today’s brilliant message….

Today I release any feelings I have to compete with others or compare myself to others knowing that that leads me to pain not joy (which is what I really want).

So true.  As I say to my clients often, “comparison kills”.   It kills your mind-set and potentially, your self-esteem.  And it kills romance in dating and relationship.  It kills the energy & opportunity for connecting on a first date.  Even if it’s never acted on, but just sits…lingering in your thoughts.  

Here is to your Unique Brilliance. 

And to Joy. 

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Lou can make your day!

  From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

We get bombarded with ideas on how to be sexy, and there’s a tremendous amount of pressure put upon us.  The right hair, clothes, lingerie…these can all contribute to feeling and looking sexy -no doubt.  And, there’s also SO MUCH to tap into that you already embody and own.  Sometimes we just forget, or we get ideas in our heads of ‘all that we should or have to do’ to be Sexy.  Not true. 

The thing is, there are SO many ways that you can connect to your essence and bring out the natural, feminine glow  = Sexy glow , that you’re designed to exude in a quick, simple, and no-cost way.  As I write this, I realized that I left the biggest one off my list : self-pleasure. 

Absolutely, do this on a regular basis.  It doesn’t cost anything, and it’s quick (if it’s not, you can discover how to be!)  Aside from that, I’ve listed here some things that work for me and my clients, to shift out of ‘Do-mode’ and drop into ‘Be-ing’. Drop into Sexy.

You’re date picks up your energy.  We can tell when someone is stressed, uptight, insecure, or rushed.   What does it do to us?  It puts us off.  We get uncomfortable.    This isn’t what you want to exhibit or contribute on a date.  Our society might value this do-do-do, ‘make it happen’-lifestyle, but if you’re looking to connect with a guy and find a great intimate relationship, you have to invite that in.

You might wonder how some of these add to your Sexy-factor, but trust me, they do. Sexy isn’t sexy unless it’s authentic.  We can tell when some one’s trying to hard. Despite going through the ‘right’ motions, it ends up being repelling, isn’t it? 

These are simple, quick, and low-to-zero cost:

• Step into a pair of gorgeous, sexy heels and wear them as you’re getting ready in the morning.
• Put an extra 5 minutes beyond ’normal’ to tend to your appearance in the morning: make-up, style your hair, put on body lotion, perfume. Care and attention makes you feel beautiful to YOU, and others pick up that energy.
• Make a conscious effort to walk just a little slower – with body awareness - and smile at everyone you pass by, even if you don’t feel like it.  Fake it til you make it, if necessary.  It will work.
• Light candles and play your favorite music for yourself as you prepare to go out.  Seduce yourself.
• Add to your outfit with a hint of color, jewelry, different shoes – before segueing from office -to – date.  This tells yourself, and your date, that the work hat is off – you’re back to being a soft and receptive woman. 
• Take 5 minutes to relax before running to your date straight from work.  Take some deep breathes, paint your nails, listen to music on your Ipod.  Notice the sunset or watch the rain.  Get out of your head and become more present to yourself and who you engage with.
• Focus on who you are authentically BEING with your date.  Be interested. Be open. Be yourself. Be present to simply what is – you’re connecting with another human being – not on ‘what may be’. 
• Slow down.  Slow your mind.  Slow down how you move.  Slow your speech.  This relaxes you & whoever you’re with.  It creates room for more presence & is very inviting.
• Take the pressure off.  The more present you stay to yourself and to your date, the more opportunity there is to notice if there is a connection.  Stop sizing him up, sizing yourself up, future-thinking.
• Mix it up.  I notice a lot of singles have ‘their place’ for meeting dates – same bar, restaurant, coffee shop.  Vary it.  Don’t get in too much of a routine for convenience-sake.  It can impact the energy for both yourself and the date you’re going on.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

If I boil down everything that I have learned through personal experience , study , and years of work with clients – in manifesting desires and creating the life of one’s dreams – it all comes down to one word:  BELIEVE.

Believe it’s possible.   Believe you can go where you haven’t gone before. Believe you can have what you desire (if you couldn’t, it wouldn’t manifest within you as a desire in the first place).  Believe you can start again.  Believe you can reinvent yourself – over and over and over. 

One powerful way to harness Belief is to IMAGINE.  It’s actually imperative to tap into your imagination to create new desires, to raise your vibration to match those desires by way of Believing It’s Possible, Imagining yourself Being, Doing, and Having said desires as if they’ve arrived in your life,  and Expecting them to be on their way to you.   

By tapping into Imagination ,  Belief becomes more of a reality and replaces older vibrations of negative thoughts, doubt, fear and judgments.  

Without belief, we get more of the same.  We prove ourselves right - “It’s not possible to meet a soulmate’ because we didn’t BELIEVE.   Whatever we believe to be true, we naturally scan for evidence to support ourselves – and we will be successful.

Without tapping into your IMAGINATION, it’s challenging to create and harness Belief.

IMAGINE yourself with your man, as if he has already arrived in your life  (if he hasn’t already) – what are you doing together?  How does it FEEL – feeling into the vision and image creates a new vibration within you and is very powerful.  We often stumble all over the ‘details’ and what’s much more important here is to FEEL into the energy of the connection.  The Universe takes care of the details, and knows better than you what’s in your highest good – brown hair vs. ‘silver fox’ doesn’t make a relationship ( I know! :)) Allow yourself to let go of superficial details, and tap into the feeling-tone of how you feel with him.

Imagine living the life of your desires.  What are you doing?  Who are you doing it with?  What does it FEEL like? 

Write it down.  Play a Movie in your mind (see my prior blog posting on Mind Movies – create one within your imagination – it’s FREE).   Create a Vision Board. 

Believe me – these all work.

IMAGINE…

From my savvy heart to yours,

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I’ve created the results that I’ve desired in my life by focusing on them – as if they were already in my life.  What we focus on increases – have you heard that before?  If you’ve followed any of my work, I know that you have! :)   As humans, we can all waver with this, even if we are pretty well studied here and have witnessed our lives change as a result of this Universal principle and Truth.  We must continue to manage, with greater and greater proficiency, the gap between who we BE in the here and now, and who we actually ARE – as divine beings.

When I was single – which, marrying at 36, means I had a good long time of dating and relationships before I met my husband – I for a very long time was focused on LACK.  If I was without a date or without a boyfriend, I was frequently coming from a place of ‘less-than’ or ‘not enough’, because I was fixed on what was missing and what I wanted that wasn’t ‘here’ yet.

Are you that woman?  Do you constantly look to what you don’t have and look at your friends and strangers and imagine that they are in utopia and complete, while you are in LACK?   I understand – I’ve been there.  As humans, we can all struggle with this when we want something (relationship, fitness, wealth, adventure) and it’s not ‘here’ yet.

You might not see that you are that woman, because to yourself and from the outside you’re ‘living the good life’.  But are you buying it?  What are you telling yourself?   Are you telling yourself you’re ‘bad’ and ‘unwanted’ if your date doesn’t ask you out again, or you find yourself out of relationship for months or years?  

What completely changed my personal life, largely by what vibration I was in, was what I focused on.  When I started to really , REALLY focus on what my heart DESIRED, life changed – dramatically.   Life got FUN and it FLOWED.  It wasn’t seamless from the ‘outside’, but it felt seamless on the inside.  I had to let go of a lot – what it was that i “thought’ I wanted and more so, what I had known, and who I had been.   I stepped into a larger version of me by focusing on what I wanted, BEFORE the proof that it existed showed up.   THAT IS THE KEY.

1.   Stop focusing on what you don’t want.  Careful here - you might not think that you’re doing this, especially if you’re busy, ‘happy’, etc –  so take an honest look at your thoughts.    “I don’t want to be single at 40, 50, 60″…….  are you running that story in your mind? 

2.   Start focusing on what you do want,  and acting as if it’s already here (  and it is, but you have to raise to the vibration for it to be received into your life.   Are you currently vibrating at ‘it’s not here!’ ‘i’m alone – still!’ ‘men suck!’ ‘there’s no available men in San Francisco!’).

3. Your attraction-gauge operates based on your emotions.  If you are feeling good (by thinking good thoughts) , and focused on what it is you desire, your vibration will change to the frequency by which your desire is vibrating, and you will attract it in.  Let go of the HOW and the SHOULDS, and focus on how you are FEELING and BEING, resting in patient EXPECTENCY. 

In good vibes and with love and gratitude,

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Have you written down any New Years Resolutions yet?  Whether you have or haven’t, with this process comes often the thoughts and feelings of whether or not these will be met , and so can begin the little trickle of fear and doubt that sets in on or before you’ve begun.  Yikes.  We can just avoid the entire exercise, but in order to get results, we must begin to get clear about what we want – and write it down

I want to share with you what I did to capture in my mind and on paper my intentions for this 2009 yeer:  A Letter of Gratitude.    Taken from Christine Kloser,  I wrote down a letter to the Universe from the perspective of December 31st, 2009.   The year was closing.  What was I grateful for that had transpired over the year?  What had I attracted, what had manifested, what had changed?  

Take just 5 minutes and write down all that comes to you – not listening to the HOW?  WHO?  but just flowing in the stream of gratitude and expectation.  Take note of if the HOW and WHO pops up – if it doesn’t then you’re not playing BIG enough, and yet you must let go of the HOW and WHO as it comes in, as that isn’t your concern at this writing.   This is to set intention, vision and WANTS.

Then, find some beautiful paper and font, and print it out and post it several places around your home and office.  Read it regularly to remind yourself of what you are setting as intention this year.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com