Dear Savvy Woman,

Are you ready to make a L-E-A-P?

If you’re single , don’t miss my tele-class happening TONIGHT:

3 Key Steps to ATTRACT Real Love

These steps will not only make you feel more confident – no matter where you are in the process – but they’ll help you SAVE TIME and bring more EASE to dating and relating.   I promise. 

Not single?  Unless you’re in utopia (which we know is never a permanent state), call in and discover that you can apply these keys over and over again to make YOU and your relationship ROCK even more.  

Time:  5pm Pacific,  7pm Central, 8pm Eastern

Call #:   218.339.4600

Access Code:  264593#

Talk soon!

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.om

PS. Got Questions?  Please post them here or contact me to get them answered here or on the call.

Dear Savvy Woman,

We can all wonder if we’re learning what we’re suppose to be learning on this journey in life.   I know for myself, sometimes it feels like I’m not learning when I’m stuck in a pattern and I’m wondering ‘where it is’ if it’s a manifestation, or, when I seemingly take steps backward and find myself in a ‘situation’ that’s undesirable.

The thing is, the soul doesn’t go backwards.  Our soul accumulates our life experiences, and although from the ‘outside’, it might appear that we’re slipping backwards, our soul knows.  Our soul has a life map, which includes some contract agreements with others, and experiences in life that we’re meant to have in this lifetime.

Talking with a savvy woman recently, she was looking at a love that was no longer and looking deeply at the fact that it seemed as if ‘He’ was a soul mate.  A Soul Love.  And so if so, now what?  Understanding that we come into this lifetime with soul contracts and that we learn from everyone, and everything, I offerred her the perspective and truth that the soul doesn’t go backward.  That despite it feeling like ‘he was it’ and the pain seems unbareable, there IS a greater plan.  

Sometimes we’re in so much pain we’re not ready to receive this, and this falls on deaf ears.  She was able to receive this, she already knew.  But it was helpful to her, she said, to be reminded of this Truth.  This Truth can be the net that catches you when you’re falling into the seemingly dark abyss.  The beauty here, is that if you can lean into this Truth more, it allows you to loosen the ‘where is it’ or ‘why’ grip more, and you become increasingly Present in the moment and to your life.  More and more possibility and opportunity live in this special place.

Then, next time around, the relationship, the job you take, the experience you have with someone’s illness – whatever the situation be – you bring to it the richness of your soul’s knowing.  And as always is the case, eventually you can *see* the ‘why’ that your heartache, or pain, or denial didn’t allow you to see at the time.  That is, if you are awake to your soul and to the greater unfolding of your life, some of which was already mapped out before you were born.

Isn’t it amazing?

Lots of love,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I’ve been receiving your requests for addressing topics, so I’m adding a feature to my regular newsletter (are you signed up?  go here: www.BeLoveSavvy.com/articles.htm and sign up now). Please send me your questions!  ’Anna’ below, wrote about addressing Jealousy & Resentment, and just in case she’s not on my list (Anna, I hope you are!), I’m posting my response where I know she’ll see it.

Dear Leslie,

…I feel like I’ve been so disappointed and almost resentful of the experiences that I’ve had with men in my recent past. I want to let go of the bitterness and jealousy that I know is poisoning my mind and body, but I find it so difficult to get past certain experiences that have left that bad taste in my mouth.  I find myself thinking about my previous relationship, jealous of his new found love. Find myself unsatisfied with my “friends with benefits”. Resentful that he won’t give me what I’m looking for, and even worse, that he has me in a queue with a number of different women…

Thank you so much for your words,

‘Anna’

Dear ‘Anna’,

I can feel your pain, and, I can also feel the anger you hold toward yourself that’s underneath.  I’m going to cut to the chase: whenever we hold resentment towards another, we’re only holding ourselves hostage – NOT them. It’s a victim stance, which will only attract more opportunities that allow you to continue playing ‘victim’ – which I know is not  what you want to create in your life.  Jealousy is like eating a refined-carb breakfast, where as Envy is protein-rich. Jealousy is a toxic emotion and drains your energy, where as Envy is a healthy indicator of desire: something that you yourself want to have, do or be.  And – the very cool thing is – you won’t authentically desire what you aren’t able to experience for yourself!  Here are some transformative steps to take that will un-clutter your heart and mind, and move you forward:

1)      Decide. Decide to let go and forgive. Forgive yourself.  Forgive your ex.  Forgive your FWB. Forgive everyone. Write it all out, anything  & everything that you’re feeling and holding on to.  Then burn it (safely) and toss it. This ritual shows both you and the Universe that you’re clear, decisive, and ready.

2)     Burn the ships = Cut off your FWB’s. They’re taking up precious space and the relationships are making you feel like crap – far from feeling honored, adored, respected and cherished.

3)     Love yourself up! Take a minimum of 21 days (makes a habit).  Cocoon yourself  with daily gestures that authentically soothe, like:  baths, flowers, walks, music, candles, dark chocolate, a good cry, a nice glass of wine, morning affirmations, delicious tea, good girl-time, a new lipstick. This changes your energy while creating excellent self-care.

Believe. And Trust. Trust in the greater good – what’s in divine design for YOU – because it’s unfolding, always.  Please stay in touch and let us know how you loved yourself up!

With love,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

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Dear Savvy Woman,

I wonder what this world would be like if we all had a little more compassion for ourselves and for each other? I think we’re dipping out toe in – collectively – as anyone who had any money in the stock market got a slap in the face, as well as tremendous amounts of people have lost or are losing their jobs and sometimes their entire career-long industry…

We’re all in this experience together.

Compassion softens us. It softens our resistance.  Our ego and defenses get a big Hug.  An ‘it’s ok… you can take a break. No need to stand guard 24/7.’

Compassion is SO attraction-rich.   It feels counter-intuitive if your thinking mind (Ego) is in survival-mode and heavily marinating in the scarcity-thinking tank.  It makes us receptive.  It opens up opportunity to connect. To get real. To reveal. To be seen and to see. People attract and connect. Relationships blossom.

I recently had several high school folks  – people I knew in high school ;-) – write me after connecting on FB – about how I always was nice to them and that they appreciated it.  High school can be such an awkward and impressionable time in life, can’t  it?  Receiving this touched my heart.  See, I was one of those girls who hung out in the ‘in crowd’, yet I was so dis-empowered inside that I didn’t pursue things like song-girl ( i secretly longed to perform & dance and love now watching So You Think You Can Dance) or traveling with the French class abroad.  Things that my spirit longed for.  My family was doing the best they could but we had dysfunction and – back then - I thought I might be the ‘only’ one.  And, that pain I carried around with me gave me compassion and connection with others that might not look or act like me on the ‘outside’.  (The movie,’ The Moses Code’, is a great movie to watch on this theme – sort of The Secret-ish).

If we all wake up, or dig deep, we can all get in touch with that place inside that feels humbled, that feels pain or sorrow or heart-ache. Connecting to our human condition reminds us that we’re all in this together…that constant competition is NOT the winning state of being….and that softening up can actually bring you into more awareness, which leads to more confidence and personal power.  It can feel so uncomfortable to go there, yet when you do you not only awaken a part of yourself but you can bridge that to help others.  Help yourself, help others – and along the way – relationships - and life get fuller, deeper, richer and more alive.  

Now, how attraction-rich is that?

With love,

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

Dear Savvy Woman,

I’m going to be interviewed this morning at 10am Pacificon BlogTalkRadio by lifestyle expert and coach Leslie Gayle on the topic of Attracting New Love.

If you’re single and looking for insight & inspiration, or in a relationship & frustrated, tune in today as we talk about steps to take to INVEST IN YOURSELF, because

LOVE is an INSIDE JOB.

And, our RELATIONSHIPS are only as healthy as WE are.

I’d love to hear from you today as we’ll be taking Q&A.

Call in #: 347.327.9015

Live Stream & Replay:  http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Leslie-Gail

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

By now you know that I do follow Astrological happenings – I’ve actually become much more attracted to planetary transits and what they bring, than I have the ‘What’s your sign?’ stuff – which I use to be *ruled* by, or so it felt.

So today I had a huge Mercury Retrograde *slap* in the face when my tele-class was in the works for a 10am start, and I could not, for the life of me, get on the line.  This is the second time , in only a matter of about 5 total calls I’ve held thus far in my BeLoveSavvy.com career, that this has happened to me.  I’ll place bets the last was in a Merc Retrograde, i’m curious to look back now…

So my aunt, who is a wonderful therapist and Savvy Woman, had told me yesterday that she wanted to make the call… and she poked me at 5 after the hour with a ‘where are you – we’re sitting here on the line wondering where you are…’.  Needless to say, it can feel quite frustrating to be caught by  Mercury Retrograde.  Things un-explainably may happen in a seemingly negative fashion with your computer, car, communications, contracts – all these things can suddenly have odd ‘issues’.     I had all the right call -in information this morning for me to get on the call line as the ‘Host’ – yet it wasn’t working.  5 tries and 2 phones later, I finally got on, a little frazzled.

I read that all the “Re’s” are what you must take-in and surround yourself with during this 3-week period (that I believe ends somewhere around the 27th of May),  such as:

• REvise
• REpair
• REview
• REconnect
• REevaluate and
• REdo
• REnew

“They” say don’t launch anything major, don’t sign anything that’s significant, and take lots of time for things and have a back-up plan.

Just a little FYI from a believer. ;-)

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Whether you’re single, married or dating – no matter what the status of you’re relationship, no doubt the tool of Visualizing will change your life – it has mine.  Over, and over, and over again (it works wonders when I’m in an argument with my love).

Visualizing is one of the most powerful things that you can do to create change and bridge your reality over to the place of your dreams. Dating the wrong men? In an unhappy relationship?  Is your marriage suffering? Are you simply feeling dried up and exhausted? Not only has this done wonders for me in my love life, but I can look at other important things in my life -  changing careers, giving important presentations at work, working to get in shape at the gym, and even a most recent television appearance – and the success of these all were the result of a  common denominator: Visualizing.

Years ago when I was between boyfriends, a very wise & savvy friend and I were talking about love and live, and she struck a chord with me when she asked me to ‘feel in’ to what I wanted in a relationship.  ‘Picture in your mind the two of you hanging out – what are you doing together?’  Then I was even more blown away when she again asked me to feel in to (through a Vision – a picture in my mind) things like the way we communicated  – to identify what the feeling-tone was of that – fiery? Clear? Soft & cozy? Expansive & accepting?   

Months before I met my husband, I surprised myself when I was talking with producers of the reality show, “How To Get The Guy’ that was being filmed in San Francisco (but that’s a story for another blog) , and in our discussion it came to my awareness that I had held this Vision in my mind of my future  husband and I having black & white photographs hung in our hallway, particularly of us with our baby.  Now, I wasn’t a girl who had lots of specifics as to details of what her future life would look like, but that image popped up and had served – in some ways unbeknownst to me – as a guide post as I dated. Today Larry and I do have some black and whites of us hung in our hallway, and I smile as I connect the dots back to my Vision.

Another very powerful personal example on Visioning : I spent time one weekend by myself – my first trip with no companion and not work-related – walking the beach in Del Mar, CA and soaking up the gorgeous hotel and pool I was staying at. I journaled, I walked , I shopped – it was a healing time for me after a relationship ended and I had left a job to pursue a coaching career.  I walked the beach every day and visualized my future life – specifically my future husband and marriage. I felt into (via a vision) our communication, how we spent time, the energy of him – and of us.  Unbeknownst to Larry, he proposed to me on that very beach, under the Moonlight, less than 2 years later (but who was counting?).  This still gives me the chills and sweetly reminds me how we live in a magical Universe, if we can only remember to see it that way and Believe.

I’m so passionate about this powerful tool and I teach my clients to use it successfully in their own lives.  It’s so simple, it can be quick and it’s *Free* to boot.  What more could you love about a tool that expands your reality and allows your dreams to unfold, seemingly effortlessly? (Stay tuned for Pt. 2 of this blog where I’ll speak more to this last statement)

Here’s some steps to the “How”:

1. Choose a Visioning medium that comes most easiest for you to ensure regular use & success.   Is it playing a ‘mind movie’? Is it making a Vision box or board?  Is it writing it down?  Maybe all three – but whatever you do, decide to do it, begin, and tap into it regularly – even for just a minute or two.

2. You must shut down your thinking/ego mind while you’re doing this.  That’s the mind that has you perhaps looking to poke holes in this concept, to censure what you’re visioning, to tell you you’re doing it ‘wrong’.   THERE IS NO WRONG WAY. Trust your inner guidance.

3. Get yourself into a relaxed state for a few minutes before you begin steps 1 and 2.  Listen to a favorite song first, laugh at a funny show or joke, move your body.  Get your energy flowing downstream to open up creativity and connect to your inner navigation system – your heart & energy system – that connects easily to Truth and the magical Universe.

Stay tuned for Part 2 – what is ‘happening’ when we regularly Vision & how does this help us take inspired action?  

With love and Universal blessings,

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com