Dear Savvy Woman,

Sometimes I have too many ideas on what to write about.  Today, what kept coming back in to my thoughts was the struggle that we can have when we’re ‘cleaning house’ – making changes – in our lives, because this process and space can be really, really UNCOMFORTABLE at times.  

If you look at this on the level of the world – ie. our Global Economy, and our national ‘j-0-b’ market, there’s been a lot of ‘cleaning house’ – hasn’t there?  A forced cleaning. And we, right now, are sitting in that uncomfortable place, watching to see what’s created as our economy slowly rebounds and with that, Corporate America begins to respond and begins to hire again.

In a similar fashion, yet often by choice, we as individuals have to say ‘NO’ to things to create the space for the ‘YES’s to arrive in our lives.  Sometimes that’s a person, place or thing.  AND, what I know to be true, is that we also have to look within.  We must also look at who we are BE-ing , and who we want to BEcome, in order to create the powerful shifts and results that our hearts and minds seek.  So, we have to create space by looking at ways of being within ourselves that no longer serve who we are becoming – and want to become.

For instance, a woman desires a relationship. She’s been alone for a while. She’s ready. On some level, whether conscious or unconscious, she gathers what she would absolutely love to experience in this relationship – and in life within this relationship (the YES).  Because she’s lonely, she still hooks up occasionallywithan old boyfriend, and she dates men that reveal to her red flags out the gate – and qualities that don’t align with what she desires in a partner.  The most important aspect of this behavior, though, is that she feels less-than as a result.  She’s not receiving what she desires, yet she’ll *continue* to keep company with them because the NEW hasn’t arrived, despite feeling less-than after the rendez-vous or disappointment within herself after she accepts a third date request from a mulitple red-flag guy.

It can be so difficult sometimes to say the ‘NO’ (no more…), especially when the ‘ante’ feels raised like  the example above = a longed-for relationship.

And, we can’t grow if we don’t get uncomfortable.  I use to see my own discomfort as a signal that perhaps I was heading down the wrong path.  Today I am well aware that growth – and creating what we want in life – can have times of discomfort.  Our discomfort is often a very important SIGN that we are creating space for NEW. That we’re ‘on-track’!

Here are a few things to keep in mind as you navigate this process and the sometimes-discomfort:

-  Notice if a person, place or thing feels ‘negative’, or that you might feel depleted or negative upon leaving them, it, or after a behavior of your own (like saying Yes to other’s when you want to say No).   If the answer is s a YES, then it needs to be a NO.  But what’s around the corner?  Your NO to what’s in front of you will light the way.  It’s a leap of Faith, and it will pay off in spades.

- Remember that there is a YES behind your NO – the Yes to yourself and what you’re creating.  This is huge for riding the wave of discomfort as you stay true to yourself. For example, you’ve decided that you’re not going to pursue interviewing in a particular industry (every time you do you get a big NO inside – you know it’s no longer a fit for you in a huge way).  But it’s really uncomfortable, for many reasons: a) you need a job b) it’s really easy to get interviews in this field c) your ego gets stroked because you’re experienced d) all of the above.    REMEMBER THE YES.   The YES here may be the 10+ year longed-for career change into the area that those close to you say they can see you in, and more importantly you know on some level you belong in.  The YES here is about saying YES to your dreams.  Keeping you healthier and happier. 

-Be really, REALLY kind and gentle to yourself along the way.  Self-love.  It’s the elixir of life.  The more we are accepting, nurturing, and trusting of ourselves, the easier life flows before us.  If you’re a big bad-talker of yourself, stop NOW.  Words are huge, especially those we say silently to ourselves = our thoughts.   So, be kind.  No one can love you better, nor create the life of your dreams. 

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

Discomfort is a signal to us that we’re on to something…

“Your discomfort is actually a gift from G*d.  The Universe is reminding you that there is something you believe in more than what you are currently doing, and it is steering you to your right place.  Your Higher Self is giving you clues toward the prize that awaits you when you remember your worth.  There is something that you believe in, and that is the direction in which you need to move to find real happiness.  In contrast to the sense of struggle that you experience when you deny your gifts, you will be amazed at how effortlessly and joyfully success comes to you when you step toward your heart‘s chosen field.  We never have to deny our self in order to win.”

- Alan Cohen, Dare to Be Yourself

I’ve been more and more uncomfortable recently as I’ve been in a deeper place of personal and professional growth.  I decided to become more aware of when I eat sugar, and to modify that behavior (it’s rough but rewarding! ;-), and a little won’t kill me…).  I’ve been uncomfortable as I take steps to honor my needs, despite how those around me may respond.  I’ve been uncomfortable as I step into new-to-me actions leading me toward my desires.

If we aren’t growing, we’re not fully living.  And growth is uncomfortable at times.

We can get to these plateaus and rest for a while, taking in the vistas.  But then we realize the person we’re dating or in relationship with isn’t perhaps one we should continue to be with.  We decide that we can’t stomach one more toxic conversation with someone.  Or, we listen to that inner knowing enough that’s nudging us to interview in an entirely new field –  one that’s lighting us up.

Life can get a bit uncomfortable as we listen to ourselves, honor what we’re hearing, and take actions based on faith, not fear.

So, here is to loving ourselves through the discomfort.

On the other side is peace. And *bliss*.

With love,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

I’m having so much fun with the first Success Circle coaching group – these  ladies are loving it ! After the first meeting  they were off to the races, with ‘homework’ that helps them to identify their inner knowing for more confidence, and Vision tools to step up their games! 

I wanted to make coaching (inspiration, support, accountability, feedback) accessible to all the women who are really desiring this right now, both from a time &  cost perspective.  This is why I launched the Success Circle. I also just simply love facilitating groups – it’s such a rich and rewarding experience for all.

I’ve learned personally as a member of a coaching group myself (as well as attending seminars with others) that there is always something for each of us to learn by other’s experience/questions/situation.  Something.  And often – a lot.  In my own life, I benefit greatly knowing that my call or meeting is coming up – it keeps me focused, or re-focuses me.  I feel surrounded in positive energy in those meetings.  And it gives me the support to keep going, keep believing, staying true to me.

So, I’m thrilled that a new coaching group around LOVE is forming.  Who is this for?  This is for the SINGLE women out there who are sensing that they’d benefit from some inspiration, clarity, and FUN with where they’re at.  From looking within a little bit.  This is a refreshing way of getting together with other women in ‘positive group think’ (it’s very subtle, the ‘negative group think’, but you may find yourself in it with women that you love to hang with – or that you feel you need to hang with). 

This group will hold LOVE & relationship as the main focus, and we’ll do learning topics (on things such as self-care, boundaries, a true-to-you Vision, mind-set,), and of course sharing, feedback, and accountability.  And the HUGE thing, tons of support in a safe environment to claim what you want and take steps towards it.  So powerful and life-changing!

Is this what you’ve been waiting for?   Take a peak at the Success Circle details HERE (as it’s the same format for the *LOVE* & Relationship Circle) ,  and then contact us at assist@belovesavvy.com telling us a little bit about you.

Big love,

Leslie

ps. we add new members to the Success Circle at the beginning of each month, so if this interests you, let us know!  The next Success Circle meeting will be August 5th in SF.

Dear Savvy Woman,

“Feel your power.  Feel the power of your breath. Feel the power of your sound. Feel the power of your love. Feel the power of your forgiveness. Feel the power of your willingness to change. Feel your power. You are beautiful.You are a divine, magnificent being. You deserve all good, not just some, but all good. Feel your power.  Be at peace with it, for you are safe. Welcome this new day with open arms and with love. And so it is.”

This is a meditation taken from the book, “The Power is Within You“, by Louise Hay (a magnificent woman who’s been so far ahead of her time).

How do you feel – what do you think – what do you believe – when you read this above meditation?

I work with women who are ready to create more in their lives – to expand – and to live their desires.  Sometimes it takes a while before they give themselves permission to want what they want - and to believe that it’s theirs for the making. 

Having a coach enables them to step into bigger shoes, and it starts with allowing oneself to envision it, to fully believe it (sometimes we have blocks, one or many), to receivetheir greater good (oy, is it tough for us women sometimes to receive), and to take inspired actions.

Personally, working with a coach and coaching group has not only changed my life, but it truly supports me at times when taking a step and making a change feels so SCARY, or I’m stuck (I get stuck sometimes, too) on  the HOW? on a new step, and it’s simply stopping me from taking action (also fear-based).  And sometimes, I just revel in knowing I have that call on Thursday morning with the group and I can be with others who support me in feeling my power.

I invite you to take a look at the Success Circle program that just launched. It’s all about receiving coaching, feedback & company of San Francisco women who want to feel their power – and act on it.  Women who are looking to up-level their lives and sense they would benefit from inspiration, focus and some accountability to keep them moving.  Is this you?

New members will join in on August 5th!  

Questions?  Feel free to email me directly: leslie@belovesavvy.com.

To your personal power,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

I attended a truly fabulous seminar held by self-made online vixen & millionaire Ali Brown  in Beverly Hills last week.  Ali is so inspiring for obvious reasons – she’s made a huge success of her business and she’s passionate about teaching women in particular about the possibilities and what’s theirs for the making (www.AliBrown.com).  She reminded the women attending her event last week  that the real truth in becoming your best expression of your gifts  & achieving your dreams (whatever the form) is largely about going within – something you don’t always hear regarding business-building. This  is 100% aligned with my practice and the process I take clients through in love and life coaching.

That becoming the glorious person and woman that G*d/Spirit/the Universe intended on - which you already are but might have forgotten - is largely a matter of shedding.   Shedding old beliefs, old ways of being, of doing things, old ‘identities’.  That the success that we’re wanting to take further shape in our lives – be it in relationship, health, business, life-style – is always a matter of first going within and becoming the person that your relationship, business, and  life dreams demands of you to become. The same ways of being gets us more of the same.  And if our goal is to change course, to attract a new level of success professionally and personally, well then we must look within first.  It’s not what our ego or insta-results culture supports or demands of us, yet it’s truly essential for real & lasting change. 

This Truth reminds me of another that’s related, something that Marianne Williamson says on an audio ‘Handling Fear’ – because that’s what’s at the heart of change and stepping into bigger shoes that will attract and hold our desires – FEAR – and she said that it’s our human tendency to support and gather around ‘death’, whether it’s death of a job or relationship or something else in our lives bringing pain and fear, but not to support and gather around ‘birth’.  This is the birth of who we are becoming, the birth of our desires, the birth of our greatest expression of who we are : in relationship, in career, in dreams made manifest.  The birth of our success – of who we are allowing ourselves to become.

What I know to be true of this ‘birthing’ process , personally, is that  things can get REALLY uncomfortable.  Fear is up as a constant, just as it seems to be also at ‘death’ of something.  The ‘Who Am I?’ to want….to be….to do…..that we’re attempting to step into is loud and clear in our heads.  The reality is, it can stop us dead in our tracks.  It can shut us down and cause us to waver, doubt, and sometimes give up.  And, on top of it, we might not have that many people truly supporitngus – REALLY cheering us on and celebrating us – because it can bring up the ego-fear of others, especially if they’re in a static and unhappy place with themselves.

Well, my savvy friend, I’m really thrilled to announce that a group coaching program is launching that will foster this celebration of success – who you are becoming as you progress in your business, your life-style, and your heart’s desires.  This format will deliver not only coaching, but a tribe to you of positivity, support, and accountabilty – and this will come at a fraction of my private coaching fees.  ;-)  If you’re desiring big results, set yourself up for success by focused time and an environment that will both help you stay accountable and celebrate you along the way.

The first live meeting of this Success Circle will be NEXT WEEK, July 8th, in Cow Hollow – San Francisco.  I know, that’s in less than a week. It’s happening fast, but if this is what you’ve been waiting for, don’t doubt it, just DECIDE and join us.

Format:

-Intimate, group of 10 or fewer

-2 Group Monthly Meetings:  (1) Live in person the first Wednesday of each month, and (1) phone meeting3rd week of each month.

-MP3 audio recordings sent to your inbox in case you miss a meeting, and to further your learning.

-  Coaching, regular learning topic, sharing, and accountability – all designed to keep you focused & moving.

- Some Fun and sass  along the way ,of course. ;-) 

Is this what you’ve been waiting for?  If so, the next steps are :

1)  Email me directly at leslie@belovesavvy.com, telling me a little bit about why you’re interested in joining the group. 

2) I’ll then send you the link to register, and more details for the July 8th start date!

Wishing you a very Happy 4th of July~

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com