Dear Savvy Woman,

This week I’m going to post a daily tip for single women who are seeking relationship. Next week I’m going to post daily for women in relationship.  Maybe you are somewhere in between, or you don’t know where you are.  The bottom line is my intention to communicate tools, tricks, and truths  focused on finding and keeping our center, which is such a salve to our experience, no matter what side of the ‘street’ we’re currently walking on.   I’d love to hear your thoughts, comments and experiences, so please share…

Tip #1 )  Strive to Live in a Grasp-Free Zone

What’s a grasp-free zone?  A grasp-free zone is where you are not white-knuckling it inside or on the outside.  You are content and accepting of what is today, and yet hopeful and intentional for what’s to come.  When you step into this zone, you relax. 

You relax your mind, you relax your spinning and negative thoughts, and you actually create more ease and flow to yourself and your world, which is something very much within your control.  Who you are being as a result increases your attraction-factor, incredibly so. People sense that you are accepting of yourself, and that you’re living in the moment with positive regard for what’s next.  Men have a radar for this energy, just like they can pick up even subconsciously a woman’s grasping mind-set and behavior.

So, rather than clinging to thoughts of scarcity, ‘musts’, ‘shoulds’, and grasping internally and potentially externally, decide to practice leaning into a grasp-free zone.   Focus your thoughts in a positive way.  Do what you know relaxes you and creates a feeling of abundance in your world, in healthy ways.  Get excited about something that you’re up to, and watch how that energy radiates out into the world and fills up your cup, in all sorts of wonderful ways!

With love & abundance ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

The Success Circle members left my house last night after our third live meeting, and I began writing this post immediately while the thought was still fresh within me, which was something that we coached around: taking action in the moment (before the inspiration deflates, doubt or another ‘to do’ sets in, and the moment is gone).

The thought that I felt called to write about is this:  What if….you never could make a mistake, because there are no mistakes? 

Imagine cozying up to that…wrapping yourself up in a warm blanket of that….energizing on a platform of THAT.

 ’I can’t make a mistake.’

Because, truly, you can’t.  Everything is a learning in this school of life.  And that voice that holds us back, shuts us down, and keeps us frozen is that critic inside, perhaps the one or one of many that is usually running our show, and holding us back.

What if…you stepped into the land of ‘I can’t make a mistake!’….

What might you feel courageous enough to do and BE?  What might you give yourself permission to dip your toe into?

What would you begin, today?

What would stop?  And I bring up endings, because many of us hold back from ending things – relationships, jobs, friendships, projects, bad habits, etc -  despite the calling to do so – because deep down we are in FEAR, and that fear is largely in making some sort of ‘mistake’.  That we don’t know what we’re doing on some level.  Having regrets.  Failing at the new beginning, the new venture. 

One of the members shared some great cards that she purchased as one of the ‘structures’ she’s keeping in her home and work space to support her success and remind herself of what she’s up to.  One of my favorites is this:

“Life isn’t about finding yourself.  Life is about creating yourself.” – unknown

So here is to creating the lives we’re meant to, one step at a time.  Shining our unique brilliance, beauty, and love out into the world and our lives, without apology, because….bottom line…we can’t make a mistake.

Love,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com