Your breathe is such an amazing tool. To de-stress. To Be Here Now. For loving yourself.  For bringing your Higher Self more onto the scene of your life and carving out new roads.

This tool is truly so simple and easy, that it just loses people (we get so drawn to shiny objects, struggle and complexity).

I have clients who will call into our session together, and will be so wrapped up in their stories of drama and fear (I say this with love and compassion…I can get wrapped up in my own ,too), so I’ll interrupt and ask them to stop and breathe. And when I do, there can be a lot of resistance.

Breathe?  How do I do that? LOL.  And when I corral them to their breathe at those moments, after explaining to them why I am from a bio/physiological perspective  (science), they’ll eventually give in. ;-)  And we work from the default of shallow, chest breathes, to the deeper, belly breathes. Just for a minute, not forever. A minute of this can launch our coaching into a whole different trajectory of profound impact and action.

Seriously, the breathe is one of the most powerful tools that we have.   For the obvious reasons, we need to breathe.

AND, for all the times that we find ourselves *completely* stuck,  in our heads. So much so that we imagine just entering our head and putting up camp and never, ever leaving….we need to breathe at those times more than ever.

Our breathe, when it comes from our belly, when we start there and draw it up through our solar-plexus, into our hearts and then out our throats as we breathe OUT, can truly change us.

It relaxes, it centers, and it brings us out of our heads and down into our bellies.  We become present. Where our own Buddha lives.  We each have our own little Buddha. Our wisdom. Our Truth.

Breathing is free, it’s on call, and it can seriously change your life when you do it consciously, intentionally.  We can make a new choice. We can pause and create a better thought.

You can do it anytime, anywhere.  And again, it’s FREE.  It’s built-in, mobile and – so brilliant – no one has to know what you’re doing. ;-)

With love ~

Leslie

Is this you? If it is, you want to keep reading.  I say self-aware because a conscious woman is a savvy woman! She is knowing (one of the Webster’s definitions of savvy).   She also understands that her awareness of herself, what she wants, and generally of life keeps growing , and, harnessing this is life and LOVE-affirming, and life-changing!

So, if you are a single woman local to the SF area, and ready to up-level her love, relationships and life, I invite you to join the Love & Success circle. Find out more about these circles here.

What I know to be true is that whatever we want in life is both an inside & outside job.  What we believe is what we get, especially what we believe is possible, and what we believe about ourselves.  Not to say it’s about sitting Indian-style for hours in meditation. Far from!  But, what we focus on, what we put into our minds, what energy we put behind our actions, and what and who we surround ourselves with all contribute to our results in life.  When we work with these pieces, we feel bigger.  And when we feel bigger, we act bigger (just as small thinking and feeling leads to small actions).

So if you’re doing the same things, thinking the same things, and giving attention and energy to the same things – and BE-ing the same = you’ll get the same results. If a woman thinks she’s doing everything possible to ‘find a man’ by being online constantly and out 5 nights a week, BUT her mind-set and energy are self-defeating, she might be busy but she is not likely to attract what she most deeply desires in a sustainable way.

Bookmark into your life (2) meetings a month (click here for more info) with me and other savvy women, and receive guidance, resources and accountability to change your life in a powerful way. Challenge yourself in a safe enviroment.  Become accountable in new ways.  Step into amazing energy.  Warning: skeptics, tire-kickers, or silver-bullet- only -please ladies are allowed, however. It won’t be your thing. This is about taking full responsibility for your own results in a feel-good yet productive way. 

Are you ready to be inspired, quiet out that negative ‘group-think’ that’s so pervasive, and take things to a new level?  You can send Donna an email for details, questions, or to schedule a brief chat with me here: assist@belovesavvy.com.

Here’s to new change this Fall.

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Are you ready to make a L-E-A-P?

If you’re single , don’t miss my tele-class happening TONIGHT:

3 Key Steps to ATTRACT Real Love

These steps will not only make you feel more confident – no matter where you are in the process – but they’ll help you SAVE TIME and bring more EASE to dating and relating.   I promise. 

Not single?  Unless you’re in utopia (which we know is never a permanent state), call in and discover that you can apply these keys over and over again to make YOU and your relationship ROCK even more.  

Time:  5pm Pacific,  7pm Central, 8pm Eastern

Call #:   218.339.4600

Access Code:  264593#

Talk soon!

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.om

PS. Got Questions?  Please post them here or contact me to get them answered here or on the call.

Dear Savvy Woman,

Whether you’re single, married or dating – no matter what the status of you’re relationship, no doubt the tool of Visualizing will change your life – it has mine.  Over, and over, and over again (it works wonders when I’m in an argument with my love).

Visualizing is one of the most powerful things that you can do to create change and bridge your reality over to the place of your dreams. Dating the wrong men? In an unhappy relationship?  Is your marriage suffering? Are you simply feeling dried up and exhausted? Not only has this done wonders for me in my love life, but I can look at other important things in my life -  changing careers, giving important presentations at work, working to get in shape at the gym, and even a most recent television appearance – and the success of these all were the result of a  common denominator: Visualizing.

Years ago when I was between boyfriends, a very wise & savvy friend and I were talking about love and live, and she struck a chord with me when she asked me to ‘feel in’ to what I wanted in a relationship.  ‘Picture in your mind the two of you hanging out – what are you doing together?’  Then I was even more blown away when she again asked me to feel in to (through a Vision – a picture in my mind) things like the way we communicated  – to identify what the feeling-tone was of that – fiery? Clear? Soft & cozy? Expansive & accepting?   

Months before I met my husband, I surprised myself when I was talking with producers of the reality show, “How To Get The Guy’ that was being filmed in San Francisco (but that’s a story for another blog) , and in our discussion it came to my awareness that I had held this Vision in my mind of my future  husband and I having black & white photographs hung in our hallway, particularly of us with our baby.  Now, I wasn’t a girl who had lots of specifics as to details of what her future life would look like, but that image popped up and had served – in some ways unbeknownst to me – as a guide post as I dated. Today Larry and I do have some black and whites of us hung in our hallway, and I smile as I connect the dots back to my Vision.

Another very powerful personal example on Visioning : I spent time one weekend by myself – my first trip with no companion and not work-related – walking the beach in Del Mar, CA and soaking up the gorgeous hotel and pool I was staying at. I journaled, I walked , I shopped – it was a healing time for me after a relationship ended and I had left a job to pursue a coaching career.  I walked the beach every day and visualized my future life – specifically my future husband and marriage. I felt into (via a vision) our communication, how we spent time, the energy of him – and of us.  Unbeknownst to Larry, he proposed to me on that very beach, under the Moonlight, less than 2 years later (but who was counting?).  This still gives me the chills and sweetly reminds me how we live in a magical Universe, if we can only remember to see it that way and Believe.

I’m so passionate about this powerful tool and I teach my clients to use it successfully in their own lives.  It’s so simple, it can be quick and it’s *Free* to boot.  What more could you love about a tool that expands your reality and allows your dreams to unfold, seemingly effortlessly? (Stay tuned for Pt. 2 of this blog where I’ll speak more to this last statement)

Here’s some steps to the “How”:

1. Choose a Visioning medium that comes most easiest for you to ensure regular use & success.   Is it playing a ‘mind movie’? Is it making a Vision box or board?  Is it writing it down?  Maybe all three – but whatever you do, decide to do it, begin, and tap into it regularly – even for just a minute or two.

2. You must shut down your thinking/ego mind while you’re doing this.  That’s the mind that has you perhaps looking to poke holes in this concept, to censure what you’re visioning, to tell you you’re doing it ‘wrong’.   THERE IS NO WRONG WAY. Trust your inner guidance.

3. Get yourself into a relaxed state for a few minutes before you begin steps 1 and 2.  Listen to a favorite song first, laugh at a funny show or joke, move your body.  Get your energy flowing downstream to open up creativity and connect to your inner navigation system – your heart & energy system – that connects easily to Truth and the magical Universe.

Stay tuned for Part 2 – what is ‘happening’ when we regularly Vision & how does this help us take inspired action?  

With love and Universal blessings,

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I want to share with you something that’s changed my life over these past months.  It’s going to sound super cool to some and really woo-woo to others, I know.

In July 2008, thanks to the suggestion of a longtime friend, I began taking a few ‘Meditation’ courses at www.IntuitiveWay.com.  These classes, she told me, would give me some tools to integrate into my spiritual practice and awareness, and she assured me that they were actually very easy - and fun.   As someone who didn’t meditate, it felt daunting to think about actually going to classes and thinking I could easily integrate a tool into a daily practice.

The bottom line for me today is that these courses and subsequent tools I’ve acquired have changed my life -and for no more than 15 minutes a day of time investment.  And, I can listen to to the ‘Meditation’ in my car – on my Ipod while traveling – in my office – anywhere where you have access to audio, can sit undisturbed and have the privacy or ability to close your eyes. 

People in my life began to take notice of the resulting change within me.  A close friend asked me what I was doing because I seemed more confident and peaceful. After appearing for the first time on live TV (so thrilling!), many asked me if I had received media training  (had not) and told me I looked so at ease during the live segment.  I told those close to me that it was part solid preparation, part extra ‘meditation’. 

This ‘meditation’ is an energy tool.  What it does is clear blocked energy (we all have it), and clears your space (aura) so that you show up more authentically You.  Your energy gets ‘cleaned’ in a way.   See, not only do we ‘take on’ other people’s energy throughout the day (read: that annoying colleague who hangs on like a barnacle, or the stranger who accuses you of nabbing their parking spot), but those close to you in your life can also be ‘plugged in’ (or ‘chorded’) to you – also impacting your energy. 

What happens when we walk around taking on other people’s energy?  We get plugged up, stifled, numb, indecisive, negative, blocked, unhealthy, etc.

The benefits of practicing this energy tool regularly are:

• clarity
• increased energy
• confidence
• ease
• joy
• deeper insight,  intuition
• peace
• authentic direction

So, imagine, my savvy friend,  if you gain more of the above.  What might you experience?  Imagine the possibilites.  I know that by applying this tool to my life, I have been able to say YES to things in my career I may not have before (out of fear) ; NO to things I don’t truly want to be, do or have;  I’ve shifted out of friendships that don’t fit (tough but freeing);   I’ve discerned what is really an issue in my relationship vs. what isn’t (so valuable, especially in a new marriage) –  and the list goes on. And on! ;-)

So much more on this topic (stay tuned).  If this resonatesfor you, and you are curious, send me an email: leslie@belovesavvy.com, and I will be happy to answer additional questions or point you in a direction.  Listen to your savvy voice if it wants to learn more about this (or anything),  it won’t steer you wrong. 

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I had to boot up my laptop to write about a conversation I just had an hour ago with a savvy woman (who will remain anonymous, but I’d love to let the cat out of the bag with her permission so I can tell you about her amazing talent & business!).

We were catching up about life, which included her meeting a great guy a few months back, whom she’s enjoying a lot.  He’s a great guy with his act together, a fun sunny disposition and great sense of humor. And he’s very cute (picture proven). Great catch, right? Wait, it gets better. Guess what?  He is SO into her, that he very directly asked her to call him rather than opt for the more distant, less-intimate text. 

Why was she texting primarily as communication, you might wonder?  Well, ‘Jane’ was experienced with her most recent Ex prefering to communicate with her via Text, among other guys.  And this Ex did a good job of keeping her at arms length in some other ways, too.  Thankfully, Jane moved on and attracted this very available man who lets her know in many ways “I’m into you!”, including asking her to chill on texts because he wants to hear the purr of her voice instead. (Ok, I’m ebellishing on her story here but it’s the truth).  Understandably, Jane had felt a bit protective post her last relationship, and didn’t want to ‘cramp’ this new guys style.  Why? Well…he could be like all the rest. She had learned that more than one guy out there preferred to keep things at more of a distance. So, why risk a different approach?

What I *love* about this story almost as much as the fact that this wonderful woman attracted a great guy to her who is honest, upfront and demonstrative is that she was aware of her conditioned patterns based on past history.  This is a rather ‘light’  example that was pretty easy for her to call herself out on.  Often we have deep-seated beliefs and conditioned behavior that we’re not as aware of, keeping us stuck (attracting/involved with the same kind of men, experiencing the same quality of job, self-sabatoging behavior, spending patterns, etc).

Sometimes we are fortunate, like Jane, to have an event or person help us to see where we are in behavior and mind-set that isn’t current, true to us, congruent with what we want to attract and experience, and who we want to BE….NOW.   Think about what is possible to create in your life if you take a conscious look at this ‘closet’ if you will, and do a run through of the worn and out-dated?  

Speaking of clearing,  I’m offering a special Boot Camp event on Saturday, March 21st.  This Boot Camp will be exclusively about Relationship - clearing and creating.  If you are single post a break-up, divorce or simply aware that you need a fresh perspective and a clear vision, you will not want to miss this inspiring and life-changing day with me.  So, how do you really know if you would benefit from this?

- You can’t seem to let go of the past: an ex…relationship regrets…he’s a jerk….time you’ve lost.  You might be aware that it’s getting in your way, and you might not.  If you let this rent any space in your mind and being, believe me, it is in your way.

-You don’t believe a wonderfully reciprocal, abundant, delicous relationship and partnership may be  possible for you.  Or you vascilate.  Belief, if it’s there, is shaky.

-You’re recently out of a signifcant relationship or marriage, and you’re ready to move on, but you have not completely forgiven your ex and/or yourself.  You worry about finding yourself in the same thing.. again.

- You’re exhausted with it all. Men. Love.  You’re not sure if you’ll ever meet the right guy for you.  And if you’re meeting men/dating, their is a LOT of finger pointing… to them.

I really hope that if you are relating to these, you will decide *right now* to save the date and spend the day with me (more details will follow soon).   You can’t do the same things and expect different results, and, although it’s tempting to rush into a different relationship, if you don’t clear your mind & heart you just may find yourself facing similar issues – learning the same lesson.

In this day you will actually do the ‘stuff’ that you may know would benefit from, but you just can’t find the time, inspiration, or environment to do it.

What you’ll leave with:  completion of oceanside releasing ceremony, discovering tools and exercises for creating a vision for yourself and your next relationship that pulls your forward (not back into the past) ,  and techniques for a Mind-set that will see you to success in love and life. And lots of inspiration. It will be  a packed day – but, quality over quantity.

Decide to gift yourself this day, and you will not regret it.  It will be the gift that keeps on giving.

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

For years I was inspired by the regular newsletters that Debbie Ford sent out, and as I was doing some planning for my upcoming Boot Camp event, I read through a few that I have archived.   This today is the first of a two-part entry that I want to share with you.

“Withholding acknowledgement from yourself, minimizing your gifts, and projecting your greatness onto others are all forms of self-abuse. So I ask you, what would it take to acknowledge this and to penetrate the defense mechanisms that guard your heart?

For each of us, I believe it takes a shift in perception where we truly understand that there is no more time. It’s not going to happen next week, or next month, or next year. We cannot wait for things to get better, because they won’t while we’re still beating ourselves up emotionally and psychologically! And how CAN it get better if we surround ourselves with others who aren’t in the presence of our greatness and are not willing to see the greatness in themselves?

We have to set a new standard for ourselves where loving-kindness, compassion and acceptance replace judgment, ridicule and rejection.  We have to demand a higher level of cared, respect and emotional integrity from ourselves, and then look for friends and a community that hold us there.”

Amen.

The gap between who I am today and who I was five years ago (heck, even last year) is due to what I decided to give to myself.

Decide to give to yourself.

Join me at my Savvy Woman’s Boot camp – a retreat here in San Francisco this Saturday, January 31^st – and decide to lay the foundation for a year and life unlike that which you’ve known before.

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

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Dear Savvy Sister,

Don’t for a minute doubt that where you are is where you will always be, or that you can’t have experiences beyond your wildest dreams.

Our doubts begin to creep in (and creep UP) the moment we start to step out more into our light.  It’s that inner critic that says, “Who are you foolin?”  “Why would it get better than this – be grateful for what you already have, gf.”  “Who are YOU?”.

Often, we don’t even know we’re doing this. 

Are you feeling:

-Tired of the same, ‘ol – same ‘ol?  BORED.

-Hesitant of trying somthing NEW, depsite the craving for it?   Ie.:  New style, Online dating, New work, New way of Being in the world

- Like you’re playing ‘small’, but don’t know the HOW? of playing the bigger game you so desire

This Saturday I’m hosting my first Boot Camp in Ft. Mason, where we’ll spend the day working on creating a blue print for LOVE & SUCCESS in 2009.    This day will help you to see that the world is truly your oyster, and give you some incredibly valuable exercises that help you create a Vision that pulls you forward into what you desire.

We can live in a  continuous flow of Well-Being, and yet it’s easy to feel very disconnected from that, and just look for evidence that supports otherwise.  Remember, whatever we believe to be true, we very easily find evidence that supports that.

Enroll in my Savvy Woman’s Boot Camp today!  You’ll be inspired and equiped to have a year unlike any other!

www.BeLoveSavvy.com/events/htm

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

The Feeling of a Pure Desire Feels Good To You

“Unfortunately, many people think that the uncomfortable feeling of wanting something they do not expect to experience is what the feeling of desire is;  they no longer recognize the feeling of pure desire as that fresh, eager, feeling of expectancy that they knew when they were younger.  The feeling of pure desire is always delicious, as it represents the vibrations that are stretched out before you into your unseen future, preparing the way for the Law of Attraction to match things up on your behalf.”

-Ask & It is Given: Learning to manifest your Desires, by Esther & Jerry Hicks

From my savvy & desiring heart, to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Almost as good (depending on personal preference) as receiving Daily Candy is receiving a Daily Affirmation.  Imagine FREE Coaching, just dropped into your Inbox every morning, before you wipe your eyes and slip out of bed to start the day.

It’s actually a great ‘structure’ (coach speak for ritual, or place holder) for me to center my thoughts and myself as I get into my day.  Some days, when I’m really tired, stressed or some other version of not feeling my Best Self,  I reach over for my Blackberry after waking up and scroll to find the Daily Affirmation.  It gets the party started on those days.  I value this little structure so much I’m inspired to add it on to my website for those who want to sign up and receive daily thoughts from Moi.

I happened upon Laura Fenamore’s site when I met her at CTI, the coaching school I attended, and I’ve been receiving her daily messages for years now.

Passing on the love with today’s brilliant message….

Today I release any feelings I have to compete with others or compare myself to others knowing that that leads me to pain not joy (which is what I really want).

So true.  As I say to my clients often, “comparison kills”.   It kills your mind-set and potentially, your self-esteem.  And it kills romance in dating and relationship.  It kills the energy & opportunity for connecting on a first date.  Even if it’s never acted on, but just sits…lingering in your thoughts.  

Here is to your Unique Brilliance. 

And to Joy. 

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com