Compassion = Attraction-rich
Dear Savvy Woman,
I wonder what this world would be like if we all had a little more compassion for ourselves and for each other? I think we’re dipping out toe in – collectively – as anyone who had any money in the stock market got a slap in the face, as well as tremendous amounts of people have lost or are losing their jobs and sometimes their entire career-long industry…
We’re all in this experience together.
Compassion softens us. It softens our resistance. Our ego and defenses get a big Hug. An ‘it’s ok… you can take a break. No need to stand guard 24/7.’
Compassion is SO attraction-rich. It feels counter-intuitive if your thinking mind (Ego) is in survival-mode and heavily marinating in the scarcity-thinking tank. It makes us receptive. It opens up opportunity to connect. To get real. To reveal. To be seen and to see. People attract and connect. Relationships blossom.
I recently had several high school folks – people I knew in high school ;-) – write me after connecting on FB – about how I always was nice to them and that they appreciated it. High school can be such an awkward and impressionable time in life, can’t it? Receiving this touched my heart. See, I was one of those girls who hung out in the ‘in crowd’, yet I was so dis-empowered inside that I didn’t pursue things like song-girl ( i secretly longed to perform & dance and love now watching So You Think You Can Dance) or traveling with the French class abroad. Things that my spirit longed for. My family was doing the best they could but we had dysfunction and – back then - I thought I might be the ‘only’ one. And, that pain I carried around with me gave me compassion and connection with others that might not look or act like me on the ‘outside’. (The movie,’ The Moses Code’, is a great movie to watch on this theme – sort of The Secret-ish).
If we all wake up, or dig deep, we can all get in touch with that place inside that feels humbled, that feels pain or sorrow or heart-ache. Connecting to our human condition reminds us that we’re all in this together…that constant competition is NOT the winning state of being….and that softening up can actually bring you into more awareness, which leads to more confidence and personal power. It can feel so uncomfortable to go there, yet when you do you not only awaken a part of yourself but you can bridge that to help others. Help yourself, help others – and along the way – relationships - and life get fuller, deeper, richer and more alive.
Now, how attraction-rich is that?
With love,
From my savvy heart to yours~
Leslie
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