Compliments
Dear Savvy Woman,
One of the ‘tenants’ in Being Love Savvy is to be gracious with Compliments.
Graciously accept. Take. Allow in. And, give - generously.
Let’s start with RECEIVING compliments. We as women can really struggle with receiving compliments. I know that I do. I use to think that I didn’t struggle a whole lot with this. I think my ego wanted me to think this to be true, but , deep down, it would be tough to simply take in a compliment. I found that in the areas where I held myself hostage to perfection, or just to very high expectations, I would struggle receiving those ‘that is GREAT, Leslie’ - or - ’good job!’. My impulse would be to dismiss it. After some work on my part towards loving myself enough to begin to buy in and believe, a small voice from deep within me would reply , ‘Really?’, if at least to myself. I aspire to, and sometimes succeed, with a smile and simple, ‘Thank you.’
Receiving compliments graciously is SO important, my savvy friends. Why? Because it is an indicator for yourself that there’s some self-love, self-acceptance going on inside. And if you aren’t loving and accepting of yourself, it’s very difficult to take in a compliment. And, what happens next: it will be tough for anyone else to love you, and have you receive that love on an authentic level. As Marianne Williamson writes in A Return To Love, “Nothing that is alien to our system can enter into us and stay there for long…if I swallow a piece of aluminum foil, my body will regurgitate until the offending object is expelled. If I’m convinced that I’m not good enough, I will have a difficult time accepting someone into my life who thinks I am.”
And what about giving compliments? Don’t you feel good when you give someone a compliment? It’s just like the concept of giving gifts - it always feel so great to give someone a gift. And the best ones are the suprise, no-reason-but-just-felt-like-it-kind. And compliments work the same way. I especially love complimenting people that I don’t know - a stranger. It’s a wonderful way to extend ourselves and be generous.
And the receiving and giving of compliments is simply a ‘feel good’. And ‘feel goods’ are really important. They improve our thoughts, feelings and beliefs: the three things that contribute to our energetic ‘vibration’ = what we attract.
From my savvy heart to yours,
Leslie
The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach
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