Alright, my savvy friend,  you’re feeling v-u-l-n-e-r-a-b-l-e, and it’s uncomfortable.   Urggggg.

Try this exercise on for size (before you reach for him, reach for your wallet, reach for the ice cream, or reach insanity):

Grab a pen and paper.

1) Name the situation and the feelings that you are experiencing,  and then also write down what you have made up about it.

Example: Rick hasn’t called me in two days now, and we’ve had 5 great dates, and we’re in touch usually every day. I feel sad and confused. This must mean that we won’t work – I can’t stand this feeling, and I’m so tired of this crap that men always pull.

2)  Take a look at this ‘belief’ that you have about the situation, and ask yourself .  Is this really true?.   Do you without a doubt know this to be true?  Of course you don’t.  Take the example above.  Unless Rick told you that he no longer wants to see you, then this situation doesn’t accurately represent how Rick feels about you or that you aren’t mean to date.

3) Now, step out of your head - take a break! - and go into your heart, writing down some  things that you can do right now to soothe yourself, to take care of the little girl that lives inside of you.  Go with the truth of what excellent self-care would feel like for you  right now , not your conditioning (gravitating to retail therapy, eating chocolate for lunch, or sending 5 texts to ‘Rick’).  

A walk?  Listening to a soothing and inspirational song on your Ipod?  A cry?  Reading something that connects you back to your higher self that sits in peace and acceptance (anything by Marianne Williamson is fabulous)?

After making a ‘deposit’ into your own self-care ‘account’, I guarantee that you will come out on the other side with more acceptance, love and peace within yourself, and more trust in the process of life.   It’s from this place that you can then step forward with a fresh and healthier perspective.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.belovesavvy.com

Tags: self-improvement; dating issues; relationship coaching;

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