Is showing interest first a conflict of interest?
Dear Savvy Woman,
It’s been a theme this week - clients, friends, new aquaintences - all asking about the concept of approaching men and showing interest.
One client is on E-Harmony, and is reticent on ’approaching’ a guy online because she’s a woman who really wants to be pursued and doesn’t want to send off the wrong message.
A friend and I were hanging out with my husband Larry - actually on our way to his favorite place in the world other than next to me of course = ) - the golf course - and she asked about what to do when you’re in conversation with someone , you need to leave, and he hasn’t asked for the number.
At an event just last night, I met a woman who shared that she was in a dilemma: she felt like she had put out a lot of energy to a new guy. She seemed a little remorseful, a little curious, a little excited. It wasn’t yet disastrous - he had just called her that afternoon. But clearly, she seemed as if she was walking a tightrope.
All of these scenarios beg the question: is it a conflict of interest to show interest in a guy? Will it send a message that I’m an aggressive woman, who doesn’t want to be pursued… courted…. and, let’s face it… cherished?
Stay tuned for Part 2.
From my savvy heart to yours,
Leslie
The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach
Tags: Dating, dating coach, inspirtation, Leslie Stewart, life coach, love, relationships
August 1st, 2008 at 2:32 pm
Leslie - I can’t wait for part 2!!!
Karin
August 1st, 2008 at 3:48 pm
Leslie,
You ask a good question, as I was recently faced with this “conflict” myself. I think you can show interest in a guy w/o asking him to call you. A met a recruiter at her office last week and she introduced me to one of her business partners. Later, I casually mentioned that I thought he was attractive. Without solicitation she relayed the feedback to him. He was flattered and asked her for my contact information.
Now, if I accept a date with him is that a conflict of interest?
August 3rd, 2008 at 10:44 am
I just wanted to drop a note of appreciation for your wisdom, wit & spunk, Leslie! Youth & wisdom are such a powerful combination which you definitely possess.
You touch on a lot of chords in my life and remind me of things that I can do to enrich my life (vision board!). As I am quite a bit older than you it always amazes me how “love savvy” you really are.
You are ahead of your time.
Thank you,
Lesley