Keeping Your Word
Dear Savvy Woman,
Keeping Your Word is one of the ‘tenants’ of Being Love Savvy. It’s SO important. I really can’t emphasize it enough.
And do you know who it’s most important to keep your word to? No, not your guy. Or your mom. Nope, not your best friend either.
TO YOURSELF.
You see, when we keep our word to ourselves, we start to accrue feelings of WORTH, CONFIDENCE, BELIEF in ourselves, in our own ‘account’.
Our word can be small : I’m going to workout 3 times this week….I’m going to save $X each week……I’m going to finish X project, before I begin X.
Our word can be big: I’m going to write a book. I’m going to stop this sabatoging behavior. I’m not going to sleep with him again. I am going to change jobs.
And when we don’t, we slowly take out withdrawls. They seem so small, so insignificant. BUT, before we know it, we are flat out BROKE. Our account is empty.
We look at that shiny object we want to ‘ purchase ‘ (translation: class to try, conversation to have, person to meet, adventure trip to try, CHANGE to make), and we don’t feel that we can, because our wallet feels barren.
When I coach my clients on changes that they want to make, we start small. Baby steps. Once we show ourselves that we’re in integrity, because we’re keeping our word to ourselves (getting in 3 workouts a week - eliminating some energy drains, etc), SHIFT happens. Confidence builds. BOLD steps start to accumulate. AMAZING, LIFE-CHANGING results take place.
And, take note, savvy sister: a very important piece to this is to be kind and gentle with yourself. When you don’t follow through with yourself, it’s OK. You are NOT bad. You are HUMAN.
So start SMALL. Try keeping your word to yourself on the low hanging fruit first, before you climb the ladder and reach for the sky-high pieces.
From my savvy heart to yours,
Leslie
The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach
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