Mind-set
Dear Savvy Woman,
Are you aware of what your current mind-set is? I hope so. Because mind-set is *everything*. And experiencing success in relationships and romance doesn’t escape this truth. Personal success is as much an inner game as it is an outer one. Shhhh…. I’m going to quiet you naysayers for a second, the ones who point to Supermodel figures and flawless skin as the ‘must haves’ and say, simply , ENOUGH already. Hold up.
Naomi Cambell sure ain’t got no satisfaction in her personal life - I’d place big money on it. All the drama she manifests in her world, just on plane travel alone, points to where her mindset rests. And it’s not in peace, is it?
You see, I’m still reveling in the experience of listening to Marianne Williamson lecture last week up in Marin, and the topic was Living Miraculously. Marianne largely spoke about the thoughts that we must hold in order to live out a miraculous life. And that’s what mind-set is. Notice: where are your thoughts? Are they in the past? Are they sitting up on the ledge of FEAR, trying to predict and see the future?
And, what are your thoughts? Are they loving, positive, expansive, and forward-pulling, helping you take the action required to step into a grand, heart-felt vision of what you hold for yourself: focused on the vision of your dreams? Or, are they doubt-filled, fear-filled, and focusing on what you don’t want?
In James Arthur Ray’s book, Harmonic Wealth, he highlights the fact that the right mind-set is more important than having the right skills, in the context of discussing accomplishments and success.
Here’s an exercise he gives to prove this to be true: Write down your top three wins or accomplishments to date. These could include completing school, landing a job in a competitive industry, writing a book, or marrying the man of your dreams. This is only about you, so don’t compare relative to others, but write down what is true for you. Childhood accomplishments can be included too.
Now, look at your list, and choose the event that brings up the strongest feelings of accomplishment, the one that makes you feel that you tackled and conquered something worthwhile. Now, mind-storm a list of qualities that you had that helped you to achieve this win. How were you thinking? What were you feeling? What were you doing or not doing? Qualities like vision, passion, trust, focus may come up. Or kindness, patience and enthusiasm. Come up with as many as you can.
Now, go back through this quality list and next to each, write if it’s a mind-set related or more skill related. Ray bets that most, if not all, the qualities are mind-set related and not skill related. And I do too. As Ray points out, and very timely with the Summer Olympics just starting, “Every Olympic athlete has the skills, yet few win the gold. It’s all about the mental game.”
I meet many women who desire an amazing, rich life filled with love, passion, and integrity. Some of them understand that they need to step up and into a bigger game, one that is of the right mind-set. An inner game. Many still focus on the skill-sets of the right clothes, hair, make up and dating 101’s to ‘get it right’. Although folding these things in can not hurt, focusing on these exclusively rather than on mind-set isn’t going to win the gold. It’s just not. It might be a temporary fix or illusion, but it’s not the stuff that wins the gold.
Get your inner game on, ladies.
From my savvy heart to yours,
Leslie
The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach
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