Modern Dating
Dear Savvy Woman,
I hear you! I’m with you - I swear!
Despite being a married woman, I continually experience the ‘experience’ of dating via my clients and other single women in my life. Lately, I seem to get almost as much content from being out in public next to a ‘loud talker’ at a restaurant, or in Walgreen’s on their cell.
Just last night, I was meeting a friend at a neighborhood restaurant to catch up. I had arrived first and dove into the menu as I was starving. I couldn’t help but hear the conversation next to me as I silently studied what I would order.
This couple obviously had just met up for a first date. Conversation was mechanical. I had arrived just as they were winding up. What I over heard was them each reviewing how they ‘filtered’ with their dates: if they went to bars or not, online dating, and even, yes - the Meyer’s Briggs.
I was so sad for these two.
I know E-harmony does an assessement for appropriate matching - I was a client years ago. Nothing against them, or any online dating site.
What’s next - ENFJdateme.com?
Listen, I’m all about personal development and compatibility. I’m a coach.
AND, no wonder we’ve lost hope as women when we hear, feel and experience this sort of pursuit of ‘the one’.
How romantic is it to discuss dating strategy with someone you are on a date with? Absolutely ZERO.
Especially, when these ’strategies’ are all behind a computer screen, or tallying up under ‘Zero Risk’ and ‘Proven’ columns.
Is this the reality of Modern Dating?
Maybe for some.
But I know you, Savvy Woman.
You don’t want this.
And you don’t have to have it.
The more you know yourself and know what you want, the more confident you can be in acting on what’s true for you.
Acting from love.
Not acting from fear. Fear wants to hide behind things - take a proven way - and acts in discord from the truth of things.
I know you want to believe that you’ll have tons of fun, pleasure, light, and wonder in dating and partnering with your man.
And you can.
You must believe.
If you do - you’ll trust some of those nudges, inclinations and hunches that will lead you to fun, pleasure, light and wonder - and to him.
With love and light,
From my savvy heart to yours ~
Leslie
The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach
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