Overexposure
Dear Savvy Woman,
Do you suffer from ‘Overexposure’ in your relationship?
One definition I found on dictionary.com : the condition of having been seen, heard, or advertised so frequently or for so long that freshness or appeal is diminished.
Here’s one personal example: After working from side-by-side home offices (thank you to whoever invented the white noise machine!), one evening after hearing me complain a little more than usual, Larry called it. “Sweetie, we’re Overexposed right now, clearly.” (yes, I think this word deserves a capital O).
I laughed. It was so true. I laughed partly at myself, sort of in awe, because I use to be SO hyper-vigilent on this topic with my man. Not really to him, but about him, and us. Aware that we were going to be seeing A LOT more of one another once we moved in together, I would plan and pace myself somewhat so that I didn’t find myself at home with him every night, on the couch. I mean, let’s save the couch for the fun stuff, right?? Especially in a new-er relationship.
Here are a few signs that you might be suffering from Overexposure:
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crabbiness for no apparent reason, with your S.O. - all the time
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you start to notice that you haven’t been out or talked to friends for some time
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any announcement that he has other plans causes you to stifle a ‘thank g-d!’
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if you’re couch could talk, it would tell you two to get a life!
In all seriousness, you know if you are feeling like you need a little space. Trust this, and act on it. Take off for the day, or the evening, and gift yourself a play date. Schedule some time with friends. Call your family. Notice what you may have been neglecting in life, and take action to resuscitate.
The great news is that making adjustments to get out of the Overexposed ’state’, brings so much positive energy to yourself and to your relationship. This is how we get to rediscover parts of ourselves and our S.O.’s.
It’s fabulous, and it doesn’t require $150 for couple’s therapy!
With love,
From my savvy heart to yours,
Leslie
The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach