Rewrite Your Script!
Dear Savvy Friends,
Ahhhh…i’m still riding on a high from my wine country oasis staycation !! Or workaction. ;-) 10 heavenly days of unplugged BE-ing and inspired Do-ing. I’ll be sure to share some pictures to FB soon! Together Larry (my sweetie and hubby) and I had ‘scripted’ out that experience over a year ago – our stay/workaction – and then it effortlessly unfolded just days before we ditched the city for the country. I love effortless things – dont’ you?
We are all living by the scripts that we’ve been unconsciously and hopefully, consciously, writing for ourselves and then living – acting – out.
A few months ago I bought a T-Shirt and writeen simply on the front is : REWRITE YOUR SCRIPT.
Guess what? We can re-write these scripts that run in our minds and bring us to what we experience in our lives. We are always at choice. What we think about, comes about. Where intention goes, energy flows.
What we may be - or have been – unconsciously ‘scripting’ might have come from our parents or ancestors ideas, society’s ‘requirements’ and/or cultural and gender ‘rules’. Or simply what we put into place years ago based on our experiences, but since then our life experiences and new desires have caused us to outgrow.
Have you ever stopped and realized that you have arrived at a situation because you on some level, scripted it out?
If we get really clear (and really BRAVE), we can look at where we are and discover the script of the ‘play’ that we’ve been reading to ourselves.
A few ‘life-situation’ script examples:
Old Script: I’m partner at my firm, I’m deep into my career in law and I absolutely cannot stand what I do but this is what I know how to do to earn the income I need to earn to support my lifestyle. I’m too old to change. I’ll lose respect if I try and fail. What do I know how to do? No one loves what they do for career really, anyway. At least not the ones making any money.
New Script: I know what I’m doing and I want to change careers. My happiness and quality of life are so important to me, and my relationships and outlook will soar when I act on what I need to act on here. I know how to be resourceful and attract new opportunities that will be lucrative AND rewarding. I have options. I’ll begin to take steps to investigate what’s next for me. I know there is support and expertise available. As I take steps, the Universe rises up to meet me, and will continue to.
Old Script:I’m in this relationship that doesn’t feel good, but what are my options? Sure, this doesn’t really make me feel very secure, empowered, valued or appreciated. But look around, no one else is very happy in theirs either. Or they’re single and can’t find a decent date. I guess I’m better off than they are. And, I’m so use to this relationship. I’m sure that one day he’ll get off the fence and really start to step up in this relationship. This is just how it has to be, for me, I guess. Maybe one of these days I won’t be able to take anymore.
New Script: I am in a relationship that feels amazing! I feel cherished and respected, and we have such fun together , looking out on the same horizen as we step into our future together. It’s incredible…there are no games! So much space has opened up in my be-ing because I don’t have to expend so much mental and emotional energy on it. Wow! This is fabulous. We hit speed bumps here and there but I feel so confident inside that I, and we, can cruise right over them. Life is good. No, life is GOOD!! (Now, if this current partner can’t rise to the script that she continues to play in her head, that person will fall away and a new partner will come in to play that ‘role’ in her script).
Script writing is something that I do on a regular basis with myself, and with my clients. We can script out our bigger life-changes and dreams, and we can also script out our day, a difficult conversation to have, or any situation.
Easy 1-2-3′s for script writing:
1) Make sure you are in a good space, ie. feeling somewhat to very positive and hopeful, as the intentiona and energy you begin this (and anything) with is everything.
2) If you can, create a sacred space around this by way of lighting a candle, shutting off any distracting and ambient noise (other than inspiring music), and grabbing a cup of tea or glass of wine.
3) With pen and paper (ideally, keep a journal), pick a situation, dream, or vision and write about it, feeling into it from your heart and body, as if you’re in it. Write in big and expansive ways – if you think you’re ‘going big’, chances are you can still go BIGGER. This is where the ‘how good can you stand it?’ comes in to play.
4) If you have difficulty with the writing, start with listing words that symbolize and describe the result and situation that you’re scripting. From there you can expand.
Big love,
Leslie
Tags: love coaching, manifesting, relationship challenges, relationship coach in sf, scripting a new relationship