Dear Savvy Woman,

Have you written down any New Years Resolutions yet?  Whether you have or haven’t, with this process comes often the thoughts and feelings of whether or not these will be met , and so can begin the little trickle of fear and doubt that sets in on or before you’ve begun.  Yikes.  We can just avoid the entire exercise, but in order to get results, we must begin to get clear about what we want - and write it down

I want to share with you what I did to capture in my mind and on paper my intentions for this 2009 yeer:  A Letter of Gratitude.    Taken from Christine Kloser,  I wrote down a letter to the Universe from the perspective of December 31st, 2009.   The year was closing.  What was I grateful for that had transpired over the year?  What had I attracted, what had manifested, what had changed?  

Take just 5 minutes and write down all that comes to you - not listening to the HOW?  WHO?  but just flowing in the stream of gratitude and expectation.  Take note of if the HOW and WHO pops up - if it doesn’t then you’re not playing BIG enough, and yet you must let go of the HOW and WHO as it comes in, as that isn’t your concern at this writing.   This is to set intention, vision and WANTS.

Then, find some beautiful paper and font, and print it out and post it several places around your home and office.  Read it regularly to remind yourself of what you are setting as intention this year.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Yesterday was one of those days for me…a low energy day.  Not only was I on the tired side, but I was feeling low-vibe.   In Law of Attraction-speak, this is death in an Attraction-based Universe.  I fully subscribe to this, as I have witnessed this Universal principle at work (both ‘positively’ and ‘negatively’) in my own life.   So, come evening last night, I knew I needed to raise my vibration.  

Thankfully, I slowed down enough to listen to my intuition and play a video a FB friend had sent me from Esther Hicks -a message from Abraham.  After watching the video, I felt myself feel a little lighter.   I sent it to a few clients and to a few friends.  I felt a little more light.   My husband came into the room to hang out with me, and I engaged with him from this uplifted place (and he was low-vibing himself with little sleep and a cold), feeling inspired by the witnessing what was happening within myself - and feeling all the more lighter.

Having fallen out from my morning & daily routine (morning reading/writing and daily doses of inspiration/teachings of spiritual and Universal principles) and my exercise routine, not to mention healthy eating, I was feeling a bit depleted.  The holidays came and I jumped on the carpet ride for a week or two - a fun one but getting off had me feeling off-kilter.

So, my savvy friends, I sat down this morning to a cup of coffee and Esther and Jerry Hicks “Ask & It is Given” before my workout.   I soaked up some pages and felt like I had been reunited with an old friend, and made a mental note to blog this little gem to you today, to share the love.

And that is, “When you think about the WHY you want something, you usually soften resistance, but when you think about the WHEN or HOW or WHO, you often add resistance, especially if you do not already know the answers to those questions.”

Resistance is that low-energy, low-vibe state….it manifests as negative feelings, and results in the bad behavior or avoidance that we do that depletes our energy and well-being, rather than adding to it.  So, to guage if you are resisting, notice how you are feeling.  This is the Attraction-Dial. You crank up the dial and increase your vibration and Attraction by up-ing your feelings.  Low and negative feelings attract like-results in people and situations.  Like attracts like in Attraction.

Keep going back to the WHY as you write those 2009 intentions, goals and dreams.   Focusing on the HOW, WHO or WHEN can shut you down, and shut off the valve of feel-good vibes that up your Attraction levels.

As far as the WHO, WHEN, HOW,  maintain a framework of expectation, and let go of the fixation.   Focusing on these only invite doubt and fear to join you, resulting in low-vibe, same results experiences.  As we take inspired actions, these things unfold without us needing to attempt to CONTROL or ORCHESTRATE them - we can’t.   However, YES, we must mingle inspired actions with this focus of the outcome, keeping in touch with the WHY - what these new experiences and changes will bring to us  - how they will add to our well-being.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I love, love, love this  & had to share:

“I’ve always believed in magic. When I wasn’t doing anything in this town, I’d go up every night, sit on Mulholland Drive, look out at the city, stretch out my arms, and say, “Everybody wants to work with me. I’m a really good actor. I have all kinds of great movie offers.”  I’d just repeat these things over and over, literally convincing myself that I had a couple of movies lined up. I’d drive down that hill, ready to take on the world, going, “Movie offers are out there for me, I just don’t hear them yet.” It was like total affirmations, antidotes to the stuff that stems from my family background.”

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete, and yet life is ever changing.

There is no beginning and no end, only a constant cycling and recycling of substance and experiences.

Life is never stuck or static or stale, for each moment is ever new and fresh.  I am one with the very Power that created me, and this Power has given me the power to create my own circumstances.  I rejoice in the knowledge that I have the power of my own mind to use in any way I choose.  Every moment of life is a new beginning point as we move from the old.  This moment is a new point of beginning for me right here and right now.  All is well in my world.

- Louise Hay

Take a breathe.

Ahhhhhhhh.

From my savvy & abundant heart, to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Yes, I did mean futured.

What is futured, you ask?

You’ve been there.  You’re on a date with ‘Joe’, a first date.  Joe not only shows up on time, with flowers, and takes you to a lovely restaurant for dinner and a bottle of wine, but that’s just the beginning.  Even if you’re date-deprived and loving the gestures, you haven’t even begun to “Mr. Right?” him, believe it or not.  Until…

Joe futures you.“Have you been to Yosemite?…We rent a huge house there every Fall, we’ll have to go on one of the week-ends I’ll have it to myself - it’s s000 nice to jacuzzi after a long hike.  I can’t wait to take you there.”  You are now noticing, between bites of steak and sips of Zinfandel, that your mind wanders to imagine how he’ll fit in with your family, what travel you can do first, perhaps even if you’ll have the same taste on your registry.

I think many of us who do (or have done, in our lives) our fair share of dating have been here -  yes?

I recall a specific guy that I dated , and our first date.  WOW - did he future me.  Talks of trips, the fact that we both fantasized about living in Spain - it went on and on.  And - guess what?   I WAS HOOKED.  The following 6 weeks were like I was under some sort of spell.  Things went fast - and then crashed and burned. 

I write this as a friendly reminder.  Beware of being futured.  The smartest and savviest of women can - and do - fall prey. 

Tips to stay conscious and futured-aware:

-  Proof is in the Pudding - make this your rule:  Keep control of the pace that feels right to you, and by this I mean the pace of your mind, specifically.  For starters, dismiss any ideas of future vacations/children’s eye color until you are well on your way to having an exclusive relationship (AND/OR month 2)!

I’m all for romance and getting a little carried away (that’s part of the fun) - but never risk more than you are willing to lose.  

- Let him know:  There’s nothing wrong with a retort that let’s him know you won’t fall for being futured.  “You haven’t met my 5 cats yet - and I don’t let them meet just anyone. ”  Show that you have perspective, and delivered with a little humor keeps things light.

Great guys can fall prey to this: they get excited too, and may be unconscious of this tendancy. Yet,  some are preditors only after one thing.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Lady,

I had great response from my Ezine over the weekend on what’s Out/In both with our own self, in in the wonder-land of dating and relating!   If you’re not getting my Ezine, be sure to sign up for the free subscription at http://BeLoveSavvy.com !

One savvy lady told me she had just cut her hair off (lots of it!) the day before the issue came out, and had so much fun noticing how she was showing up differently at a party that very night.  She said the short new ‘do gave her an instant injection of sass and playfulness.  How fun!  The best thing, she said, was she knew that once she outgrew this style, she could change it again.  Hair does grow- right along with us. ;-)

 A friend of mine and very savvy Stylist (multiple books & a stint on Oprah are under her belt!) offered to be a guest on an upcoming tele-class of mine.  I can’t wait to ‘play’ with her on the call.  We’ll blend savvy style how-to’s relative to this topic of changing our outer-selves to align with our inner-UPDATED- selves.  The best part about this - during these seemingly uncertain times -  is that you don’t need to go shopping (unless, of course, you want to!).   We can mix things up with what we’ve got - but sometimes we need another mind here - and we’ll have one of a professional sylist!

Sometimes I make  ’just for the day’ changes to make sure I keep myself on my toes - I can get easily bored with my ‘look!’, as you might have read on Friday.   For instance, today I chose not to spend 30 minutes washing & styling my hair.  I threw it back in a loose ponytail - although it was curly from yesterday, so it has some curl (frizz)  to it - and put a little cap on, to try for a casual-sassy look.  I’m spending my day writing and on phone calls, so I could get away with this.  Most importantly, changing up how I presented myself to the world (and to myself!) today allowed me to feel a little bit more free and light = more creative. 

If this is resonating with you,  I challenge you to step out of your comfort zone.  I dare you!

Be sure you are Rep-ra-zentin, savvy girl.

Have some fun!

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

“JOY heals so much faster than saddness and grief, worry and concern.”

-Denise Linn

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

I was in Miami last week attending Fabienne Fredrickson’s “Inner Game of Abundance” Retreat.  It was fabulous.  Fabienne is known for her business “Client Attraction”, and she’s taking things to a new level to realign with her life purpose, and modeling it in a very open and generous way.  My intuition told me to attend as soon as I heard of it, and quickly my mind/Ego tried to shut it downwith “You already know ALL this stuff, Leslie.  What could be of value here?”  Thank G*D I didn’t listen.  It was an incredible, valuable experience!  YAY for shutting down our EGOs - if just for enough time to act on the inner wisdom that is our true guide!

At Fabienne’s retreat, I heard of this analogy that I knew I must share with you.  And that is:  Life is a series of Trapeze Acts.

YOU are swinging on a Trapeze bar - and you need to catch the other one.   You can’t catch the other one, if you don’t let go.  You MUST set sights on the other bar in order to let go.  And you do this with the knowingness that the net is always underneath you, should you need it. 

How many times have you fervently held on to that first bar, swinging as long as it would carry you, until it eventually comes to a halt because you didn’t let go and grab the other bar that was waiting for you?

We can’t grab that bar if we don’t have our eyes focused on it.  Instead, we may hold on to that first bar, with all of our fears and doubts keeping our attention elsewhere, if not our eyes completely closed.  Staying with the familiar - “at least I’m holding - and hanging on- to this bar.”  That known bar is everything from the way you are use to being in the world (putting others first, afraid, selfish, too nice, lost) to situations that you’ve outgrown - you’re ready to catch that next bar of new work, a relationship, a next adventure.

I think of situations that keep us playing small, staying in the ‘knowns’.  We must be willing to step into the unfamiliar, the unknown = the uncomfortable.

The net is always underneath us.  

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Women,

I am enough.

I am enough.

I am enough.

I am enough.

Repeat after me, “I am enough”.

“I am enough”.

What comes up for you when you say this statement to yourself.  Out loud.  Silently.

I’m writing today from Miami Beach, FL where I’m attending a conference on Mind-Set and Inner Abundance.

My heart leapt a little when I was on a tele-call and the Leader announced that she’d be hosting this conference. 

I want to go, I said to myself.  My mind quickly dispelled the thought.  Why?  You do this work here.  Why invest in this - this is many, many professional private sessions and massages.  Ugh. I want - I resist. I ’should’.

I went.  Thank you God.  Thank you Intuition. My resistance came in as “I know this stuff.”  “What can I learn at this?”  As much as I’ve worked on myself - 15 years of personal development in therapy, coaching, intuitive counseling, energy work, meditation, visualization - whew - I’m at another layer of the onion.

Launching my own business has me in a new arena.  Old wounds and beliefs are rearing their heads again.  Whenever we step into new territory in our lives,  we may find that we need to clear through some of the slow, sometimes track-stopping sludge.  Quicksand. 

We all looked at a list of commonly held beliefs.   We circled the ones that hit home as we thought of our businesses, of what are creating for ourselves.  Of what we are here to do: our purpose.

I looked at the “I am not enough”, and I RESISTED circling it, but I did.  We were to look at these circled beliefs, then, and dig deep to find where, specifically by age 7, we had had an experience that made this belief to be true to ourselves.

I won’t go into the background of mine right now, but I , along with the 100 women and men and the Facilitator, all raised our hands acknowledging this one to come up for us.    It’s one of those core false beliefs - “I am not enough” - that comes up for all of us as human beings.

Here’s the truth:  We are ENOUGH.  YOU ARE ENOUGH.

We are all in God/Spirit/Divine - and God/Spirit/Divine are in us.   We are  one.  We are perfect.  And we are here to live this truth.

Let’s get to living what we are to live.   Our heart’s desires.

With love and truth,

From my savvy heart, to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I have this little book of quotes entitled, “Moxie” (www.compendiuminc.com)

All the quotes are full of spirit.   Today I opened it up to this:

“I will dare to just do what I do. Be just what I am. And dance whenever I want to.” 

-Beverly Williams

With love and daring,

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Contact me for a Relationship Breakthrough Session today!