Dear Savvy Woman,

I’ve been receiving your requests for addressing topics, so I’m adding a feature to my regular newsletter (are you signed up?  go here: www.BeLoveSavvy.com/articles.htm and sign up now). Please send me your questions!  ’Anna’ below, wrote about addressing Jealousy & Resentment, and just in case she’s not on my list (Anna, I hope you are!), I’m posting my response where I know she’ll see it.

Dear Leslie,

…I feel like I’ve been so disappointed and almost resentful of the experiences that I’ve had with men in my recent past. I want to let go of the bitterness and jealousy that I know is poisoning my mind and body, but I find it so difficult to get past certain experiences that have left that bad taste in my mouth.  I find myself thinking about my previous relationship, jealous of his new found love. Find myself unsatisfied with my “friends with benefits”. Resentful that he won’t give me what I’m looking for, and even worse, that he has me in a queue with a number of different women…

Thank you so much for your words,

‘Anna’

Dear ‘Anna’,

I can feel your pain, and, I can also feel the anger you hold toward yourself that’s underneath.  I’m going to cut to the chase: whenever we hold resentment towards another, we’re only holding ourselves hostage – NOT them. It’s a victim stance, which will only attract more opportunities that allow you to continue playing ‘victim’ - which I know is not  what you want to create in your life.  Jealousy is like eating a refined-carb breakfast, where as Envy is protein-rich. Jealousy is a toxic emotion and drains your energy, where as Envy is a healthy indicator of desire: something that you yourself want to have, do or be.  And – the very cool thing is - you won’t authentically desire what you aren’t able to experience for yourself!  Here are some transformative steps to take that will un-clutter your heart and mind, and move you forward:

1)      Decide. Decide to let go and forgive. Forgive yourself.  Forgive your ex.  Forgive your FWB. Forgive everyone. Write it all out, anything  & everything that you’re feeling and holding on to.  Then burn it (safely) and toss it. This ritual shows both you and the Universe that you’re clear, decisive, and ready.

2)     Burn the ships = Cut off your FWB’s. They’re taking up precious space and the relationships are making you feel like crap – far from feeling honored, adored, respected and cherished.

3)     Love yourself up! Take a minimum of 21 days (makes a habit).  Cocoon yourself  with daily gestures that authentically soothe, like:  baths, flowers, walks, music, candles, dark chocolate, a good cry, a nice glass of wine, morning affirmations, delicious tea, good girl-time, a new lipstick. This changes your energy while creating excellent self-care.

Believe. And Trust. Trust in the greater good - what’s in divine design for YOU – because it’s unfolding, always.  Please stay in touch and let us know how you loved yourself up!

With love,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

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