This saying is so true.  Recently,  I’ve had a lot of ‘stuff” come up to heal, and I’ve become more brave in facing the pain vs distracting myself in all the various ways I know how and have done in the past.  And have become accustomed to. Breaking patterns can be so damn hard, whatever those patterns may be. For many of us, it includes not feeling our feelings – especially the hard ones, stuck ones, big ones. But when we stop, and feel – we heal. It’s actually the only way, as the other saying that’s on the money on this topic is:  whatever does not get expressed, gets repressed.

We’ve been raised to keep going, never stop, watch the ‘clock’, move on, and replace – like a marathon runner.  Don’t you meet some marathoner’s who look really worn out?  Are you worn out?  If so, where ? Or how?  What are you feeling?

Feel it to heal it.  It’s really simple.  If we allow ourselves to stop and feel into our hearts, especially when it’s hard to, we’ll feel something. It may not be pretty, and that’s OK. It’s more than OK. It’s really, really good actually. The Ugly Duckling that we’ve been relegating to the edge of the pond that is our heart, when given some pond-time, will turn into a Beautiful Swan.

My heart has been healing as I’ve been separated from my husband for a few months now.  For any readers who follow this blog, you heard a little bit about this from me last winter – that we were going through something.  That something has been an intense time of soul-searching, following Truth (inner guidance), and making hard decisions. As private as this journey has been and is for me, I know that I’m meant to share learning and wisdom on the other side of this, and intend to do that.

Through this journey, I’m reminded that love never dies but will always change form at some point, and that following one’s heart can be as painful at times as it is joyous. Especially if you’re someone who loves hard, fast and with loyalty. I still – maybe even more than ever – believe in love, sometimes ‘fast’ love, and loyalty.  What I’m learning, however painfully, is that fine line in relationship, and partnership – as to where to draw the line between loyalty to ‘other’, to ‘relationship’ , and loyalty to one’s Self. It’s a big one, for a lot of us.

Lot’s and lots of pond time going on.  Journaling a few times a day. Getting things out, and feeling into them. Getting back to nature with walks, hikes and simple appreciation. Sessions with my mentor. Getting loved up by beautiful friends and family.

It can be really scary to go into places that you haven’t really been to within yourself, but if you don’t, how can you expect anyone else to nurture, see or care for that part of you? We attract who we are, and where we are emotionally, energetically.  Feel it, love it up, and let go of what you need to.  <3

Much love,

Leslie

Dear Savvy Woman,

A fun and creative way to build a new and compelling  (and ongoing) Vision for yourself is by creating a Vision Box.  Inspired by an exercise in the book ‘Ask & It is Given’ (Hicks), I built one for myself and then introduced it to attendees at my Savvy Woman’s Boot Camp.  It was a huge hit.

See, we all need a Vision that  pulls us forward – without one we can stay stuck and status quo.

Here’s what you need:

A plain or decorative box (shoe box works great)

Decorative wrapping (if you are making your own, ie. shoe box)

Magazines & Scissors

Blank Paper or Flash Cards & colorful pens

Uninterrupted Time

Bonus: Background music, candles, tea or gl. of wine

Take the time to create a comfortable and relaxed state for this, at a time when you are feeling positive and good. Browse through magazines, clipping images and words that exemplify desires you hold.  Don’t sensor yourself.  Next, write down words and statements that reflect what you want to bring into your life.  The sky is the limit with this, and yet listen to what’s authentically appealing and desiring for you.  This can be words like ‘JOY’  ‘Excellent Health’  ‘FUN!’  and statements such as ‘Money easily and effortlessly flows to me’ and ‘I am in a vibrant, reciprocal and loving relationship’. 

And don’t forget any ‘Lists’.  A list of qualities for a new job, a new relationship, or a new home.  Put these in there.

Put this box in your line of sight in room in your home or office, and as you see things that you’d like for your life, drop them in.  You are stating to yourself and to the Universe what you want, and putting it in the box makes it so.  It already ‘is’.  Focusing on what you WANT raises your vibration to attract it in to your life.  ”The more you put into your box, the more the Universe will deliver other ideas to you that match them”, per Hicks.

One benefit of the Box versus a collage or Vision Board is that it’s private.  Place a beautiful box in your space and no one has to know what’s in it – it’s just for you – unless you choose to share.

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

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