Dear Savvy Woman,

1) Oneness - You are already one with the infinite prosperity and infinite supply of the Universe. Ie. think about the ocean - infinite prosperity, supply. Take a cup of water from the ocean, and travel 100 miles. That cup of ocean water is still part of that greater source - the ocean water of which it was taken from. They are the same - One.

Practice a Oneness Mindset

Ex: ‘I am willing to discover my already Oneness with…..’

2) Non-attachment, Non-judgement: A vibration of allowing things into your life. You’re releasing limitation and boundaries, taking away the ’shoulds’ here of how you are attached to how things show up and look in your life.

Ex: the only way I will meet ‘him’ is by successful online dating or being at the right ‘place’

Mantra: There is only one source - an infinite channel

3) Gratitude: One of the most powerful vibrations - it is the vibration of Having. The Universe will begin to give you back more Havingness. Where your attention goes is where your energy flows. Express Gratitude, you can’t do this enough.

4) Cultivate Your Desire to Create or to Give: When we’re caught up in scarcity, we’re focused on GETTING rather than GIVING. This is coming from lack - and as like attracts like - lack attracts more of the same. Giving from a place of gratitude and abundance.

“The more I spend, the more I receive” - Joe Vitale

5) Active Receptivity: The mindset that guides your actions towards prosperity. You must act on these opportunities that the Universe sends you. Inspired action, rather than of the action of willful control or fear.

Ex: “I am open and receptive to clear guidance from the Universe.”

“I intend to take inspired action to show the Universe that I am open, expanded and committed to my greatest JOY.”

To your success,

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Melanie Notkin, the founder of www.SavvyAuntie.com, where I contribute articles on Be-ing Love Savvy (check it out their fun resources/gift ideas/community), recently asked me if I would be interested in writing an article on texing and dating. I’m going to post a little something here to get things going as I’ve felt a little writer’s block recently.

The Good: Texting can be an easy, instant way to communicate. I often hear my single clients and friends exclaiming things like, “He texted me right away!” (after meeting); “The text he sent after our date was SOOOO sweet (thoughtful…polite…and of course, the ‘other’ category).

The Bad: Texting gives instant access, which can be bad. The ‘date’ almost gets taken out of dating, in a way. Now, if you fall victim to it, you are messaging back with ‘Joe’, whom you met out earlier in the night, and Joe’s (and you too, perhaps) feeling mighty relaxed - after a banter of 6 messages, he decides to ask you out via text. And then he sends a text ‘running late.’ After the first date, which you realize was based upon meeting and conversing with him while intoxicated on both wine and ‘text-fever’, neither which are grounded in reality, you don’t return his text the following day. Joe texts, ‘What’s up, sugar? Missing you.’. What happens next can be….

The Ugly: Just like ‘Drunk Dialing’, texting can get dangerously ugly. With or without being fueled by intoxication. It’s a steeper slope than email - you know, that loss of inhibitions we’ve all been on one or both ends of, venting or confessing through written word and the ‘Send’ button. It’s steeper because it’s so accessible and so instant, and you don’t need to formally address anyone, either. Joe may be a real stand up guy (or at least at one time was). Problem is, we begin to get comfy in our habits, and things get reduced to the lowest common denominator. Texting. People are breaking up via texting, people are receiving texts that they shouldn’t be (oops - watch that address book!), and on and on it goes.

Hmmm…feeling a little warmed up.

Feel free to send me your thoughts and comments - I’d love to hear from you!

Do you feel that texting in dating and relating is a hindrence? A benefit? Both?

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

This quote, taken from Napolean Hill’s classic (1937) “Think and Grow Rich”, is one that very simply and accurately describes the journey to prosperity - be it fortune of money, fortune of happiness, fortune of peace and love.

“Every person who has accumulated a great fortune has recognized the existence of this stream of life. It consists of one’s thinking process. The positive emotions of thought form the side of the stream that carries one to fortune. The negative emotions form the side that carries one down to poverty.”

My coaching and mentoring work with clients leans heavily on this subject, because our thoughts simply create our realities. You have to take a look at what your thoughts are. Do you know what you’re even thinking? It’s a very slippery slope as our thinking is so automatic, it can be so ingrained and conditioned, and much of it happens without us being CONSCIOUS of it.

As they say in the twelve step program AA, ‘Your best thinking got you here.’

Please be careful here in terms of the Ego thoughts that might be coming up right now - always looking to be superior and ‘right’ - that might be saying, ‘Oh, I already KNOW this. Tell me something new.’

I suffer from this. I think we all do, even those of us that are most evolved on the planet. It really is a continual shedding, a removal of the layers. Every time you find yourself stepping into something bigger, or something new - it is essential to just notice your thoughts.

For example, you’ve decided that you’re truly desiring to be available for a relationship. No more funny business and avoidance tactics or playing small.

1) Take time to step back as if you are an observer of your mind and your thinking, and give some space for your thoughts to bubble up as you look at this ’statement of intent’.

2) Stay honest and vulnerable here, and write down the ugly, fearful, deepest thoughts that come up.

“What the hell do I know about relationships?”

“Yeah right, he’s not out there.”

“It’s impossible to have a happy relationship today.”

“Why do I want commitment anyway, everyone gets divorced.”

“Who is going to love me?”

The more you get acquainted with this dark closet of thoughts and own that they swim in your head from time to time, the better your swim in the stream of prosperity. So don’t deny your shadow thoughts.

3. These are thoughts, and thoughts are things. They are actually units of energy, as physicists have discovered. But these aren’t TRUE. Only you, and I, and all of us in our thoughts, make them so.

4. Change your thoughts. For every thought that surfaces that you acknowledge and write down, create a new thought, one that reflects your desire and vision for yourself.

” I know a lot about relationships.” (You do, you’ve been in them your entire life. Everything is relationship).

“He’s out there, waiting for me, and ,’he’ could be anywhere.” (Not just online, not just at a bar, not just in your dream).

“Many people have healthy relationships. I am one of them!”

You get the picture.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I am writing this as I scramble to pack bags and water plants (our only dependants at the moment), all the while trying to rest as much as possible. Why do we get sick right before a big event? I know for me, I was pushing it to the max these past weeks in preparation for this trip to Argentina with my honey, Larry.

This trip was largely my idea as far as the timing of it goes. Because my husband is ramping up his own business this year, and also planned our 14 day trip last summer to Italy for our honeymoon, he was all for Argentina, but asked me to own most of the planning. And I was more than happy to! We also have different ideas of how to plan. I can peruse a few websites and get an instant intuitive ‘hit’ or feel as to if it’s a place for me or not, for instance, with a hotel search. Larry, on the other hand, spends an hour on Trip Advisor combing through the customer reviews to weigh in on his decision - bless his heart. It always pays off..but then again, I have a pretty good track record for choosing things on the fly instictively, and successfully. Opposites attract.

So, we’re on the eve of our long-awaited trip to the beautiful land of Argentina, filled with gorgeous people and rich culture, history and beauty. We’ll be traveling to only two cities, Buenos Aries and Barlioche. I really wanted to ‘hunker down’ in just a few places. My idea of vacation isn’t schlepping bags every night or two, so that we can pack in as many towns and sights as possible. Perhaps in my younger days ;-). Well, I look forward to sharing some stories and pictures with you when I return!

In the meantime, live love and live life!

Ps. I have to say, I feel a new layer of pride and appreciation, as an American, as we travel to another country, on the heels of this Presidential Election.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

It’s Election Day…

I don’t ‘do politics’ nor formalized religion, in terms of engaging in public (or much personal) debate and attempting to persuade or squash other opinion.    This doesn’t mean that I’m not active nor have an opinion or personal point of view!  I just don’t find the process of such debate that joyous , electrifying or  satisfying for me, personally.

I’m happy to have just completed my vote and it feels good to be doing my part.  Without going into this any deeper, all I will say is THANK G*D WE WILL BE SEEING SOME CHANGE as a country, and globally.

Speaking of change, I want to share something with you that I came across last night reviewing one of my notebooks.  I recently heard David Neagle speak at the retreat I attended given by Fabienne Fredrickson on “Inner Game of Abundance”.   I’m on David’s list so I receive his messages through his Ezine and audio’s,  and I find him , as many do,  so incredibly clear as a communicator of the Universal  laws and principles that have existed for thousands and thousands of years.  He makes things SO clear, SO simple.  But you can’t be fooled by the simplicity.  Mastering these teachings takes tremendous focus, willpower and study, to say the least. I hope to continue to improve the application of these in my life…

So, I’m reviewing my notes from David’s presentation at the retreat,  and I came across this statement & quote that is SO the Truth.  So the Truth!

“The minute you let go of the thing you’re not willing to let go of, the Universe responds IMMEDIATELY.”

I’ll share with you a few  of my own examples of this Truth:

-          As soon as I let go of a FEAR of ‘needing’ a (toxic)  corporate job to keep me afloat in life – and literally jumped out of a plane that weekend to symbolize it – I am let go (a company off) the following day.  (And I needed the Universal ‘push’.  Both of them!)

-          As soon as I let go of sabotaging behavior & certain patterns with men and begin to listen to my Higher Self, I meet my now husband , Larry (within weeks).

-          As soon as I let go of the fear of ‘what other people think of me’(a work in progress, but I’m much less white-knuckled about it now) , and let my voice be heard and my Higher Self gets greater visibility, I receive signs – opportunities – acknowledgement (the kind that keeps me inspired to continue stepping out as my Higher Self, not the kind that feeds my need , based on the fear, to continue to play small).

Here is to changes of the highest order!

From my savvy heart, to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

This morning I woke up early, and I sat in my office curled up on my cozy couch (which has followed me through the years - single life to married life), breathing in the stillness and reading from a spiritual book,  Working with the Law, by Raymond Holliwell.  This is my church.  Reading and journaling in the morning is a consistent way for me to connect with myself, Spirit, and the oneness of us all, and of the Universe.

I want to share with you this passage that I read this morning from the chapter Law of Forgiveness.

“As we forgive those who transgress against us, so shall we be forgiven of our transgressions.  This law has followed us down through time, and today we speak of it as thought it were something new; we call it “modern psychology”. The Law reads that certain ideas must be dissolved and cleared from the mind in order that other ideas or new ideas of a different character may replace them.  It may be explained as a bottle that is already full which must be emptied before it can be refilled or added to.

For example, if you hold in your mind that someone has wronged you or has treated you unjustly, you cannot be free from your wrongdoings or injustice so long as you hold that thought in your consciousness.”

I liken this example, and simplify it, to that of YES and NO.   What we want to say YES to as we are desiring growth and change, ie.  A New Job,  Healthy Friendships, A Juicy Committed Relationship - we must say No to things that keep our container full so as not to make room for and receive these YES’s, ie.  Work that keeps us low and small, Toxic Friendships, Sleeping with an Ex that we are not moving forward with, but keeps us company on lonely nights and on some or many levels, keeps us attached and unavailable.

Often, we walk around with Unforgiveness in our hearts and minds.  Maybe they are large, small, or a combination of the two.  No matter.  Any time we have Unforgiveness in our hearts, minds and beings - we are a full containter, a full bottle as Holliwell states above.  It only hurts ourselves, our own growth, and the lives that we are creating on a moment to moment basis.

This is not simple, not as simple as it sounds. I know.  It’s something I continually work on myself.  It does get easier, bit by bit, and the hold that my ego/mind has on wronging someone or something, and sitting in Unforgiveness, gets weaker and weaker.   It’s liberating, as I notice the lightness of my load as I step into this Truth that I’m only getting in my own way by holding tight, and  by not practicing Forgiveness.

Write down three things/people/circumstances with which you are aware you are holding unforgiveness (you feel resentment and/or anger towards, a little or a lot).

And now, decide that you will forgive them/the situation/the circumstance.  Just decide.  Your decision is for your greater good.  _Perhaps your ego/mind resists this as it feels as if you are giving permission, acquiescing, rolling over.  Don’t be fooled. You’re not.  This is one of the most loving acts you can do for yourself.  Let go of this resentment and free yourself up for all the good that wants to be expressed through you.

With love,

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I love, love, love this  & had to share:

“I’ve always believed in magic. When I wasn’t doing anything in this town, I’d go up every night, sit on Mulholland Drive, look out at the city, stretch out my arms, and say, “Everybody wants to work with me. I’m a really good actor. I have all kinds of great movie offers.”  I’d just repeat these things over and over, literally convincing myself that I had a couple of movies lined up. I’d drive down that hill, ready to take on the world, going, “Movie offers are out there for me, I just don’t hear them yet.” It was like total affirmations, antidotes to the stuff that stems from my family background.”

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete, and yet life is ever changing.

There is no beginning and no end, only a constant cycling and recycling of substance and experiences.

Life is never stuck or static or stale, for each moment is ever new and fresh.  I am one with the very Power that created me, and this Power has given me the power to create my own circumstances.  I rejoice in the knowledge that I have the power of my own mind to use in any way I choose.  Every moment of life is a new beginning point as we move from the old.  This moment is a new point of beginning for me right here and right now.  All is well in my world.

- Louise Hay

Take a breathe.

Ahhhhhhhh.

From my savvy & abundant heart, to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Yes, I did mean futured.

What is futured, you ask?

You’ve been there.  You’re on a date with ‘Joe’, a first date.  Joe not only shows up on time, with flowers, and takes you to a lovely restaurant for dinner and a bottle of wine, but that’s just the beginning.  Even if you’re date-deprived and loving the gestures, you haven’t even begun to “Mr. Right?” him, believe it or not.  Until…

Joe futures you.“Have you been to Yosemite?…We rent a huge house there every Fall, we’ll have to go on one of the week-ends I’ll have it to myself - it’s s000 nice to jacuzzi after a long hike.  I can’t wait to take you there.”  You are now noticing, between bites of steak and sips of Zinfandel, that your mind wanders to imagine how he’ll fit in with your family, what travel you can do first, perhaps even if you’ll have the same taste on your registry.

I think many of us who do (or have done, in our lives) our fair share of dating have been here -  yes?

I recall a specific guy that I dated , and our first date.  WOW - did he future me.  Talks of trips, the fact that we both fantasized about living in Spain - it went on and on.  And - guess what?   I WAS HOOKED.  The following 6 weeks were like I was under some sort of spell.  Things went fast - and then crashed and burned. 

I write this as a friendly reminder.  Beware of being futured.  The smartest and savviest of women can - and do - fall prey. 

Tips to stay conscious and futured-aware:

-  Proof is in the Pudding - make this your rule:  Keep control of the pace that feels right to you, and by this I mean the pace of your mind, specifically.  For starters, dismiss any ideas of future vacations/children’s eye color until you are well on your way to having an exclusive relationship (AND/OR month 2)!

I’m all for romance and getting a little carried away (that’s part of the fun) - but never risk more than you are willing to lose.  

- Let him know:  There’s nothing wrong with a retort that let’s him know you won’t fall for being futured.  “You haven’t met my 5 cats yet - and I don’t let them meet just anyone. ”  Show that you have perspective, and delivered with a little humor keeps things light.

Great guys can fall prey to this: they get excited too, and may be unconscious of this tendancy. Yet,  some are preditors only after one thing.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Lady,

I had great response from my Ezine over the weekend on what’s Out/In both with our own self, in in the wonder-land of dating and relating!   If you’re not getting my Ezine, be sure to sign up for the free subscription at http://BeLoveSavvy.com !

One savvy lady told me she had just cut her hair off (lots of it!) the day before the issue came out, and had so much fun noticing how she was showing up differently at a party that very night.  She said the short new ‘do gave her an instant injection of sass and playfulness.  How fun!  The best thing, she said, was she knew that once she outgrew this style, she could change it again.  Hair does grow- right along with us.

 A friend of mine and very savvy Stylist (multiple books & a stint on Oprah are under her belt!) offered to be a guest on an upcoming tele-class of mine.  I can’t wait to ‘play’ with her on the call.  We’ll blend savvy style how-to’s relative to this topic of changing our outer-selves to align with our inner-UPDATED- selves.  The best part about this - during these seemingly uncertain times -  is that you don’t need to go shopping (unless, of course, you want to!).   We can mix things up with what we’ve got - but sometimes we need another mind here - and we’ll have one of a professional sylist!

Sometimes I make  ’just for the day’ changes to make sure I keep myself on my toes - I can get easily bored with my ‘look!’, as you might have read on Friday.   For instance, today I chose not to spend 30 minutes washing & styling my hair.  I threw it back in a loose ponytail - although it was curly from yesterday, so it has some curl (frizz)  to it - and put a little cap on, to try for a casual-sassy look.  I’m spending my day writing and on phone calls, so I could get away with this.  Most importantly, changing up how I presented myself to the world (and to myself!) today allowed me to feel a little bit more free and light = more creative. 

If this is resonating with you,  I challenge you to step out of your comfort zone.  I dare you!

Be sure you are Rep-ra-zentin, savvy girl.

Have some fun!

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com