Posts Tagged ‘life coach’

Women in Relationship ~ Tip #5

Friday, September 18th, 2009

Dear Savvy Woman,

Happy Friday, and to those of you celebrating the Jewish New Year, Happy New Year!

For this final post  on tips, truths and tricks to navigate dating and relating, I’m sharing an article I recently wrote for www.SavvyAuntie.com, Melanie Notkin’s very savvy site dedicated to the lifestyle of PANKs, Professional Auntie No Kids, where I’m a regular contributor. 

Tip #5 ~  Unleash Your Inner Self-Care Vixen!

I’m SO, SO passionate about this topic because it’s the foundation for not just successful dating and relating, but simply for making the most of your life in every area.   When don’t feel good we show up in a more limited way than when we  feel good about ourselves. 

Here’s what I’m talking about: http://tinyurl.com/qa6roz

Big love,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Immerse Yourself for Success

Thursday, August 6th, 2009

Immerse yourself…

In loving thoughts of Self. 

In a Vision of what you desire for relationship, career, life-style.

In a Mind-set that supports your highest good.

Madame Johnson, my high-school French teacher, always spoke of the need to study the language in France in an immersion program as the only way to become truly fluent.  Often, we need to immerse ourselves for success ( I didn’t go..), especially in these modern times of distraction and too many competing priorities.  We can get spread too thin and our results become diluted.

When I worked with a physical trainer years and years ago, he had me immersed.  I was journaling my food every day, cooking in more (and brown-bagging lunches more), weighing in regularly, and scheduling all my workouts and routines beyond my sessions with him.  Had I not, I know I wouldn’t have been as successful.

When I hired past coaches, to help me up-level my life in various areas, my work with them had (and has) me immersed.  I’m immersed into new thoughts and beliefs that support me taking new actions.   

These ‘immersions’ become COI (centers of influence) in your life.  They don’t demand that you cast out your entire way of be-ing, but rather they bring a strong influence that acts as a sort of hand to hold, as you step up and step out developing new patterns, behaviors and - new results.

I help clients immerse themselves into new perspectives - new ways of thinking and being.  Immersing themselves in a new way of self-care shifts what they experience on the ‘outside’ = in the world.  When we fill up internally, we feel more confident.  ‘People play small when they feel small’, says T.Harv Eker  All that’s required is a shift in perspective and taking new actions. Baby-steps or leaps, they both will serve you well.  By immersing ourselves - and in ways that we can incorporate easily into our lives - we yield amazing new results.

A few ideas in how to Immerse yourself this August:

1)  Spend a day at the beach, sans cell phone.  Pack a journal to capture ideas and thoughts, but let yourself be free to the present moment and follow your bliss. 

2) Even better, decide to take a weekend away alone.  Check into a hotel that makes you feel comfortable and well taken care of, and delight in new explorations both ‘inside’ yourself and ‘outside’.  Allow yourself to luxuriate in your surroundings, in your free time and in this free space to *BE*.  Notice what thoughts and inspirations come to you, and act on them.  This information is coming as a download from Spirit and your Higher Self.  Enroll a friend if you need to to keep you accountable. 

3) Create a Sacred Space in your day by either assigning a place, or time of day - and use this time to read or listen to inspirational audio.  Morning is the most ideal time as it will set the tone for your day.  Meditation is a wonderful way to immerse into a new realm of being. 

4)  Turn up the volume even more by hiring a Mentor or join a Coaching Group.

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Feel Your Power

Monday, July 13th, 2009

Dear Savvy Woman,

Feel your power.  Feel the power of your breath. Feel the power of your sound. Feel the power of your love. Feel the power of your forgiveness. Feel the power of your willingness to change. Feel your power. You are beautiful.You are a divine, magnificent being. You deserve all good, not just some, but all good. Feel your power.  Be at peace with it, for you are safe. Welcome this new day with open arms and with love. And so it is.”

This is a meditation taken from the book, “The Power is Within You“, by Louise Hay (a magnificent woman who’s been so far ahead of her time).

How do you feel - what do you think - what do you believe - when you read this above meditation?

I work with women who are ready to create more in their lives - to expand - and to live their desires.  Sometimes it takes a while before they give themselves permission to want what they want - and to believe that it’s theirs for the making. 

Having a coach enables them to step into bigger shoes, and it starts with allowing oneself to envision it, to fully believe it (sometimes we have blocks, one or many), to receivetheir greater good (oy, is it tough for us women sometimes to receive), and to take inspired actions.

Personally, working with a coach and coaching group has not only changed my life, but it truly supports me at times when taking a step and making a change feels so SCARY, or I’m stuck (I get stuck sometimes, too) on  the HOW? on a new step, and it’s simply stopping me from taking action (also fear-based).  And sometimes, I just revel in knowing I have that call on Thursday morning with the group and I can be with others who support me in feeling my power.

I invite you to take a look at the Success Circle program that just launched. It’s all about receiving coaching, feedback & company of San Francisco women who want to feel their power - and act on it.  Women who are looking to up-level their lives and sense they would benefit from inspiration, focus and some accountability to keep them moving.  Is this you?

New members will join in on August 5th!  

Questions?  Feel free to email me directly: leslie@belovesavvy.com.

To your personal power,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

 

Be Willing To Take Your Own Journey

Tuesday, June 30th, 2009

Dear Savvy Friend,

Recently I’ve had a few reminders of the importance of this Truth when it comes to going for your dreams; whether it’s to have a loving, reciprocal relationship - build a business around a vision-  or simply to live a rich life with lots of FUN and reward.

You must be willing to take your own journey.  And by this, I mean wake up to YOU, what YOU need, and what’s in your heart. Despite being perhaps a very independent woman in the world, are you honoring your needs and desires-  in what you want to create for yourself both in relationship and in life?

When you do, when you step out into the true unknown, and you ‘burn the ships’ (your safety nets of old, outworn patterns, and sometimes things, like a relationship if it’s not going to work, job or friendships) - this is when you truly are ‘carried’. You’re carried out of the ‘unwanted’ and ‘outgrown’, and into a new land of your dreams.

Taking our own journey means keeping our eye on ‘our prize’. 

I remember when I was single and feeling ‘less-than’ because the man I was dating wasn’t showing up for me the way I needed him to (as in letting down his guards, planning more for the future, etc) and how, rather than honor my needs, my heart and my vision, I would continue to look at how I could be different - sexier, more confident, more beautiful, more witty, more successful.  All I needed to do was love myself enough to admit, ‘Yikes. This doesn’t feel so great’, and then step out on faith and belief that my desire wanted me just as much as I wanted it. (You can replace this relationship desire with anything: health, finances, new employment, entrepreneurship).  

Once those two click in, loving myself enough and stepping out into my own journey on faith, the steps to show myself and the Universe that I was serious about my desire became much easier, despite including sometimes painful choices that would scare the hell out of me.  And still do, as I am applying this to the creation of my business and working for myself now.

Often I notice that if we don’t love our selves enough (self-worth) and/or are clear on what our desire is (we’re not slowing down enough to know but rather are responding to life so we don’t have clarity OR we’re doing the ‘who am i?’ thing  which is also self-worth, because often when we vision and dream, or listen to the calling we still don’t dream big enough), nor believe it’s possible - we simply stay stuck.  And then, when things fall out with the relationship that we were settling in, we wonder what happened and analyze it to death and often blame ourselves.  Or, we stay in the job that we can’t stand but pays the bills and yet shrivel up so much inside that we’re assuaging our pain and stuckness with everything under the sun, and long for a different way to live but as the days click on our belief, dreams, and action steps get more and more suppressed.

When things were hitting rock-bottom with an ex-boyfriend, I finally decided that was it. It took rock-bottom, however. Then, I simply changed my mind and decided.  This was it! The work came then in healing my heart, developing my faith & belief even further, and stepping out.  Living and having fun in new ways. And as soon as I loved myself enough to do things differently and follow that bliss, I met my husband Larry. I hope that we’re blessed with a long, sweet, rich life - living and loving together.  AND, I know that I’m ultimately on my own journey - as each of us are.

To yours,

With love ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

What Aphrodite - Goddess of Love - Can Teach Us

Monday, June 15th, 2009

Dear Savvy Woman,

Aphrodite is the alluring Greek Goddess of love, beauty and fertility.  Although she reigned over these aspects of life that are feminine and often  perceived as ’soft’, she wielded A LOT of power through her embodiment of them.  This was both very appealing to others, AND  extremely effective in serving her own agenda.

Aphrodite can teach us a thing or two.

Not too long ago I was a woman strung out by what seemed like a perpetual broken heart, false beliefs and as a result - small living.  Aphrodite slinked in one lonely, frustrated evening and whispered in my ear, “It’s about YOU, sister, not them. Focus on YOU.”   I’ll share here with you some of Aphrodite’s teachings - how I apply them to my life  - and how you may want to, too.

Aphrodite is hyper-awake to her own needs. Well….I woke up. I listened to what I needed.  I began to put myself first (and had some ‘assistance’ at times for sure, like the boyfriend who was depressed and had to force me out the door, because he knew he couldn’t give to me).  I cried. I wrote. I listened to my heart. I dared to try new things. Bold things. I had a new kind of FUN.  I began to honor myself on an entirely new level.  It felt exhilarating and a bit out of control - the good version -  at the same time.  What might you be needing to awaken to?

Aphrodite adorns herself , and beautifully so. I dared to adorn myself.  I started pushing my own envelope with jewelry in particular. No more corporate job meant a liberty to wear bolder jewlery - more striking pieces.  This felt like a big deal to me. But I had always looked at these women who seemed so flowy and feminine, yet bold (Aphrodite-ish) - and I didn’t quite own that part of myself that was like them. So I began to.  When I started wearing jewelry that I was so attracted to, I expressed that part of me too, and it felt WONDERFUL.  It changed my energy in impactful ways.  When you feel good, others can feel that. It’s VERY attractive.  How do you  adorn yourself ?

Aphrodite stands in her own point of focus in relationship.  She doesn’t self-abandon for her lover’s approval, or just to be in relationship.  This was an area I had a lot to learn (and always can continue to improve upon). I began to speak my truth more.  I even swung the pendulum a bit far right (like we do sometimes when in new territory) before it swayed to middle ground.  For example, there was that second date that never got to dinner because I walked out after drinks, with no excuses, just the hard truth (delivered honestly) that I didn’t need dinner, or another date.  Nowadays, my practice is often checking in with myself and my needs regularly, and especially at those times when my sometimes-brazen and loving husband pitches an idea that I’m not quite sure about - for me.  Friends compliment my ability to not abandon myself , or them for that matter, in my relationship with my husband.  I’m grateful for the witnessing. It’s a delicate dance, for sure.  Are you standing in your own point of focus within your relationship (reminder: this breathes more fire and life into your relationship, not just you!) ?

To your Aphrodite-living,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Compassion = Attraction-rich

Tuesday, May 12th, 2009

Dear Savvy Woman,

I wonder what this world would be like if we all had a little more compassion for ourselves and for each other? I think we’re dipping out toe in - collectively - as anyone who had any money in the stock market got a slap in the face, as well as tremendous amounts of people have lost or are losing their jobs and sometimes their entire career-long industry…

We’re all in this experience together.

Compassion softens us. It softens our resistance.  Our ego and defenses get a big Hug.  An ‘it’s ok… you can take a break. No need to stand guard 24/7.’

Compassion is SO attraction-rich.   It feels counter-intuitive if your thinking mind (Ego) is in survival-mode and heavily marinating in the scarcity-thinking tank.  It makes us receptive.  It opens up opportunity to connect. To get real. To reveal. To be seen and to see. People attract and connect. Relationships blossom.

I recently had several high school folks  - people I knew in high school ;-) - write me after connecting on FB - about how I always was nice to them and that they appreciated it.  High school can be such an awkward and impressionable time in life, can’t  it?  Receiving this touched my heart.  See, I was one of those girls who hung out in the ‘in crowd’, yet I was so dis-empowered inside that I didn’t pursue things like song-girl ( i secretly longed to perform & dance and love now watching So You Think You Can Dance) or traveling with the French class abroad.  Things that my spirit longed for.  My family was doing the best they could but we had dysfunction and - back then - I thought I might be the ‘only’ one.  And, that pain I carried around with me gave me compassion and connection with others that might not look or act like me on the ‘outside’.  (The movie,’ The Moses Code’, is a great movie to watch on this theme - sort of The Secret-ish).

If we all wake up, or dig deep, we can all get in touch with that place inside that feels humbled, that feels pain or sorrow or heart-ache. Connecting to our human condition reminds us that we’re all in this together…that constant competition is NOT the winning state of being….and that softening up can actually bring you into more awareness, which leads to more confidence and personal power.  It can feel so uncomfortable to go there, yet when you do you not only awaken a part of yourself but you can bridge that to help others.  Help yourself, help others - and along the way - relationships - and life get fuller, deeper, richer and more alive.  

Now, how attraction-rich is that?

With love,

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

Mercury-Retrograde Living

Friday, May 8th, 2009

Dear Savvy Woman,

By now you know that I do follow Astrological happenings - I’ve actually become much more attracted to planetary transits and what they bring, than I have the ‘What’s your sign?’ stuff - which I use to be *ruled* by, or so it felt.

So today I had a huge Mercury Retrograde *slap* in the face when my tele-class was in the works for a 10am start, and I could not, for the life of me, get on the line.  This is the second time , in only a matter of about 5 total calls I’ve held thus far in my BeLoveSavvy.com career, that this has happened to me.  I’ll place bets the last was in a Merc Retrograde, i’m curious to look back now…

So my aunt, who is a wonderful therapist and Savvy Woman, had told me yesterday that she wanted to make the call… and she poked me at 5 after the hour with a ‘where are you - we’re sitting here on the line wondering where you are…’.  Needless to say, it can feel quite frustrating to be caught by  Mercury Retrograde.  Things un-explainably may happen in a seemingly negative fashion with your computer, car, communications, contracts - all these things can suddenly have odd ‘issues’.     I had all the right call -in information this morning for me to get on the call line as the ‘Host’ - yet it wasn’t working.  5 tries and 2 phones later, I finally got on, a little frazzled.

I read that all the “Re’s” are what you must take-in and surround yourself with during this 3-week period (that I believe ends somewhere around the 27th of May),  such as:

  • REvise
  • REpair
  • REview
  • REconnect
  • REevaluate and
  • REdo
  • REnew

“They” say don’t launch anything major, don’t sign anything that’s significant, and take lots of time for things and have a back-up plan.

Just a little FYI from a believer. ;-)

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

In a Funk? Try this….

Wednesday, April 29th, 2009

Dear Savvy Woman,

This is in ’Life Improvement 101′,  and it will amaze me when I forget it in my own life - which I can and do!

Although recently I began implementing it into new areas of my life - some areas I hadn’t given myself permission to apply this to in the past - and it’s simply rocking my world!

Do you want to rock your world - shake things up a little bit with yourself?

Well, then….Drum-roll please…

Take INSPIRED actions, only.  What do I mean by this?  Well, I can bet you are like most of us living in this modern life, which is that we are leading very busy lives. So busy in fact that often everything just kind of runs together, gets more and more busy and overwhelming, and eventually you either flat-line in apathy (maybe without knowing it) or you stay on the merry-go-round getting so out of touch with your authentic self and without a minute to spare.  But that’s truly it’s own topic that deserves it’s own attention.

Taking INSPIRED action means both responding to things if and when you feel inspired to do so.  It also applies to -quite beautifully - when you are looking to do the BIG things; the steps that have you feeling trepidation because they are NEW and UNKNOWN.

The brilliance of this, and I can say I am continually surprised, is that energetically everything aligns when you take inspired action.  Rather than operating from shoulds, indecision, or resentment, by taking inspired actions only you align with what’s true for you which aligns with the Universe and it just feels so light and breezy-easy. 

This apples to everything from deciding what you want to do tonight, to who to call back, to placing calls for information-interviews while you’re job hunting.  What happens is that we often act on reaction, or out of ‘musts’ and ’shoulds’.   We also wimp out when we don’t feel inspired and we’re facing something that feels daunting and unknown.

Things to do to get inspired and into action:

- Get a little quiet.  Pause before you return a call from a negative friend and check in with yourself - is this a Yes or a No?  Give yourself permission to say NO to doing something that may have just become habit.

-Tap into your VISION (don’t have one? search my blog for Vision Box, Mind Movies, etc).   Does this action or response you’re looking to take align? 

-When you’re stepping out & up into something new, focus on  making decisions and taking inspired actions based on where you want to be, not from where you are currently.

Believe me, this isn’t always easy and it takes some awareness  practice, but the dots connect and connect and like any good habit, it becomes easier and more natural as you go along.  I promise.

Much love,

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Job or Relationship Hunting? Be Mischievious…Pt. 1

Tuesday, April 21st, 2009

Stepping outside ‘the box’ in approaching ’big’ things in  life such as love - or job hunting/career changes - health & wealth creation - can seem so daunting and hence, that’s why the majority of us simply DON’T.  And I’m not discluding myself from this majority, either.  Part of the inspiration here for this blog is to share with you that when I have, immediate results came - and miraculously.   Am I consistent with this approach - absolutely not.  But it sure as heck inspires me to step out again and again out of my comfort zone as I look at both my past and my current reality - what’s worked -  and where I want to go being who I want to be. We all have our ‘growth edge’ - coaches too - and that’s why coaches need coaches and CEO’s need coaches.

What’s interesting is that in Timothy Ferriss’ book, The 4 Hour Work Week, which I’m currently reading, he talks about not just thinking outside the box but ACTING outside the box.  I read that this morning, and then during my workout at the gym this morning (so painful in this gorgeous heat wave in SF currently, but necessary…) I saw a segment on the Today show about job hunting in the New Economy and the dire importance of stepping out of your comfort zone.

Whether you’re job hunting or relationship hunting (or looking to create new and impactful results in ANY area of your life such as those mentioned at the start of this post) - results lie in doing it differently.   BE-ING different than you’ve been, and ACTING differently than you have.  As humans we’re creatures of habit, as we all know.  So, it’s important to ’scare yourself’ - do those actions and that thinking that has you feeling a little out of ‘control’ and also a little *mischievous*.  Yes, mischievous.  With yourself.  See, when you act, think and BE ‘different’ than you’ve been, it can feel thrillingly mischievous, because what you’re doing is busting out of your own box and breaking your own rules.

For example, after a year+ out of corporate work, with my apartment in storage, a failed relationship left in Toronto where I had been playing but not earning or saving -  and,  a uncomfortable bed at my parents - I needed a J-O-B - and fast!  But I wanted to switch industries, AND I didn’t want to take a pay cut for doing so. In fact, I wanted to make more money than I ever had before (I’m sure you can relate).  I interviewed for a great opportunity - and I was intent on getting it.   How could I set myself apart from the competition?   An idea popped in to my head as I wrote a thank you note:  send the note with a roll of scotch tape.  It felt slightly OUT THERE to me.   Why the tape?   The gentleman - and my future bosses boss - that I had just interviewed with, had played with a piece of scotch tape as we talked and apologized to me , saying it was a bad but necessary habit of his. I felt a little mischievous sending the tape -but it worked (and he later coo-berated that it worked). I got the job and earned more than I ever had before, in a new industry. 

Stay tuned for Part 2, and how to be mischievous in love…

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

A very savvy Chinese Proverb says…

Thursday, April 16th, 2009

Dear Savvy Woman,

 

If you want 1 year of Prosperity, grow Seeds

If you want 10 years of Prosperity, grow Trees

If you want a Lifetime of Prosperity, grow your Self Worth.

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com