Dear Savvy Woman,

This week I’m writing daily with a tip each day geared to women in relationship.  I’d love to hear your experiences and thoughts, and especially your challenges, so please send them my way via this blog or DM me on Twitter @LoveSavvyLeslie. 

Relationship Tip #1 ~ Be The Solution

We all know how easy it is to point the finger at the other person in a relationship, or situation.  Just as a manager wants her employees to come bearing solutions, not just problems, you and your relationship will benefit when you step into the perspective of ‘What Can I Give Here?’.   Now, I don’t mean always taking the burden of blame and responsibility, and becoming some over-giving robot, *far from*.   But what I know to be true is that whenever we feel something is lacking in a situation, we can choose to lean into it – rather than step away and wait for the situation to change on it’s own and from the other person- and show up before we give up.

For instance, if I feel like I am wanting more appreciation from my husband, I can sit and think thoughts of what he is doing wrong, what I don’t receive that I’d like to, etc.  But that just impacts me negatively (at least when I start stewing ;-)), and in turn us.  What I can choose to do instead is begin flowing appreciation to myself, my experience in today, life, etc , and then to him.   I can then decide to take an action that I know he appreciates from me – even though I started in the place of wanting him to ‘show me’.  By doing so, not only do I end up feeling better about myself (what can be underneath the need to have him appreciate me)  but it always shifts something for us, and he’ll get into his own appreciation-mode if that’s truly been lacking.  Now, this can be *excruciating* at times (our ego’s at work), and it can feel a lot easier (and sometimes it’s warranted) to simply point a finger! Trust me, I know.  And I know that ultimately we feel better knowing we’ve given a situation, and a relationship, the best of us.

Love,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Sister,

Don’t for a minute doubt that where you are is where you will always be, or that you can’t have experiences beyond your wildest dreams.

Our doubts begin to creep in (and creep UP) the moment we start to step out more into our light.  It’s that inner critic that says, “Who are you foolin?”  “Why would it get better than this – be grateful for what you already have, gf.”  “Who are YOU?”.

Often, we don’t even know we’re doing this. 

Are you feeling:

-Tired of the same, ‘ol – same ‘ol?  BORED.

-Hesitant of trying somthing NEW, depsite the craving for it?   Ie.:  New style, Online dating, New work, New way of Being in the world

- Like you’re playing ‘small’, but don’t know the HOW? of playing the bigger game you so desire

This Saturday I’m hosting my first Boot Camp in Ft. Mason, where we’ll spend the day working on creating a blue print for LOVE & SUCCESS in 2009.    This day will help you to see that the world is truly your oyster, and give you some incredibly valuable exercises that help you create a Vision that pulls you forward into what you desire.

We can live in a  continuous flow of Well-Being, and yet it’s easy to feel very disconnected from that, and just look for evidence that supports otherwise.  Remember, whatever we believe to be true, we very easily find evidence that supports that.

Enroll in my Savvy Woman’s Boot Camp today!  You’ll be inspired and equiped to have a year unlike any other!

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From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com