Dear Savvy Woman,

In honor of Dr. Martin Luther King Day …

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Hate multiplies
hate, violence multiplies violence, and toughness multiplies toughness in a descending spiral of destruction….The chain reaction
of evil–hate begetting hate, wars producing more wars–must be broken, or we shall be plunged into the dark abyss of
annihilation.”    -   Martin Luther King, Jr., Strength To Love, 1963

We can equate darkness to prejudice, terrorism, violence – all that we witness and experience as manifestation of individual and collective dark thoughts.

This great man fought against so much.  He had such bravery , and such vision.

You and I live in such different times.  Imagine what he was up against. I simply CAN NOT.  

Stop for a moment and think about that.   It is so incredibly HUMBLING, isn’t it? 

Sometimes it may feel as if you’re up against SO MUCH.  What you desire feels so far out of reach.  Your reality may seem so  vastly different from that of your dreams. 

 I certainly have my moments…

It seems that we as individuals – and particularly as women – create these horrible thoughts against ourselves (even if they’re little tiny ones, subtle…)  and these thoughts can turn into self-sabotaging acts, and acts against others – that take us so FAR away from our purpose of being in an abundance of JOY and WELL-BEING.    It begins with our thoughts. 

Which leads me to another quote of MLK’s that I stumbled upon, which I loved…

“We must combine the toughness of the serpent and the softness of the dove, a tough mind and a tender heart.”   -Martin Luther King, Jr., Strength to Love, 1963.

From my savvy – and tender  – heart, to yours ~Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Lou can make your day!

  From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I’ve created the results that I’ve desired in my life by focusing on them – as if they were already in my life.  What we focus on increases – have you heard that before?  If you’ve followed any of my work, I know that you have! :)   As humans, we can all waver with this, even if we are pretty well studied here and have witnessed our lives change as a result of this Universal principle and Truth.  We must continue to manage, with greater and greater proficiency, the gap between who we BE in the here and now, and who we actually ARE – as divine beings.

When I was single – which, marrying at 36, means I had a good long time of dating and relationships before I met my husband – I for a very long time was focused on LACK.  If I was without a date or without a boyfriend, I was frequently coming from a place of ‘less-than’ or ‘not enough’, because I was fixed on what was missing and what I wanted that wasn’t ‘here’ yet.

Are you that woman?  Do you constantly look to what you don’t have and look at your friends and strangers and imagine that they are in utopia and complete, while you are in LACK?   I understand – I’ve been there.  As humans, we can all struggle with this when we want something (relationship, fitness, wealth, adventure) and it’s not ‘here’ yet.

You might not see that you are that woman, because to yourself and from the outside you’re ‘living the good life’.  But are you buying it?  What are you telling yourself?   Are you telling yourself you’re ‘bad’ and ‘unwanted’ if your date doesn’t ask you out again, or you find yourself out of relationship for months or years?  

What completely changed my personal life, largely by what vibration I was in, was what I focused on.  When I started to really , REALLY focus on what my heart DESIRED, life changed – dramatically.   Life got FUN and it FLOWED.  It wasn’t seamless from the ‘outside’, but it felt seamless on the inside.  I had to let go of a lot – what it was that i “thought’ I wanted and more so, what I had known, and who I had been.   I stepped into a larger version of me by focusing on what I wanted, BEFORE the proof that it existed showed up.   THAT IS THE KEY.

1.   Stop focusing on what you don’t want.  Careful here - you might not think that you’re doing this, especially if you’re busy, ‘happy’, etc –  so take an honest look at your thoughts.    “I don’t want to be single at 40, 50, 60″…….  are you running that story in your mind? 

2.   Start focusing on what you do want,  and acting as if it’s already here (  and it is, but you have to raise to the vibration for it to be received into your life.   Are you currently vibrating at ‘it’s not here!’ ‘i’m alone – still!’ ‘men suck!’ ‘there’s no available men in San Francisco!’).

3. Your attraction-gauge operates based on your emotions.  If you are feeling good (by thinking good thoughts) , and focused on what it is you desire, your vibration will change to the frequency by which your desire is vibrating, and you will attract it in.  Let go of the HOW and the SHOULDS, and focus on how you are FEELING and BEING, resting in patient EXPECTENCY. 

In good vibes and with love and gratitude,

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friends,

I gratefully stumbled across a few people in 2008 who have continued to inspire me as I pursue my own business doing what I love,  one of which is David Neagle.  David teaches about Universal laws and principles and delivers the material in such a simple yet profound manner.   Sign up for his newsletter and see if he resonates with you.

I want to share with you this, taken from his most recent newsletter:

“For many, 2008 was a year of great challenges, heartaches and disappointments.

But if we look for the truth, we see that wherever there is severe disappointment there exists simultaneously an equal and opposite blessing.

In 2008, I recognize this blessing as the emergence of an incredible breakthrough in human consciousness and awareness.

Upon reflection, if you remember 2008 as a year of struggle and disappointment, I invite you to consider ALL experiences are meant to encourage your spiritual growth.

With the closing of 2008 at hand, understanding the importance of what we have experienced this past year positions us to experience 2009 as the most amazing year yet.

Don’t believe that the best days are in the past.

Believe that your best days are NOW, and yet to come.

Love the people that are around you with all of your heart, and meditate upon who YOU want to BE over the next 12 months.

Who you’re going to be this year versus last year is a choice that only you can make, Leslie.

Make a decision that you will treat yourself better than you ever have before this coming year and commit to see only greatness in yourself and in all those around you.

This is the greatest gift that you will ever give yourself.

And, it is also the greatest gift you can give to the world.”

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

This is always something that is “up” for me, and it’s in the middle of my work with clients.  It’s responsible for the results that we receive in our lives.  Our minds.  Our thinking.  What we allow in.  The nutrients that we feed it.

You’ve seen me write a lot about mind-set, and my clients experience my focus on it in our work together.  I recently re-read some old journals from years back, and low and behold – as I worked on shifting out of corporate and ending a toxic relationship with a boyfriend, along with attracting more opportunity into my life – what was changing within me was my mind-set.  What makes all the difference with this is sustainability.  Protecting your focus, your intentions, your vision and your thinking.

Ways to do this:

1. Surround yourself with like-minded people, and decrease time with the rest.

2. Keep your environment positive, including what you listen to (audios instead of random radio) and what you read.

3. Take time to connect to your vision – your desires – your dreams – EVERYDAY (see a prior blog post on Mind Movies).

4. Do whatever it takes to BELIEVE. You must have belief.  Fear and doubt are everywhere, and they destroy the thinking and mind-set that’s required to live the life of your dreams.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I went to a Holiday party last night with my husband.  It was one of those gatherings where there was a magnetic buzz and energy in the room (as a coach I’m trained to notice such – we call it “Level 3 listening”), and despite a high noise level and somewhat crowded conditions, I managed to have great conversations and connections with friends and first-time meetings. 

I’m most certain that the outcome for me – I felt so filled up coming home (and not from food or wine, although that was certainly yummy!) – was due in part to the energy and mind-set that I went to the party with. I had expected it to be great, yet not in a way of putting my expectations on a string around my neck which would read, “Meet these, please.”  No, it was an intention that I had had (and I’m not quite sure why), and then simply let go of.   It rested somewhere in the background, kind of like creating a lovely table setting for dinner vs. grabbing paper towels for napkins as you make your way over with the food.

But I digress, as the reason I write about this this morning is about something else, which does relate to the outcome of my evening.

That is the topic of JOY.   And the feminine.  Women being JOYOUS.  Do you know that it is our birthright to be JOYOUS?   That we, as women, are meant to experience and through that, spread JOY to others?

Walking in the door, I met up with a friend I hadn’t seen in some time.  I knew that she had been back and forth with a man that’s been in her life for years, and that recently the relationship had ended.  We spoke of it, and she told me of the struggle, and now of what she is up to, including losing extra weight she felt she was carrying while she was unhappy.   She looked radiant.  When we had hugged hello, I could feel her JOY.  Yes, it was tinged with other things – transition, being with ‘what is’ (a love was changing form, no longer her boyfriend), giddiness about new possibilities.  But, the JOY of standing in her truth and facing it, and living life was palpable.  Call it a more subtle , quiet JOY – but it was JOY.

Later, I saw a few women that I hadn’t seen in some time.  We were catching up, being silly and at times laughing loudly.  I noticed that a few men nearby couldn’t take their eyes off of us.  Another man, and friend of my husbands, later told me how nice it is to watch and listen to women laughing together.

We were JOYOUS.  Women have a way of being JOYOUS together that is SO attractive, SO contagious, SO necessary. 

And, we can also be JOYOUS alone – just with and being ourselves.  When a woman feels joyous she has a lightness to her walk and to her face.  It truly attracts the world – plants, animals, children, men, women.  This AUTHENTIC JOY is what truly moves mountains, amongst all the rest.

Please remember to fill yourself up with JOY on a regular basis.  Take inventory of what you can be grateful for if you are questioning what you can feel JOYOUS about.   The simple things truly bring us the greatest JOY.  If you have women in your life, connect with them on a regular basis.  If you don’t, make it a goal to change that and cultivate connections with other women.  This is an important part of cultivating and replenishing the feminine within us - being around other women and being JOYOUS together.

It is so contageous, so magnetic, so attractive.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Recently a client of mine was ‘dumped’.  I’m using quotes because I just struggle with that word sometimes,  and I have saved clients (and myself!!) from marinating in that “I was dumped” perspective by offering them this one instead:  “Rejection” is G-d’s protection.  (Insert : Universe, Source, Divine).   You know how it is, you look back and you thank G-d that you were, indeed, ‘dumped’.  Dodged a bullet, in many cases.

But, that doesn’t take away from the sting, and my client “Jane” was definitely allowing herself to feel the fullness of the sting, and beating herself up in the process.  However, with her own awareness, our coaching, and the caring & clear-headed voices of those who cared about her chiming supportively in –  Jane slowly began to get back to life.  She made plans again and began to keep herself busy.

After a long weekend away, she called me for our session and told me that ‘Brian’ had called her.  But he didn’t leave a message.

“He called me!  But, there wasn’t a message.  Well, in fact, my phone had fallen at the sink area of my hair salon and no one found it for days – oddly –  so he could have kept trying me all weekend but my cell was dead when I picked it up on Tuesday.  Maybe he tried me 10 times?  I have no idea. Ok, he probably didn’t.  He probably just pocket-dialed me by accident.”

Jane didn’t, and wouldn’t, know – unless Brian contacted her again.  So, she painfully waited.  She weighed her options and desperately wanted to call him, but she used her own discipline and the voice of reason (yours truly) to remember this truth:  She wanted a partner. She wanted a man who could meet her on the levels she was ready to be met on – someone who would celebrate her as she him.  Brian had (sadly) shown himself to not be that man.  And, I reminded her, this only meant she was closer to the man who would. 

I don’t believe that Brian has tried to contact my client Jane again.  Maybe he did just happen to pocket-dial her that day.  Or maybe he was feebly reaching out to her.  Either way, Jane knows that each day that she focuses on who she is, all that she has and what she wants – and not on what is seemingly lacking in her life - she is a day stronger, wiser, richer, and more hope-filled.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I’m re-reading a book of Marianne Williamson’s right now, called “Enchanted Love: The Mystical Power of Intimate Relationships.”  I keep coming across these excerpts and little golden nuggets that I have saved and carried with me for years now, since first reading the book.

There’s so much to share here (you’ll have to pick up a copy for yourself) but today what resonates with me is this piece below about staying on our own side of the ‘net’ in a relationship; staying largely in our feminine.  Learning how to receive what we need and not trying to make it happen out of desperation, whether it is being courted or working through an issue.  

I think about a good friend who recently lost a romance, and she agonizes over how she reached over in with her masculine too much and the bloom wilted.    I think about my own relationship, and how I am faced with an issue that keeps me on my toes in terms of staying on my own side of the net in the ‘ match ‘ right now.  It’s challenging at times as I want to reach over and use my masculine to ‘fix’ or ‘control’ or ‘change’ what I cannot.  I must remain true to myself in my feminine and allow for the process to unfold where I can receive what I need.  Just as my friend wanted to receive being courted, but staying in her masculine too much had her courting him, however unconscious it was at the time for her – which it largely was.

“Only a woman with high standards, who has no interest in anything but the most adult interaction between a man and a woman, has the capactiy to inspire a man to learn how to act like one.  A man will not be attracted, or at least he will not remain attracted, to a woman who emotionally tries to do the work for him, because in his heart what he wants most is the experience of his own manhood.”

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

1) Oneness - You are already one with the infinite prosperity and infinite supply of the Universe. Ie. think about the ocean – infinite prosperity, supply. Take a cup of water from the ocean, and travel 100 miles. That cup of ocean water is still part of that greater source – the ocean water of which it was taken from. They are the same – One.

Practice a Oneness Mindset

Ex: ‘I am willing to discover my already Oneness with…..’

2) Non-attachment, Non-judgement: A vibration of allowing things into your life. You’re releasing limitation and boundaries, taking away the ‘shoulds’ here of how you are attached to how things show up and look in your life.

Ex: the only way I will meet ‘him’ is by successful online dating or being at the right ‘place’

Mantra: There is only one source – an infinite channel

3) Gratitude: One of the most powerful vibrations – it is the vibration of Having. The Universe will begin to give you back more Havingness. Where your attention goes is where your energy flows. Express Gratitude, you can’t do this enough.

4) Cultivate Your Desire to Create or to Give: When we’re caught up in scarcity, we’re focused on GETTING rather than GIVING. This is coming from lack – and as like attracts like – lack attracts more of the same. Giving from a place of gratitude and abundance.

“The more I spend, the more I receive” – Joe Vitale

5) Active Receptivity: The mindset that guides your actions towards prosperity. You must act on these opportunities that the Universe sends you. Inspired action, rather than of the action of willful control or fear.

Ex: “I am open and receptive to clear guidance from the Universe.”

“I intend to take inspired action to show the Universe that I am open, expanded and committed to my greatest JOY.”

To your success,

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

This quote, taken from Napolean Hill’s classic (1937) “Think and Grow Rich”, is one that very simply and accurately describes the journey to prosperity – be it fortune of money, fortune of happiness, fortune of peace and love.

“Every person who has accumulated a great fortune has recognized the existence of this stream of life. It consists of one’s thinking process. The positive emotions of thought form the side of the stream that carries one to fortune. The negative emotions form the side that carries one down to poverty.”

My coaching and mentoring work with clients leans heavily on this subject, because our thoughts simply create our realities. You have to take a look at what your thoughts are. Do you know what you’re even thinking? It’s a very slippery slope as our thinking is so automatic, it can be so ingrained and conditioned, and much of it happens without us being CONSCIOUS of it.

As they say in the twelve step program AA, ‘Your best thinking got you here.’

Please be careful here in terms of the Ego thoughts that might be coming up right now – always looking to be superior and ‘right’ – that might be saying, ‘Oh, I already KNOW this. Tell me something new.’

I suffer from this. I think we all do, even those of us that are most evolved on the planet. It really is a continual shedding, a removal of the layers. Every time you find yourself stepping into something bigger, or something new – it is essential to just notice your thoughts.

For example, you’ve decided that you’re truly desiring to be available for a relationship. No more funny business and avoidance tactics or playing small.

1) Take time to step back as if you are an observer of your mind and your thinking, and give some space for your thoughts to bubble up as you look at this ‘statement of intent’.

2) Stay honest and vulnerable here, and write down the ugly, fearful, deepest thoughts that come up.

“What the hell do I know about relationships?”

“Yeah right, he’s not out there.”

“It’s impossible to have a happy relationship today.”

“Why do I want commitment anyway, everyone gets divorced.”

“Who is going to love me?”

The more you get acquainted with this dark closet of thoughts and own that they swim in your head from time to time, the better your swim in the stream of prosperity. So don’t deny your shadow thoughts.

3. These are thoughts, and thoughts are things. They are actually units of energy, as physicists have discovered. But these aren’t TRUE. Only you, and I, and all of us in our thoughts, make them so.

4. Change your thoughts. For every thought that surfaces that you acknowledge and write down, create a new thought, one that reflects your desire and vision for yourself.

” I know a lot about relationships.” (You do, you’ve been in them your entire life. Everything is relationship).

“He’s out there, waiting for me, and ,’he’ could be anywhere.” (Not just online, not just at a bar, not just in your dream).

“Many people have healthy relationships. I am one of them!”

You get the picture.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com