Dear Savvy Friend,

I’m having so much fun with the first Success Circle coaching group - these  ladies are loving it ! After the first meeting  they were off to the races, with ‘homework’ that helps them to identify their inner knowing for more confidence, and Vision tools to step up their games! 

I wanted to make coaching (inspiration, support, accountability, feedback) accessible to all the women who are really desiring this right now, both from a time &  cost perspective.  This is why I launched the Success Circle. I also just simply love facilitating groups - it’s such a rich and rewarding experience for all.

I’ve learned personally as a member of a coaching group myself (as well as attending seminars with others) that there is always something for each of us to learn by other’s experience/questions/situation.  Something.  And often - a lot.  In my own life, I benefit greatly knowing that my call or meeting is coming up - it keeps me focused, or re-focuses me.  I feel surrounded in positive energy in those meetings.  And it gives me the support to keep going, keep believing, staying true to me.

So, I’m thrilled that a new coaching group around LOVE is forming.  Who is this for?  This is for the SINGLE women out there who are sensing that they’d benefit from some inspiration, clarity, and FUN with where they’re at.  From looking within a little bit.  This is a refreshing way of getting together with other women in ‘positive group think’ (it’s very subtle, the ‘negative group think’, but you may find yourself in it with women that you love to hang with - or that you feel you need to hang with). 

This group will hold LOVE & relationship as the main focus, and we’ll do learning topics (on things such as self-care, boundaries, a true-to-you Vision, mind-set,), and of course sharing, feedback, and accountability.  And the HUGE thing, tons of support in a safe environment to claim what you want and take steps towards it.  So powerful and life-changing!

Is this what you’ve been waiting for?   Take a peak at the Success Circle details HERE (as it’s the same format for the *LOVE* & Relationship Circle) ,  and then contact us at assist@belovesavvy.com telling us a little bit about you.

Big love,

Leslie

ps. we add new members to the Success Circle at the beginning of each month, so if this interests you, let us know!  The next Success Circle meeting will be August 5th in SF.

Dear Savvy Woman,

Aphrodite is the alluring Greek Goddess of love, beauty and fertility.  Although she reigned over these aspects of life that are feminine and often  perceived as ’soft’, she wielded A LOT of power through her embodiment of them.  This was both very appealing to others, AND  extremely effective in serving her own agenda.

Aphrodite can teach us a thing or two.

Not too long ago I was a woman strung out by what seemed like a perpetual broken heart, false beliefs and as a result - small living.  Aphrodite slinked in one lonely, frustrated evening and whispered in my ear, “It’s about YOU, sister, not them. Focus on YOU.”   I’ll share here with you some of Aphrodite’s teachings - how I apply them to my life  - and how you may want to, too.

Aphrodite is hyper-awake to her own needs. Well….I woke up. I listened to what I needed.  I began to put myself first (and had some ‘assistance’ at times for sure, like the boyfriend who was depressed and had to force me out the door, because he knew he couldn’t give to me).  I cried. I wrote. I listened to my heart. I dared to try new things. Bold things. I had a new kind of FUN.  I began to honor myself on an entirely new level.  It felt exhilarating and a bit out of control - the good version -  at the same time.  What might you be needing to awaken to?

Aphrodite adorns herself , and beautifully so. I dared to adorn myself.  I started pushing my own envelope with jewelry in particular. No more corporate job meant a liberty to wear bolder jewlery - more striking pieces.  This felt like a big deal to me. But I had always looked at these women who seemed so flowy and feminine, yet bold (Aphrodite-ish) - and I didn’t quite own that part of myself that was like them. So I began to.  When I started wearing jewelry that I was so attracted to, I expressed that part of me too, and it felt WONDERFUL.  It changed my energy in impactful ways.  When you feel good, others can feel that. It’s VERY attractive.  How do you  adorn yourself ?

Aphrodite stands in her own point of focus in relationship.  She doesn’t self-abandon for her lover’s approval, or just to be in relationship.  This was an area I had a lot to learn (and always can continue to improve upon). I began to speak my truth more.  I even swung the pendulum a bit far right (like we do sometimes when in new territory) before it swayed to middle ground.  For example, there was that second date that never got to dinner because I walked out after drinks, with no excuses, just the hard truth (delivered honestly) that I didn’t need dinner, or another date.  Nowadays, my practice is often checking in with myself and my needs regularly, and especially at those times when my sometimes-brazen and loving husband pitches an idea that I’m not quite sure about - for me.  Friends compliment my ability to not abandon myself , or them for that matter, in my relationship with my husband.  I’m grateful for the witnessing. It’s a delicate dance, for sure.  Are you standing in your own point of focus within your relationship (reminder: this breathes more fire and life into your relationship, not just you!) ?

To your Aphrodite-living,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

There’s simply not enough of us telling our story of success - to ourselves -  and then to our world.  

Often we hear ourselves (yours truly included at times) and others talking about what’s NOT happening, why it isn’t, and how much we don’t want more of  what is or ‘THAT!’.   It’s the stream of subtle and not so subtle negativity, and it’s  SO not ATTRACTION-rich for dating,  love, relationships, or success in life.

Remember, the very powerful Universal Law of Attraction can be defined as,”Things of like vibration are drawn.”  Like attracts like.  And vibration is transmitted -  like radio waves - when you’re tuned in to a station.  If you’re on AM 840, you’re not going to be able to listen to FM 97.3, are you? 

I work with clients to educate and mentor on just how important this ‘Telling Your Story’ is for success in love and in life.   In *anything* that you want to create.   

See, we are all living our story - our attraction - right now.  What is in our life *right now* was once a thought, and then it formed a belief, and it formed and held a vibration that then matched and attracted everything that we currently are experiencing.  Tell me, do you like - and love - what you’re living? 

So, what story do you want to tell?   What’s your Story of Success?  Write it down.  Vision it.  Begin to talk about it.  By doing these things, you’ll begin to LIVE IT.  People, circumstances, inclinations, hunches - all will attract to you. 

I partner with women to help them begin to tell and live into their NEW story, creating new results in love - in relationship - and in their lives.  In late July,  I’ll be hosting a special live RETREAT  that I can’t wait to send out more details on very soon!  At a very beautiful location, we’ll spend the day together focusing on what will create for you the life and love of your dreams.  No more struggle. No more holding patterns.  The retreat, along with some follow-up to tele-classes,  will teach you the process that changed my own life and those of the clients that I’ve worked with.   

For more details on this upcoming event or how to get started working with me,  you may write to assistant@belovesavvy.com.  

Here’s to your successful story-telling. ;-)

Lots of love,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I’m going to be interviewed this morning at 10am Pacificon BlogTalkRadio by lifestyle expert and coach Leslie Gayle on the topic of Attracting New Love.

If you’re single and looking for insight & inspiration, or in a relationship & frustrated, tune in today as we talk about steps to take to INVEST IN YOURSELF, because

LOVE is an INSIDE JOB.

And, our RELATIONSHIPS are only as healthy as WE are.

I’d love to hear from you today as we’ll be taking Q&A.

Call in #: 347.327.9015

Live Stream & Replay:  http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Leslie-Gail

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Stepping outside ‘the box’ in approaching ’big’ things in  life such as love - or job hunting/career changes - health & wealth creation - can seem so daunting and hence, that’s why the majority of us simply DON’T.  And I’m not discluding myself from this majority, either.  Part of the inspiration here for this blog is to share with you that when I have, immediate results came - and miraculously.   Am I consistent with this approach - absolutely not.  But it sure as heck inspires me to step out again and again out of my comfort zone as I look at both my past and my current reality - what’s worked -  and where I want to go being who I want to be. We all have our ‘growth edge’ - coaches too - and that’s why coaches need coaches and CEO’s need coaches.

What’s interesting is that in Timothy Ferriss’ book, The 4 Hour Work Week, which I’m currently reading, he talks about not just thinking outside the box but ACTING outside the box.  I read that this morning, and then during my workout at the gym this morning (so painful in this gorgeous heat wave in SF currently, but necessary…) I saw a segment on the Today show about job hunting in the New Economy and the dire importance of stepping out of your comfort zone.

Whether you’re job hunting or relationship hunting (or looking to create new and impactful results in ANY area of your life such as those mentioned at the start of this post) - results lie in doing it differently.   BE-ING different than you’ve been, and ACTING differently than you have.  As humans we’re creatures of habit, as we all know.  So, it’s important to ’scare yourself’ - do those actions and that thinking that has you feeling a little out of ‘control’ and also a little *mischievous*.  Yes, mischievous.  With yourself.  See, when you act, think and BE ‘different’ than you’ve been, it can feel thrillingly mischievous, because what you’re doing is busting out of your own box and breaking your own rules.

For example, after a year+ out of corporate work, with my apartment in storage, a failed relationship left in Toronto where I had been playing but not earning or saving -  and,  a uncomfortable bed at my parents - I needed a J-O-B - and fast!  But I wanted to switch industries, AND I didn’t want to take a pay cut for doing so. In fact, I wanted to make more money than I ever had before (I’m sure you can relate).  I interviewed for a great opportunity - and I was intent on getting it.   How could I set myself apart from the competition?   An idea popped in to my head as I wrote a thank you note:  send the note with a roll of scotch tape.  It felt slightly OUT THERE to me.   Why the tape?   The gentleman - and my future bosses boss - that I had just interviewed with, had played with a piece of scotch tape as we talked and apologized to me , saying it was a bad but necessary habit of his. I felt a little mischievous sending the tape -but it worked (and he later coo-berated that it worked). I got the job and earned more than I ever had before, in a new industry. 

Stay tuned for Part 2, and how to be mischievous in love…

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

It’s the beginning of April - the start of Spring.

I know that despite the sun and the spring air,  my mind and heart felt the need this morning for some purifying words from Louise Hay.

I wanted to share with you this:

“In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete, and yet life is ever changing.

There is no beginning and no end, only a constant cycling and recycling of substance and experiences.

Life is never stuck, static or stale, for each moment is ever new and fresh.

I am one with the very Power that created me, and this Power has given me the power to create my own circumstances.

I rejoice in the knowledge that I have the power of my own mind to use in any way I choose.

Every moment of life is a new beginning point as we move from the old.

This moment is a new point of beginning for me right here and right now.

All is well in my world.

From my savvy heart  - and mind - to yours ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

If I boil down everything that I have learned through personal experience , study , and years of work with clients - in manifesting desires and creating the life of one’s dreams - it all comes down to one word:  BELIEVE.

Believe it’s possible.   Believe you can go where you haven’t gone before. Believe you can have what you desire (if you couldn’t, it wouldn’t manifest within you as a desire in the first place).  Believe you can start again.  Believe you can reinvent yourself - over and over and over. 

One powerful way to harness Belief is to IMAGINE.  It’s actually imperative to tap into your imagination to create new desires, to raise your vibration to match those desires by way of Believing It’s Possible, Imagining yourself Being, Doing, and Having said desires as if they’ve arrived in your life,  and Expecting them to be on their way to you.   

By tapping into Imagination ,  Belief becomes more of a reality and replaces older vibrations of negative thoughts, doubt, fear and judgments.  

Without belief, we get more of the same.  We prove ourselves right - “It’s not possible to meet a soulmate’ because we didn’t BELIEVE.   Whatever we believe to be true, we naturally scan for evidence to support ourselves - and we will be successful.

Without tapping into your IMAGINATION, it’s challenging to create and harness Belief.

IMAGINE yourself with your man, as if he has already arrived in your life  (if he hasn’t already) - what are you doing together?  How does it FEEL - feeling into the vision and image creates a new vibration within you and is very powerful.  We often stumble all over the ‘details’ and what’s much more important here is to FEEL into the energy of the connection.  The Universe takes care of the details, and knows better than you what’s in your highest good - brown hair vs. ’silver fox’ doesn’t make a relationship ( I know! :)) Allow yourself to let go of superficial details, and tap into the feeling-tone of how you feel with him.

Imagine living the life of your desires.  What are you doing?  Who are you doing it with?  What does it FEEL like? 

Write it down.  Play a Movie in your mind (see my prior blog posting on Mind Movies - create one within your imagination - it’s FREE).   Create a Vision Board. 

Believe me - these all work.

IMAGINE…

From my savvy heart to yours,

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friends,

I gratefully stumbled across a few people in 2008 who have continued to inspire me as I pursue my own business doing what I love,  one of which is David Neagle.  David teaches about Universal laws and principles and delivers the material in such a simple yet profound manner.   Sign up for his newsletter and see if he resonates with you.

I want to share with you this, taken from his most recent newsletter:

“For many, 2008 was a year of great challenges, heartaches and disappointments.

But if we look for the truth, we see that wherever there is severe disappointment there exists simultaneously an equal and opposite blessing.

In 2008, I recognize this blessing as the emergence of an incredible breakthrough in human consciousness and awareness.

Upon reflection, if you remember 2008 as a year of struggle and disappointment, I invite you to consider ALL experiences are meant to encourage your spiritual growth.

With the closing of 2008 at hand, understanding the importance of what we have experienced this past year positions us to experience 2009 as the most amazing year yet.

Don’t believe that the best days are in the past.

Believe that your best days are NOW, and yet to come.

Love the people that are around you with all of your heart, and meditate upon who YOU want to BE over the next 12 months.

Who you’re going to be this year versus last year is a choice that only you can make, Leslie.

Make a decision that you will treat yourself better than you ever have before this coming year and commit to see only greatness in yourself and in all those around you.

This is the greatest gift that you will ever give yourself.

And, it is also the greatest gift you can give to the world.”

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I went to a Holiday party last night with my husband.  It was one of those gatherings where there was a magnetic buzz and energy in the room (as a coach I’m trained to notice such - we call it “Level 3 listening”), and despite a high noise level and somewhat crowded conditions, I managed to have great conversations and connections with friends and first-time meetings. 

I’m most certain that the outcome for me - I felt so filled up coming home (and not from food or wine, although that was certainly yummy!) - was due in part to the energy and mind-set that I went to the party with. I had expected it to be great, yet not in a way of putting my expectations on a string around my neck which would read, “Meet these, please.”  No, it was an intention that I had had (and I’m not quite sure why), and then simply let go of.   It rested somewhere in the background, kind of like creating a lovely table setting for dinner vs. grabbing paper towels for napkins as you make your way over with the food.

But I digress, as the reason I write about this this morning is about something else, which does relate to the outcome of my evening.

That is the topic of JOY.   And the feminine.  Women being JOYOUS.  Do you know that it is our birthright to be JOYOUS?   That we, as women, are meant to experience and through that, spread JOY to others?

Walking in the door, I met up with a friend I hadn’t seen in some time.  I knew that she had been back and forth with a man that’s been in her life for years, and that recently the relationship had ended.  We spoke of it, and she told me of the struggle, and now of what she is up to, including losing extra weight she felt she was carrying while she was unhappy.   She looked radiant.  When we had hugged hello, I could feel her JOY.  Yes, it was tinged with other things - transition, being with ‘what is’ (a love was changing form, no longer her boyfriend), giddiness about new possibilities.  But, the JOY of standing in her truth and facing it, and living life was palpable.  Call it a more subtle , quiet JOY - but it was JOY.

Later, I saw a few women that I hadn’t seen in some time.  We were catching up, being silly and at times laughing loudly.  I noticed that a few men nearby couldn’t take their eyes off of us.  Another man, and friend of my husbands, later told me how nice it is to watch and listen to women laughing together.

We were JOYOUS.  Women have a way of being JOYOUS together that is SO attractive, SO contagious, SO necessary. 

And, we can also be JOYOUS alone - just with and being ourselves.  When a woman feels joyous she has a lightness to her walk and to her face.  It truly attracts the world - plants, animals, children, men, women.  This AUTHENTIC JOY is what truly moves mountains, amongst all the rest.

Please remember to fill yourself up with JOY on a regular basis.  Take inventory of what you can be grateful for if you are questioning what you can feel JOYOUS about.   The simple things truly bring us the greatest JOY.  If you have women in your life, connect with them on a regular basis.  If you don’t, make it a goal to change that and cultivate connections with other women.  This is an important part of cultivating and replenishing the feminine within us - being around other women and being JOYOUS together.

It is so contageous, so magnetic, so attractive.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Recently a client of mine was ‘dumped’.  I’m using quotes because I just struggle with that word sometimes,  and I have saved clients (and myself!!) from marinating in that “I was dumped” perspective by offering them this one instead:  “Rejection” is G-d’s protection.  (Insert : Universe, Source, Divine).   You know how it is, you look back and you thank G-d that you were, indeed, ‘dumped’.  Dodged a bullet, in many cases.

But, that doesn’t take away from the sting, and my client “Jane” was definitely allowing herself to feel the fullness of the sting, and beating herself up in the process.  However, with her own awareness, our coaching, and the caring & clear-headed voices of those who cared about her chiming supportively in -  Jane slowly began to get back to life.  She made plans again and began to keep herself busy.

After a long weekend away, she called me for our session and told me that ‘Brian’ had called her.  But he didn’t leave a message.

“He called me!  But, there wasn’t a message.  Well, in fact, my phone had fallen at the sink area of my hair salon and no one found it for days - oddly -  so he could have kept trying me all weekend but my cell was dead when I picked it up on Tuesday.  Maybe he tried me 10 times?  I have no idea. Ok, he probably didn’t.  He probably just pocket-dialed me by accident.”

Jane didn’t, and wouldn’t, know - unless Brian contacted her again.  So, she painfully waited.  She weighed her options and desperately wanted to call him, but she used her own discipline and the voice of reason (yours truly) to remember this truth:  She wanted a partner. She wanted a man who could meet her on the levels she was ready to be met on - someone who would celebrate her as she him.  Brian had (sadly) shown himself to not be that man.  And, I reminded her, this only meant she was closer to the man who would. 

I don’t believe that Brian has tried to contact my client Jane again.  Maybe he did just happen to pocket-dial her that day.  Or maybe he was feebly reaching out to her.  Either way, Jane knows that each day that she focuses on who she is, all that she has and what she wants - and not on what is seemingly lacking in her life - she is a day stronger, wiser, richer, and more hope-filled.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com