Dear Savvy Woman,

“If a man that you want isn’t coming toward you, it might be time to grieve, but it is certainly not the time to be reaching for his lapels”. – Unknown

This was a quote that I use to carry around with me as I was desiring MY Mr. Right, yet sensing that something was off with the way I was being.  I didn’t want to admit this to myself years ago when I was in a relationship that wasn’t working out, let alone admit it to anyone else.  Eventually I decided that I needed to let go of this particular guys lapels, and move on. But what I didn’t realize at the time was that I was holding on to WAY more than just this man’s lapels. 

I meet many women desiring THEIR Mr. Right in my work as a mentor and coach, and often these women are not currently in a relationship holding on, but *they’re grasping their own ’lapels’ of regret and false beliefs*.  These women are letting  things like false beliefs (‘It’s not possible for me’ …’I've missed my window’ …’I blew it so I’ll blow it again’), or attachment to their past hold them back.  As a mentor once reminded me, ‘what you authentically want, wants you back’. 

There IS a ‘Mr. Right’, perfect for YOU.  Question is, do you believe this?  And are you willing to let go of some important things that may be closing you off from connecting with him?

Here’s an example : ‘Shelly’ thinks she’s really super available – doing all the ’right things’ , including spending countless hours online dating – but  – things don’t seem to stick with any one guy and so this experience just cements a belief that maybe it’s ‘not gonna happen’, or that she needs to move cities.  She thinks she’s doing all the right things, and she feels hopeless.  Unfortunately, the truth is that Shelly isn’t open, self-accepting, nor is she internally relaxed in this dating process, so the EASE, fun and confidence that she craves – and is SO magnetic to men – isn’t there.

See, we have to ‘forget the past and forget the future’, in order to calm our minds, ease our souls, and be present to our greatest dreams and deepest desires – and allow them to begin to speak to us, to unfold before us.  And there are some easy steps to doing this. I took these very steps myself, and it not only allowed me to effortlessly meet  & connect to my now husband, Larry – after many years of struggle – but it’s forever changed the way I approach life.

If you are a woman who wants to feel confident, supported and light as you look for YOUR Mr. Right,  learn more about my private and group work here: www.BeLoveSavvy.com.  I want to help you meet YOUR Mr. Right.

Have a great weekend…

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I had to boot up my laptop to write about a conversation I just had an hour ago with a savvy woman (who will remain anonymous, but I’d love to let the cat out of the bag with her permission so I can tell you about her amazing talent & business!).

We were catching up about life, which included her meeting a great guy a few months back, whom she’s enjoying a lot.  He’s a great guy with his act together, a fun sunny disposition and great sense of humor. And he’s very cute (picture proven). Great catch, right? Wait, it gets better. Guess what?  He is SO into her, that he very directly asked her to call him rather than opt for the more distant, less-intimate text. 

Why was she texting primarily as communication, you might wonder?  Well, ‘Jane’ was experienced with her most recent Ex prefering to communicate with her via Text, among other guys.  And this Ex did a good job of keeping her at arms length in some other ways, too.  Thankfully, Jane moved on and attracted this very available man who lets her know in many ways “I’m into you!”, including asking her to chill on texts because he wants to hear the purr of her voice instead. (Ok, I’m ebellishing on her story here but it’s the truth).  Understandably, Jane had felt a bit protective post her last relationship, and didn’t want to ‘cramp’ this new guys style.  Why? Well…he could be like all the rest. She had learned that more than one guy out there preferred to keep things at more of a distance. So, why risk a different approach?

What I *love* about this story almost as much as the fact that this wonderful woman attracted a great guy to her who is honest, upfront and demonstrative is that she was aware of her conditioned patterns based on past history.  This is a rather ‘light’  example that was pretty easy for her to call herself out on.  Often we have deep-seated beliefs and conditioned behavior that we’re not as aware of, keeping us stuck (attracting/involved with the same kind of men, experiencing the same quality of job, self-sabatoging behavior, spending patterns, etc).

Sometimes we are fortunate, like Jane, to have an event or person help us to see where we are in behavior and mind-set that isn’t current, true to us, congruent with what we want to attract and experience, and who we want to BE….NOW.   Think about what is possible to create in your life if you take a conscious look at this ‘closet’ if you will, and do a run through of the worn and out-dated?  

Speaking of clearing,  I’m offering a special Boot Camp event on Saturday, March 21st.  This Boot Camp will be exclusively about Relationship - clearing and creating.  If you are single post a break-up, divorce or simply aware that you need a fresh perspective and a clear vision, you will not want to miss this inspiring and life-changing day with me.  So, how do you really know if you would benefit from this?

- You can’t seem to let go of the past: an ex…relationship regrets…he’s a jerk….time you’ve lost.  You might be aware that it’s getting in your way, and you might not.  If you let this rent any space in your mind and being, believe me, it is in your way.

-You don’t believe a wonderfully reciprocal, abundant, delicous relationship and partnership may be  possible for you.  Or you vascilate.  Belief, if it’s there, is shaky.

-You’re recently out of a signifcant relationship or marriage, and you’re ready to move on, but you have not completely forgiven your ex and/or yourself.  You worry about finding yourself in the same thing.. again.

- You’re exhausted with it all. Men. Love.  You’re not sure if you’ll ever meet the right guy for you.  And if you’re meeting men/dating, their is a LOT of finger pointing… to them.

I really hope that if you are relating to these, you will decide *right now* to save the date and spend the day with me (more details will follow soon).   You can’t do the same things and expect different results, and, although it’s tempting to rush into a different relationship, if you don’t clear your mind & heart you just may find yourself facing similar issues – learning the same lesson.

In this day you will actually do the ‘stuff’ that you may know would benefit from, but you just can’t find the time, inspiration, or environment to do it.

What you’ll leave with:  completion of oceanside releasing ceremony, discovering tools and exercises for creating a vision for yourself and your next relationship that pulls your forward (not back into the past) ,  and techniques for a Mind-set that will see you to success in love and life. And lots of inspiration. It will be  a packed day – but, quality over quantity.

Decide to gift yourself this day, and you will not regret it.  It will be the gift that keeps on giving.

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com