Dear Savvy Woman,

If you’re watching ‘The Bachelor: On the Wings of Love’  did you catch last week’s Girls Tell All segment? I just got to it over the weekend.  Here’s what I find to be a few great love and relationship insights (I’ll bypass the drama) from two of the season’s favorite ladies:

First, Gia’s ability to see that she was able to open her heart more from being on the show, and her clear intention that she shares on the segment to express herself and open herself even more to love with the next guy.

I loved that!  The ability to see the gap between who you were and who you are now – as the result of taking new actions and risks – is HUGE, whether it be in love, or anything else.   Often as a coach I notice stuck energy and repeated patterns holding a client back due to their inability to brush themselves off, pat themselves on the back for trying, and move on with clear intentions- and a smile.  Gia exemplifies this so well, and here’s the thing: energy doesn’t lie. If you watched this you really GOT that she meant what she says, vs. some of the other women who are coached to be light and say the right things…and you GET that they’re not really aligned with it.  This is what we pick up on from each other when we’re meeting, dating and relating…

And , if you watched this, didn’t you love some of the realizations/statements from Ali?  First, she stated that she believes that ‘our lives are defined by the risks that we take.’   Hearing this makes you sit back and assess how much you’re stepping out in your life and risking , doesn’t it? Me too!  Heck, we all get complacent and comfortable.  And Ali’s comfort zone was in her work, as she shared.  She said that she often would hide out in work to avoid feeling her feelings. Can you relate? I can!  I can also relate to hiding out in a relationship in order to avoid work! Or myself!  I hope she’s really proud of herself for taking the huge risk of  going on the show…

Ali leaves the show by making the decision to keep her job versus lose it to stay in the running and potentially get a ring from the Bachelor, Jake.  She shares on this segment that she regretted this…that she would have ideally gotten the ring, and then if necessary, ‘fought like hell to get my job back.’   Hindsight is a b*tch, isn’t it. Ali states her awareness of the fact that she should be as serious and committed to finding love as she has been to her career.  I’m sure many watching could relate to her wanting to hang on to her beloved job (and apartment), and the wish that if the love between she and Jake were this real, he’d come get her back!  Why can’t we have it all, right?  This is a show, of course, with Jake also professing to be in love with several other women competing.  In the real world, sans the show’s requirements and distractions, perhaps Jake would have done just that. 

I believe that we can have it all, but sometimes not all at the same time.  Sometimes the job might have to take a back burner, your personal time might have to adjust some for love, and you must get out of your comfort zone if you want to create some magic in life.  And other times, it will be your guy and your yummy-time takes a back burner for career and personal demands. We want it all, but we resist changing  anything (important, or habitual) in order to have it!

What do you think? 

To your love,

XO

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

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Hey Savvy Woman,

Did you catch Thursday’s Oprah show last week?  Be sure to watch it. The first segment has Patti, the “Millionaire Matchmaker” partner up with Nate Berkus to help a 41-year old woman who’s in search of a man. 

It’s a great segment, including one huge simple GEM from Patti, which I’ll share in a second, but be sure to watch the rest of the show, too (warning:  it will have you reaching for Kleenex and blessing all that you have in your life right now, while feeling so inspired).

So, even if you’re averse to Patti’s 20-girls-to-one-’rich’-guy matchmaking show that’s been on for years now, she gives very solid advice as to what guys and gals need as they navigate the love & relationship scene, such as, ’Men first fall into attraction with their eyes, women with what they hear between their ears’. 

Here’s the GEM that Patti gave to Oprah about what most stands in a woman’s way that I absolutely agree with : BELIEF.    Patti hit it on the head in reminding women that he IS indeed out there, something that I spend some time on with private clients and students who want love and relationship.  You have to believe, do whatever it takes to believe (we’ll ge to that in just a sec), keep believing, and never stop. 

Most-to-all women that seek me out professionally, or that I meet and talk with admit that they lack BELIEF:  that he’s even out there, that a happy and healthy relationship is possible for them, that they haven’t missed their boat.

On February 15th, the day after Valentine’s Day, you can step into an experience that will transform the results you’re experiencing in dating and love.   This 8 week tele-program, ” Find YOUR Mr. Right: 7 steps to attracting the love and relationship that you desire!” will transform the way you approach &  find love this year – because it will transform you.  If you haven’t had the BELIEF that you need, this is just one of the many essential things you’ll transform with my step-by-step, 8-class coaching program.  Learn more HERE.

Here’s to finding YOUR true love ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

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Dear Savvy Woman,

Recently, I sent a special offer to my list where I wrote about a particular Holiday Relationship Blues experience of my own that marked a turning point for me to doing love & dating differently.  (Read my story & see my special invitation for a Love Life Breakthrough Day with me,  HERE).

Many women wrote to me, letting me know how much they appreciated my story.  It seemed to really hit a nerve as some are struggeling this holiday season with their single ‘status’.

If this is you too, I totally understand.  Whether I was absolutely without a date in sight, or I was dating ‘John’ AND realizing that ‘it’ (us) wasn’t seemingly solid enough to justify ANOTHER family introduction over eggnog – the holidays always underscored the fact that I wasn’t living in true love and experiencing the healthy relationship that I so deeply longed for. 

It was only after I took the very steps that I teach my private clients and women who participate in my programs (I’ve designed a 7 step system based on all that I’ve studied, learned and put to practice in my own & other women’s dating lives) that everything changed.  Dating and relating became way more easy and fun , and I relaxed into so much more confidence and enjoyment with the whole process – being single – and with my entire life!  Quickly, I met my honey and now husband.

If you’re dreading being single at the holidays this season, I hope you find solace in two things:  1) you won’t be feeling this way forever (especially if you take new actions), and 2) there is a solution to jump-starting your love life and feeling the polar opposite of dread with your single status.  I’m here to help you do just that.  Do you need  a ‘make-over’ in your love life? Find out more HERE.

Here’s to finding true love in 2010!

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com 

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