Dear Savvy Friends,

Ahhhh…i’m still riding on a high from my wine country oasis staycation !!  Or workaction. ;-)  10 heavenly days of unplugged BE-ing and inspired Do-ing.  I’ll be sure to share some pictures to FB soon! Together Larry (my sweetie and hubby) and I had ’scripted’ out that experience over a year ago - our stay/workaction - and then it effortlessly unfolded just days before we ditched the city for the country. I love effortless things - dont’ you?

We are all living by the scripts that we’ve been unconsciously and hopefully, consciously, writing for ourselves and then living - acting - out.

A few months ago I bought a T-Shirt and writeen simply on the front is :  REWRITE YOUR SCRIPT.

Guess what?   We can re-write these scripts that run in our minds and bring us to what we experience in our lives.  We are always at choice.  What we think about, comes about.  Where intention goes, energy flows.

What we may be - or have been  - unconsciously ’scripting’ might have come from our parents or ancestors ideas, society’s ‘requirements’ and/or cultural and gender ‘rules’.  Or simply what we put into place years ago based on our experiences, but since then our life experiences and new desires have caused us to outgrow.

Have you ever stopped and realized that you have arrived at a situation because you on some level, scripted it out?

If we get really clear (and really BRAVE), we can look at where we are and discover the script of the ‘play’ that we’ve been reading to ourselves.

A few ‘life-situation’ script examples:

Old Script:   I’m partner at my firm, I’m deep into my career in law and I absolutely cannot stand what I do but this is what I know how to do to earn the income I need to earn to support my lifestyle.  I’m too old to change.  I’ll lose respect if I try and fail.  What do I know how to do? No one loves what they do for career really, anyway. At least not the ones making any money.

New Script:  I know what I’m doing and I want to change careers.  My happiness and quality of life are so important to me, and my relationships and outlook will soar when I act on what I need to act on here. I know how to be resourceful and attract new opportunities that will be lucrative AND rewarding. I have options. I’ll begin to take steps to investigate what’s next for me.  I know there is support and expertise available.  As I take steps, the Universe rises up to meet me, and will continue to.

Old Script:I’m in this relationship that doesn’t feel good, but what are my options? Sure, this doesn’t really make me feel very secure, empowered, valued or appreciated.  But look around, no one else is very happy in theirs either. Or they’re single and can’t find a decent date.  I guess I’m better off than they are.  And,   I’m so use to this relationship.  I’m sure that one day he’ll get off the fence and really start to step up in this relationship.  This is just how it has to be, for me, I guess.  Maybe one of these days I won’t be able to take anymore.

New Script: I am in a relationship that feels amazing! I feel cherished and respected, and we have such fun together , looking out on the same horizen as we step into our future together.  It’s incredible…there are no games!  So much space has opened up in my be-ing because I don’t have to expend so much mental and emotional energy on it.  Wow! This is fabulous.  We hit speed bumps here and there but I feel so confident inside that I, and we, can cruise right over them.  Life is good. No, life is GOOD!!  (Now, if this current partner can’t rise to the script that she continues to play in her head, that person will fall away and a new partner will come in to play that ‘role’ in her script).

Script writing is something that I do on a regular basis with myself, and with my clients.  We can script out our bigger life-changes and dreams, and we can also script out our day, a difficult conversation to have, or any situation.

Easy 1-2-3’s for script writing:

1)  Make sure you are in a good space, ie. feeling somewhat to very positive and hopeful, as the intentiona and energy you begin this (and anything) with is everything. 

2) If you can, create a sacred space around this by way of lighting a candle, shutting off any distracting and ambient noise (other than inspiring music), and grabbing a cup of tea or glass of wine.

3) With pen and paper (ideally, keep a journal), pick a situation, dream, or vision and write about it, feeling into it from your heart and body, as if you’re in it.  Write in big and expansive ways - if you think you’re ‘going big’, chances are you can still go BIGGER.  This is where the ‘how good can you stand it?’ comes in to play.

4) If you have difficulty with the writing, start with listing words that symbolize and describe the result and situation that you’re scripting. From there you can expand.

Big love,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I’m finding myself looking at this subject a lot, whether I’m working with clients, or I’m looking at myself and my own approach to  goals and dreams.

The always right there, one-step-behind: ” How???? ”

You know what I’m talking about, right?

We can dream, vision, desire and get all fired up about what it would look, feel, taste like.  And then - maybe it’s in a next moment, or next day, or next month.  Perhaps it’s after many steps towards it but, in a one-step-back (perceived) moment.  We do it.  We go to the HOW?  

HOW is….

• my dream relationship going to arrive?
• am i going to loose those last 5 lbs?  or the 30?
• will my work, in which i am in utopia, by the way, arrive?
• can i get my relationship back on track, because we are so far off of center?!
• will i get on the Oprah show?

Can you relate?   Do you have seemingly far-off, outlandish, or ‘impossible!’ desires that you can daydream of, but as you take a serious look -talk about- take a step toward,  very quickly stop you dead in your tracks when you’re mind rests on the

H-O-W?

Me too.

I do.    And here’s the thing: the H-O-W is our biggest enemy.  Biggest!!  Because when we are looking at where we are & where we want to be - and focusing on what seems like a big wide open space between the two, where no proof of our desired state is there waiting for us, we panic.  The ‘How’ is actually out there, raising it’s hands, saying - “Over here!  I’m right here!  You’re on the right track! you can do this! Just take a step.”

No, we are not 10 month-olds trying to take a first step.   Or are we?   Why not try that visual on for size?   Pretend that 10 month olds can read, just for this example.

So, you are a 10 month old baby.  Mommy is coaxing you to take your first giant step, as she’s witnessed you holding on to the coffee table, standing tall and strong - on your very own.    You stand holding on for dear life, and she’s several feet away from you, hands out - telling you you can come to her - all smiles.   But, just next to her is a big, bold sign that says, 

“HOW?”

As this particular 10 month old in our example, you can register what this sign means to you.    It is saying ‘ Come on - you haven’t taken a step yet - Missy - what makes you think you’re going to begin right this minute?  Huh?  Tell me.  Tell me!  Don’t even try it.”

What if you, as this 10 month old, believed more strongly on this grumpy, bully sign than you did your Mom ?

Dream coach Marsha Weider, whom I heard speak in past months, refers to this as ‘going to strategy too soon.’   When we do, our dreams get ’schquelched’, she says.   We get stopped before we get started.

The HOW actually shows up.  It does.  Absolutely.  But we have to BELIEVE it is possible (our desire, our dream, our goal) and take ACTION toward it.  As we do,  the HOW gets taken care of.   

I’m so sad just typing this.  I really am.  What would our world be like if we all decided to not look at that ‘bully sign’ - the HOW? - and decided to go for it anyway? 

Unlimited possibilites.

With love,

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I know, a few letter changes on the end of ‘vibration’ in that title, and we’re talking about an entirely different subject.  Sort of. ;-)

We are talking about raising our pleasure factor.  Our energy.  If you haven’t seen ‘What The Bleep Do We Know’, or ‘The Secret’ - both of which have brought this topic of Quantum Physics and Law of Attraction to the Mainstream - rent them. 

I am so passionate about this topic, savvy friends!  Years before the launch of The Secret, I was told to pick up a book called, “Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting”.  I read it, and it changed my life.  Validating what I had sensed - in a very distant way- to be true about life, I devoured the book and began practicing the concepts of manifesting in a more focused way than I had previously.  The net, net:  Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.  Measure everything by how you feel = emotions.  You must incrementally raise your feeling tone/emotional vibration to match that which you desire.  For example, you might be desiring a healthy, juicy relationship, but you vibrate (feel) low because you’re focused on the fact that it’s missing, not gonna happen.  And, equally important, you remain in a lower-vibe ’space’ with tolerations and other miss-matched vibration environments and accepted circumstances.  In this I refer to everything from tolerating using a mal-functioning appliance, to clothing that doesn’t fit well or please you, to friendships and work that is energy-draining and toxic.   We are always at choice, but we often don’t want to acknowledge this, because it equally acknowledges personal responsibility - for everything -down to the coaster on my desktop as I write this!  Ugh…

Oh my, I could go on and on about this subject.  And, in no means do I ‘have it down’ - believe me. I enjoy the challenge of dipping into this regularly and taking inventory of how I am vibrating - what tolerations I need to eliminate - what I need to upgrade, both internally and externally.  It’s much easier said than done.  Why?  Because, as humans, we like to stay in our ‘knowns’ and fear change.  Yes, Savvy Woman, it’s true.  We all operate from our conditioning, that - by the time we are 7 years old - is fairly ingrained in us in order to fit in within our families, communities and society at large.  So, that means, especially as women, a fear of not being accepted, and of rocking the boat. 

If you are on a path of claiming, aligning with and acting on your heart’s desires, you must put your focus on what you want (not what you don’t want)-  and - have the courage to take action that supports you in vibrating and attracting in that which you know, in your heart, to be true for you.  To be, do, and have all  that you desire - that is your birthright.

Which leads to my point that inspired the title of this blog, as quoted from Ask And It Is Given, by Esther and Jerry Hicks (a must read): “The reason you have not already gotten what you desire is because you are holding yourself in a vibrational holding pattern that does not match the vibration of your desire.  That is the only reason -ever…..if you will stop and think about it, or more important, stop and feel about it, you can identify your very discord.”

We must ever so gently, and bit by bit, release our resistance - our thoughts - which is the only disallowing factor involved.

Increased relief (how are you feeling?) indicates that you are releasing resistance, and increasing your vibration - where increased feelings of tension, frustration and anger are indications of you adding to your resistance.

How do we vibrate to match our birthright’s desires?  Aside from taking a serious look at what my tolerations are and making necessary shifts there (sometimes big ones such as my work and relationships) , some things that I make sure to infuse into my daily living to increase/support my vibration are:

- Time with myself to tap into Spirit/Source/the Divine within me:  meditation, prayer, writing, reading

- Inspiring music

- Organized and clear environments of home, office, car

- Play dates with friends or with myself to look forward to

- Focused time visioning myself in the situations, environments and being-ness as if I am already in the desired outcome (ease as a mother,  collaborating with other leaders on projects, working with Oprah, traveling with Larry (my husband) in Africa).

- Excellent self-care:  healthy eating, exercise and sleep.   A regular massage.

Here is to remembering our birthright and releasing all that doesn’t vibrate with it !

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com