Dear Savvy Woman,

If you’re a woman who’s looking to meet YOUR Mr. Right in 2010, ask yourself a very important question:  Who do I receive my dating & relationship advice from?  

You might realize that you spend a lot or all of your time discussing your dreams, complaints, and dramas with your other single friends who also tend to worry, complain and see the single ‘landscape’ in the same way you do. This can be both comforting and confusing - and frustrating. I know because my clients point to this fact a lot.  We love our friends - and when we’re in a tribe together, facing the same issues and hopes together, there can be a lot of comfort and companionship.  And, sometimes , it can become a soup of  frequent negativity, sublte sabotage, numbing-out and truth-negating.

The ultimate truth of who to date, who to let go of, how to recover your sense of optimism and positive expectancy, how to uncover your dreams and desires and grow them, how to effortlessly attract in a new way, how to navigate the dating and relationship waters with ease, elegance and a lot more fun…..all of these become much more quickly revealed to you when you invest in and apply teachings, advice and guidance from someone who’s both been in your shoes, and is also walking their talk now. Why take relationship advice from someone who’s been chronically unhappy and dissatisfied (we all have our moments, but you know who I’m talking about) and/or never before experienced a healthy relationship? 

Just this weekend a super smart, attractive,  and self-defacatingly funny woman mentioned at a group dinner to me how a guy she recently met randomly texted her something  super non-challant and lame like , ‘Hey chic-ita, whatch you doin?’. I may be married now, but I was dating when texting was becoming the new way to communicate, and I was turned off by any guy who didn’t have the class or cahoneys to pick up the phone and dial my number - especially straight out the gates. We teach people how to treat us (largely by our response to their actions), so if you feel a little (or a lot) deflated by the guy who jumps straight into text messaging only - act on your truth.  Ignore the text altogether  if you trust your often correct ‘NO, thanks’ - and if you want to check things out more because he seemed great in-person, simply text him back letting him know you prefer a gentlemanly phone call , with a little winky smiley face (especially if you know your weakness is succumbing a little too soon to someone who is likely to be unworthy of your beautiful self).

See, we grow accustomed to our environments, and we become them. In this case, we get use to the text culture, and we start off a relationship with a bare minimum of communication and courtship.  Then we don’t experience what we so desire - we don’t get the results we seek - and we wonder what we need to do differently.   When this woman shared this little story, a few of the guys at the table were  gulping a  little about my hand up to this text, but they knew what was true: when a man really likes a woman, he wants to impress her, and will likely call or email her rather than lobb off a six word text re-introducing himself.  And if he’s a good guy, if you ever so faintly need to ’slap his hand’, in this case giving him a chance to start over with you by letting them know this kinda approach ain’t cutting it, he’ll quickly course-correct and receive your request with openness and …refreshment.

Who’s giving you your relationship advice?  I know you want to be courted and to feel attractive and appreciated - and adored. Don’t settle for what your heart knows isn’t quite cutting the mustard.  Only seek guidance, advice  and teaching from those that have both been in your shoes before, and are now where you want to be. 

Want to jump-start in a BIG way in your love life in 2010 - and receive an over-haul in your dating and relationship results? I have a special invitation offer for an in-depth private day with me - feel incredibly clear, prepared, excited, refreshed and made-over after this Love Life Breakthrough Day.  I’ll walk you through the 7 step process I’ve designed based on my personal relationship evolution and all of my coaching and client experience. January 12th - tomorrow - is the last day to reserve YOUR PRIVATE RETREAT with me.   Learn more HERE on how to transform yourself - inside and out - to get new results and to receive the relationship that’s waiting for you!

To your love,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

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Dear Savvy Woman,

This holiday, I’ll be visiting my family in the East Bay with my husband Larry, and then Christmas morning we’ll do stockings (love stockings!) & have brunch with friends before heading to ice skate – a fun new tradition of ours – at the outdoor rink in downtown SF.

But it wasn’t always this way.

It wasn’t that long ago that I was really struggling in dating & relationships.

I can remember one particular Christmas I rushed from celebrations with my family to hurry back to the city to meet up with my then boyfriend. We were going to have a special lunch and gift-exchange.  I handed him 5 gifts to his one for me, after which he scooted out to quickly deliver gifts to some friends visiting from out-of-town, without so much as an invitation to join him. 

I sat on his couch, fighting back tears as I waited for him to return, feeling so pathetic. I longed to be in a relationship where I didn’t have to fight for adoration, respect – or introductions on Christmas Day.

Sadly, it took me well over 6 more months before I finally decided I’d had enough of that. One day I summoned up the courage to stop the endless cycle of disappointing relationships and start doing things differently.

I started by reading a gazillion relationship books, going to seminars and let me tell you, weeding out all the fluff wasn’t easy. But in time I did find the gems and started getting better results in my love life. Most importantly I finally began to understand that dating & relationships could be so much more than what I’d ever believed to be possible.
 
Soon I began to experience an entirely new love life full of ease, fun, and a feeling of being much more in-control. Not long after my new mindset and improved self-confidence, I met the love of my life and now husband, Larry.

I’m sharing this with you because I don’t think it needs to take YOU that long.  In fact, you do not have to read a gazillion relationship books or go to countless seminars (I’ve done it for you!). Nor do you need to spend years trying to figure out why you haven’t found Mr. Right.

I have designed my own 7 step system for finding true love based on all of my experience and the simple, authentic dating strategies that empower you.

As a Love and Relationship Coach, I help women who are ready for a fulfilling relationship find true love. I work exclusively with women who are ready to do things differently and get better results in their dating and love life. I help them make better choices in men (no more repeating the same patterns!), date with confidence and fun, and how to ultimately find true love.

But many women come to me wanting big results fast, yet don’t have the time or financial resources to engage in working with me for months.  And working with me in a group setting doesn’t give them the personalization or jump start that they want and need.

In light of this, and in remembering my own past Holiday Relationship Blues, I would like to invite you to experience a big Breakthrough in your dating & love life.  I’d like to personally teach you the steps that I took, once I decided I was ready for true love. 

Introducing… Love Life Breakthrough Day.

What I’m offering is an entire day devoted to getting brand-new, life-changing real results in your dating & love life.  This will be a private, personalized Jumpstart program to improve what you’re currently experiencing in your love life.

What’s possible in your Breakthrough Day is…

• Your True Love Road Map.  This unique Road Map will help you easily recognize who to date, who to avoid, who and what to let go of, and what you truly need and want in relationship. It will serve as the foundation for all your love life decisions.

• A Personalized Dating Assessment – I’ll help you figure out if you’re presenting yourself in the best possible way (online and offline), what isn’t working for you and what to do about it, and how to experience feeling attractive, open, and confident as you navigate the world of dating. (Whether you’re newly divorced and ready to get back into the game or been at it for awhile without great results.)

• A Magnetize Your Image Mini-Makeover -  We’ll look at your overall style & image, including the colors you wear and favorite go-to dating/social outfits AND transform you into feeling and being more uniquely beautiful, attractive and desirous not only to yourself, but to YOUR Mr. Right.

• Private, In-Person Love Life Coaching with Me – This entire day will be devoted to clearing the blocks to letting love into your life, you will be much more clear, confident & truly prepared for your true love to come in to your life, quickly & effortlessly.

• Special Lunch Dining Out - I’ll take you to one of my favorite gourmet restaurants for lunch, where you can choose to receive personalized coaching and dating insights on how to dine and date with confidence, style and authenticity.

• A fabulous goodie bag of my favorite love and relationship magnetizing tools, valuable gifts & resources that I only share with my private clients.

• Two follow-up Love Life Coaching Sessions, scheduled within 30 days of our work together to ensure your progress and provide the accountability that you want.

I have a maximum of three Love Life Breakthrough Days open in January, and I have so much fun planned for you because I absolutely love to dive-in and create amazing, big and FUN change in women’s love lives.

Doing this Breakthrough Day will require you to get a little out of your comfort zone in the best possible way in order to get new results. Yet you’ll feel like you’re hanging out with one of your best, wisest girlfriends while experiencing a very, very productive day.

The investment for this packaged session is $997.00 if you sign up within the next 30 days. You can choose between making one payment in full, or a convenient two-payment option. Either way, the full investment in your love life is due before your scheduled Breakthrough Day.

If you’d like to have a session with me to learn more, discuss what’s going on in your love life and find out if this is right for you – before saying yes – I absolutely understand. 

So here’s what I suggest: Click here to book an intro session with me for only $87.  You will automatically receive access to my online schedule to immediately choose a time that works for you. This is also my way of making sure I can be of help to you. While I sent this offer to everyone on my list, I can’t possibly accept everyone. Just like you, I like to be sure that my clients are a good fit for me and for them

And if you decide to move forward and experience the Love Life Breakthrough Day with me, you can apply your session investment to the payment option you choose, so it’s truly a win-win for you. 

Ready to get started?  Click here to book your Love Life Breakthrough Day. 

Here’s to finding true love in 2010 (if not sooner!),

Leslie

PS – I realize some of you may want to skip the intro session and book your Love Life Breakthrough Day right away. That’s no problem. Just book the session here and leave me a note that you’re ready for the breakthrough right away and I’ll move you to the front of the queue. Here’s that link again.  

 www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Love & Relationship Coach

Dear Savvy Woman,

“If a man that you want isn’t coming toward you, it might be time to grieve, but it is certainly not the time to be reaching for his lapels”. - Unknown

This was a quote that I use to carry around with me as I was desiring MY Mr. Right, yet sensing that something was off with the way I was being.  I didn’t want to admit this to myself years ago when I was in a relationship that wasn’t working out, let alone admit it to anyone else.  Eventually I decided that I needed to let go of this particular guys lapels, and move on. But what I didn’t realize at the time was that I was holding on to WAY more than just this man’s lapels. 

I meet many women desiring THEIR Mr. Right in my work as a mentor and coach, and often these women are not currently in a relationship holding on, but *they’re grasping their own ’lapels’ of regret and false beliefs*.  These women are letting  things like false beliefs (’It’s not possible for me’ …’I've missed my window’ …’I blew it so I’ll blow it again’), or attachment to their past hold them back.  As a mentor once reminded me, ‘what you authentically want, wants you back’. 

There IS a ‘Mr. Right’, perfect for YOU.  Question is, do you believe this?  And are you willing to let go of some important things that may be closing you off from connecting with him?

Here’s an example : ‘Shelly’ thinks she’s really super available - doing all the ’right things’ , including spending countless hours online dating - but  - things don’t seem to stick with any one guy and so this experience just cements a belief that maybe it’s ‘not gonna happen’, or that she needs to move cities.  She thinks she’s doing all the right things, and she feels hopeless.  Unfortunately, the truth is that Shelly isn’t open, self-accepting, nor is she internally relaxed in this dating process, so the EASE, fun and confidence that she craves - and is SO magnetic to men - isn’t there.

See, we have to ‘forget the past and forget the future’, in order to calm our minds, ease our souls, and be present to our greatest dreams and deepest desires - and allow them to begin to speak to us, to unfold before us.  And there are some easy steps to doing this. I took these very steps myself, and it not only allowed me to effortlessly meet  & connect to my now husband, Larry - after many years of struggle - but it’s forever changed the way I approach life.

If you are a woman who wants to feel confident, supported and light as you look for YOUR Mr. Right,  learn more about my private and group work here: www.BeLoveSavvy.com.  I want to help you meet YOUR Mr. Right.

Have a great weekend…

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Immerse yourself…

In loving thoughts of Self. 

In a Vision of what you desire for relationship, career, life-style.

In a Mind-set that supports your highest good.

Madame Johnson, my high-school French teacher, always spoke of the need to study the language in France in an immersion program as the only way to become truly fluent.  Often, we need to immerse ourselves for success ( I didn’t go..), especially in these modern times of distraction and too many competing priorities.  We can get spread too thin and our results become diluted.

When I worked with a physical trainer years and years ago, he had me immersed.  I was journaling my food every day, cooking in more (and brown-bagging lunches more), weighing in regularly, and scheduling all my workouts and routines beyond my sessions with him.  Had I not, I know I wouldn’t have been as successful.

When I hired past coaches, to help me up-level my life in various areas, my work with them had (and has) me immersed.  I’m immersed into new thoughts and beliefs that support me taking new actions.   

These ‘immersions’ become COI (centers of influence) in your life.  They don’t demand that you cast out your entire way of be-ing, but rather they bring a strong influence that acts as a sort of hand to hold, as you step up and step out developing new patterns, behaviors and - new results.

I help clients immerse themselves into new perspectives - new ways of thinking and being.  Immersing themselves in a new way of self-care shifts what they experience on the ‘outside’ = in the world.  When we fill up internally, we feel more confident.  ‘People play small when they feel small’, says T.Harv Eker  All that’s required is a shift in perspective and taking new actions. Baby-steps or leaps, they both will serve you well.  By immersing ourselves - and in ways that we can incorporate easily into our lives - we yield amazing new results.

A few ideas in how to Immerse yourself this August:

1)  Spend a day at the beach, sans cell phone.  Pack a journal to capture ideas and thoughts, but let yourself be free to the present moment and follow your bliss. 

2) Even better, decide to take a weekend away alone.  Check into a hotel that makes you feel comfortable and well taken care of, and delight in new explorations both ‘inside’ yourself and ‘outside’.  Allow yourself to luxuriate in your surroundings, in your free time and in this free space to *BE*.  Notice what thoughts and inspirations come to you, and act on them.  This information is coming as a download from Spirit and your Higher Self.  Enroll a friend if you need to to keep you accountable. 

3) Create a Sacred Space in your day by either assigning a place, or time of day - and use this time to read or listen to inspirational audio.  Morning is the most ideal time as it will set the tone for your day.  Meditation is a wonderful way to immerse into a new realm of being. 

4)  Turn up the volume even more by hiring a Mentor or join a Coaching Group.

From my savvy heart to yours~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

Sometimes I have too many ideas on what to write about.  Today, what kept coming back in to my thoughts was the struggle that we can have when we’re ‘cleaning house’ - making changes - in our lives, because this process and space can be really, really UNCOMFORTABLE at times.  

If you look at this on the level of the world - ie. our Global Economy, and our national ‘j-0-b’ market, there’s been a lot of ‘cleaning house’ - hasn’t there?  A forced cleaning. And we, right now, are sitting in that uncomfortable place, watching to see what’s created as our economy slowly rebounds and with that, Corporate America begins to respond and begins to hire again.

In a similar fashion, yet often by choice, we as individuals have to say ‘NO’ to things to create the space for the ‘YES’s to arrive in our lives.  Sometimes that’s a person, place or thing.  AND, what I know to be true, is that we also have to look within.  We must also look at who we are BE-ing , and who we want to BEcome, in order to create the powerful shifts and results that our hearts and minds seek.  So, we have to create space by looking at ways of being within ourselves that no longer serve who we are becoming - and want to become.

For instance, a woman desires a relationship. She’s been alone for a while. She’s ready. On some level, whether conscious or unconscious, she gathers what she would absolutely love to experience in this relationship - and in life within this relationship (the YES).  Because she’s lonely, she still hooks up occasionallywithan old boyfriend, and she dates men that reveal to her red flags out the gate - and qualities that don’t align with what she desires in a partner.  The most important aspect of this behavior, though, is that she feels less-than as a result.  She’s not receiving what she desires, yet she’ll *continue* to keep company with them because the NEW hasn’t arrived, despite feeling less-than after the rendez-vous or disappointment within herself after she accepts a third date request from a mulitple red-flag guy.

It can be so difficult sometimes to say the ‘NO’ (no more…), especially when the ‘ante’ feels raised like  the example above = a longed-for relationship.

And, we can’t grow if we don’t get uncomfortable.  I use to see my own discomfort as a signal that perhaps I was heading down the wrong path.  Today I am well aware that growth - and creating what we want in life - can have times of discomfort.  Our discomfort is often a very important SIGN that we are creating space for NEW. That we’re ‘on-track’!

Here are a few things to keep in mind as you navigate this process and the sometimes-discomfort:

-  Notice if a person, place or thing feels ‘negative’, or that you might feel depleted or negative upon leaving them, it, or after a behavior of your own (like saying Yes to other’s when you want to say No).   If the answer is s a YES, then it needs to be a NO.  But what’s around the corner?  Your NO to what’s in front of you will light the way.  It’s a leap of Faith, and it will pay off in spades.

- Remember that there is a YES behind your NO - the Yes to yourself and what you’re creating.  This is huge for riding the wave of discomfort as you stay true to yourself. For example, you’ve decided that you’re not going to pursue interviewing in a particular industry (every time you do you get a big NO inside - you know it’s no longer a fit for you in a huge way).  But it’s really uncomfortable, for many reasons: a) you need a job b) it’s really easy to get interviews in this field c) your ego gets stroked because you’re experienced d) all of the above.    REMEMBER THE YES.   The YES here may be the 10+ year longed-for career change into the area that those close to you say they can see you in, and more importantly you know on some level you belong in.  The YES here is about saying YES to your dreams.  Keeping you healthier and happier. 

-Be really, REALLY kind and gentle to yourself along the way.  Self-love.  It’s the elixir of life.  The more we are accepting, nurturing, and trusting of ourselves, the easier life flows before us.  If you’re a big bad-talker of yourself, stop NOW.  Words are huge, especially those we say silently to ourselves = our thoughts.   So, be kind.  No one can love you better, nor create the life of your dreams. 

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

In honor of Dr. Martin Luther King Day …

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Hate multiplies
hate, violence multiplies violence, and toughness multiplies toughness in a descending spiral of destruction….The chain reaction
of evil–hate begetting hate, wars producing more wars–must be broken, or we shall be plunged into the dark abyss of
annihilation.”    -   Martin Luther King, Jr., Strength To Love, 1963

We can equate darkness to prejudice, terrorism, violence - all that we witness and experience as manifestation of individual and collective dark thoughts.

This great man fought against so much.  He had such bravery , and such vision.

You and I live in such different times.  Imagine what he was up against. I simply CAN NOT.  

Stop for a moment and think about that.   It is so incredibly HUMBLING, isn’t it? 

Sometimes it may feel as if you’re up against SO MUCH.  What you desire feels so far out of reach.  Your reality may seem so  vastly different from that of your dreams. 

 I certainly have my moments…

It seems that we as individuals - and particularly as women - create these horrible thoughts against ourselves (even if they’re little tiny ones, subtle…)  and these thoughts can turn into self-sabotaging acts, and acts against others - that take us so FAR away from our purpose of being in an abundance of JOY and WELL-BEING.    It begins with our thoughts. 

Which leads me to another quote of MLK’s that I stumbled upon, which I loved…

“We must combine the toughness of the serpent and the softness of the dove, a tough mind and a tender heart.”   -Martin Luther King, Jr., Strength to Love, 1963.

From my savvy - and tender  - heart, to yours ~Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

This is always something that is “up” for me, and it’s in the middle of my work with clients.  It’s responsible for the results that we receive in our lives.  Our minds.  Our thinking.  What we allow in.  The nutrients that we feed it.

You’ve seen me write a lot about mind-set, and my clients experience my focus on it in our work together.  I recently re-read some old journals from years back, and low and behold - as I worked on shifting out of corporate and ending a toxic relationship with a boyfriend, along with attracting more opportunity into my life - what was changing within me was my mind-set.  What makes all the difference with this is sustainability.  Protecting your focus, your intentions, your vision and your thinking.

Ways to do this:

1. Surround yourself with like-minded people, and decrease time with the rest.

2. Keep your environment positive, including what you listen to (audios instead of random radio) and what you read.

3. Take time to connect to your vision - your desires - your dreams - EVERYDAY (see a prior blog post on Mind Movies).

4. Do whatever it takes to BELIEVE. You must have belief.  Fear and doubt are everywhere, and they destroy the thinking and mind-set that’s required to live the life of your dreams.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

1) Oneness - You are already one with the infinite prosperity and infinite supply of the Universe. Ie. think about the ocean - infinite prosperity, supply. Take a cup of water from the ocean, and travel 100 miles. That cup of ocean water is still part of that greater source - the ocean water of which it was taken from. They are the same - One.

Practice a Oneness Mindset

Ex: ‘I am willing to discover my already Oneness with…..’

2) Non-attachment, Non-judgement: A vibration of allowing things into your life. You’re releasing limitation and boundaries, taking away the ’shoulds’ here of how you are attached to how things show up and look in your life.

Ex: the only way I will meet ‘him’ is by successful online dating or being at the right ‘place’

Mantra: There is only one source - an infinite channel

3) Gratitude: One of the most powerful vibrations - it is the vibration of Having. The Universe will begin to give you back more Havingness. Where your attention goes is where your energy flows. Express Gratitude, you can’t do this enough.

4) Cultivate Your Desire to Create or to Give: When we’re caught up in scarcity, we’re focused on GETTING rather than GIVING. This is coming from lack - and as like attracts like - lack attracts more of the same. Giving from a place of gratitude and abundance.

“The more I spend, the more I receive” - Joe Vitale

5) Active Receptivity: The mindset that guides your actions towards prosperity. You must act on these opportunities that the Universe sends you. Inspired action, rather than of the action of willful control or fear.

Ex: “I am open and receptive to clear guidance from the Universe.”

“I intend to take inspired action to show the Universe that I am open, expanded and committed to my greatest JOY.”

To your success,

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

It’s Election Day…

I don’t ‘do politics’ nor formalized religion, in terms of engaging in public (or much personal) debate and attempting to persuade or squash other opinion.    This doesn’t mean that I’m not active nor have an opinion or personal point of view!  I just don’t find the process of such debate that joyous , electrifying or  satisfying for me, personally.

I’m happy to have just completed my vote and it feels good to be doing my part.  Without going into this any deeper, all I will say is THANK G*D WE WILL BE SEEING SOME CHANGE as a country, and globally.

Speaking of change, I want to share something with you that I came across last night reviewing one of my notebooks.  I recently heard David Neagle speak at the retreat I attended given by Fabienne Fredrickson on “Inner Game of Abundance”.   I’m on David’s list so I receive his messages through his Ezine and audio’s,  and I find him , as many do,  so incredibly clear as a communicator of the Universal  laws and principles that have existed for thousands and thousands of years.  He makes things SO clear, SO simple.  But you can’t be fooled by the simplicity.  Mastering these teachings takes tremendous focus, willpower and study, to say the least. I hope to continue to improve the application of these in my life…

So, I’m reviewing my notes from David’s presentation at the retreat,  and I came across this statement & quote that is SO the Truth.  So the Truth!

“The minute you let go of the thing you’re not willing to let go of, the Universe responds IMMEDIATELY.”

I’ll share with you a few  of my own examples of this Truth:

-          As soon as I let go of a FEAR of ‘needing’ a (toxic)  corporate job to keep me afloat in life – and literally jumped out of a plane that weekend to symbolize it – I am let go (a company off) the following day.  (And I needed the Universal ‘push’.  Both of them!)

-          As soon as I let go of sabotaging behavior & certain patterns with men and begin to listen to my Higher Self, I meet my now husband , Larry (within weeks).

-          As soon as I let go of the fear of ‘what other people think of me’(a work in progress, but I’m much less white-knuckled about it now) , and let my voice be heard and my Higher Self gets greater visibility, I receive signs – opportunities – acknowledgement (the kind that keeps me inspired to continue stepping out as my Higher Self, not the kind that feeds my need , based on the fear, to continue to play small).

Here is to changes of the highest order!

From my savvy heart, to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com