Dear Savvy Friend,

This quote, taken from Napolean Hill’s classic (1937) “Think and Grow Rich”, is one that very simply and accurately describes the journey to prosperity - be it fortune of money, fortune of happiness, fortune of peace and love.

“Every person who has accumulated a great fortune has recognized the existence of this stream of life. It consists of one’s thinking process. The positive emotions of thought form the side of the stream that carries one to fortune. The negative emotions form the side that carries one down to poverty.”

My coaching and mentoring work with clients leans heavily on this subject, because our thoughts simply create our realities. You have to take a look at what your thoughts are. Do you know what you’re even thinking? It’s a very slippery slope as our thinking is so automatic, it can be so ingrained and conditioned, and much of it happens without us being CONSCIOUS of it.

As they say in the twelve step program AA, ‘Your best thinking got you here.’

Please be careful here in terms of the Ego thoughts that might be coming up right now - always looking to be superior and ‘right’ - that might be saying, ‘Oh, I already KNOW this. Tell me something new.’

I suffer from this. I think we all do, even those of us that are most evolved on the planet. It really is a continual shedding, a removal of the layers. Every time you find yourself stepping into something bigger, or something new - it is essential to just notice your thoughts.

For example, you’ve decided that you’re truly desiring to be available for a relationship. No more funny business and avoidance tactics or playing small.

1) Take time to step back as if you are an observer of your mind and your thinking, and give some space for your thoughts to bubble up as you look at this ’statement of intent’.

2) Stay honest and vulnerable here, and write down the ugly, fearful, deepest thoughts that come up.

“What the hell do I know about relationships?”

“Yeah right, he’s not out there.”

“It’s impossible to have a happy relationship today.”

“Why do I want commitment anyway, everyone gets divorced.”

“Who is going to love me?”

The more you get acquainted with this dark closet of thoughts and own that they swim in your head from time to time, the better your swim in the stream of prosperity. So don’t deny your shadow thoughts.

3. These are thoughts, and thoughts are things. They are actually units of energy, as physicists have discovered. But these aren’t TRUE. Only you, and I, and all of us in our thoughts, make them so.

4. Change your thoughts. For every thought that surfaces that you acknowledge and write down, create a new thought, one that reflects your desire and vision for yourself.

” I know a lot about relationships.” (You do, you’ve been in them your entire life. Everything is relationship).

“He’s out there, waiting for me, and ,’he’ could be anywhere.” (Not just online, not just at a bar, not just in your dream).

“Many people have healthy relationships. I am one of them!”

You get the picture.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I love, love, love this  & had to share:

“I’ve always believed in magic. When I wasn’t doing anything in this town, I’d go up every night, sit on Mulholland Drive, look out at the city, stretch out my arms, and say, “Everybody wants to work with me. I’m a really good actor. I have all kinds of great movie offers.”  I’d just repeat these things over and over, literally convincing myself that I had a couple of movies lined up. I’d drive down that hill, ready to take on the world, going, “Movie offers are out there for me, I just don’t hear them yet.” It was like total affirmations, antidotes to the stuff that stems from my family background.”

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete, and yet life is ever changing.

There is no beginning and no end, only a constant cycling and recycling of substance and experiences.

Life is never stuck or static or stale, for each moment is ever new and fresh.  I am one with the very Power that created me, and this Power has given me the power to create my own circumstances.  I rejoice in the knowledge that I have the power of my own mind to use in any way I choose.  Every moment of life is a new beginning point as we move from the old.  This moment is a new point of beginning for me right here and right now.  All is well in my world.

- Louise Hay

Take a breathe.

Ahhhhhhhh.

From my savvy & abundant heart, to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Lady,

I had great response from my Ezine over the weekend on what’s Out/In both with our own self, in in the wonder-land of dating and relating!   If you’re not getting my Ezine, be sure to sign up for the free subscription at http://BeLoveSavvy.com !

One savvy lady told me she had just cut her hair off (lots of it!) the day before the issue came out, and had so much fun noticing how she was showing up differently at a party that very night.  She said the short new ‘do gave her an instant injection of sass and playfulness.  How fun!  The best thing, she said, was she knew that once she outgrew this style, she could change it again.  Hair does grow- right along with us.

 A friend of mine and very savvy Stylist (multiple books & a stint on Oprah are under her belt!) offered to be a guest on an upcoming tele-class of mine.  I can’t wait to ‘play’ with her on the call.  We’ll blend savvy style how-to’s relative to this topic of changing our outer-selves to align with our inner-UPDATED- selves.  The best part about this - during these seemingly uncertain times -  is that you don’t need to go shopping (unless, of course, you want to!).   We can mix things up with what we’ve got - but sometimes we need another mind here - and we’ll have one of a professional sylist!

Sometimes I make  ’just for the day’ changes to make sure I keep myself on my toes - I can get easily bored with my ‘look!’, as you might have read on Friday.   For instance, today I chose not to spend 30 minutes washing & styling my hair.  I threw it back in a loose ponytail - although it was curly from yesterday, so it has some curl (frizz)  to it - and put a little cap on, to try for a casual-sassy look.  I’m spending my day writing and on phone calls, so I could get away with this.  Most importantly, changing up how I presented myself to the world (and to myself!) today allowed me to feel a little bit more free and light = more creative. 

If this is resonating with you,  I challenge you to step out of your comfort zone.  I dare you!

Be sure you are Rep-ra-zentin, savvy girl.

Have some fun!

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

“JOY heals so much faster than saddness and grief, worry and concern.”

-Denise Linn

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I’m finding myself looking at this subject a lot, whether I’m working with clients, or I’m looking at myself and my own approach to  goals and dreams.

The always right there, one-step-behind: ” How???? ”

You know what I’m talking about, right?

We can dream, vision, desire and get all fired up about what it would look, feel, taste like.  And then - maybe it’s in a next moment, or next day, or next month.  Perhaps it’s after many steps towards it but, in a one-step-back (perceived) moment.  We do it.  We go to the HOW?  

HOW is….

• my dream relationship going to arrive?
• am i going to loose those last 5 lbs?  or the 30?
• will my work, in which i am in utopia, by the way, arrive?
• can i get my relationship back on track, because we are so far off of center?!
• will i get on the Oprah show?

Can you relate?   Do you have seemingly far-off, outlandish, or ‘impossible!’ desires that you can daydream of, but as you take a serious look -talk about- take a step toward,  very quickly stop you dead in your tracks when you’re mind rests on the

H-O-W?

Me too.

I do.    And here’s the thing: the H-O-W is our biggest enemy.  Biggest!!  Because when we are looking at where we are & where we want to be - and focusing on what seems like a big wide open space between the two, where no proof of our desired state is there waiting for us, we panic.  The ‘How’ is actually out there, raising it’s hands, saying - “Over here!  I’m right here!  You’re on the right track! you can do this! Just take a step.”

No, we are not 10 month-olds trying to take a first step.   Or are we?   Why not try that visual on for size?   Pretend that 10 month olds can read, just for this example.

So, you are a 10 month old baby.  Mommy is coaxing you to take your first giant step, as she’s witnessed you holding on to the coffee table, standing tall and strong - on your very own.    You stand holding on for dear life, and she’s several feet away from you, hands out - telling you you can come to her - all smiles.   But, just next to her is a big, bold sign that says, 

“HOW?”

As this particular 10 month old in our example, you can register what this sign means to you.    It is saying ‘ Come on - you haven’t taken a step yet - Missy - what makes you think you’re going to begin right this minute?  Huh?  Tell me.  Tell me!  Don’t even try it.”

What if you, as this 10 month old, believed more strongly on this grumpy, bully sign than you did your Mom ?

Dream coach Marsha Weider, whom I heard speak in past months, refers to this as ‘going to strategy too soon.’   When we do, our dreams get ’schquelched’, she says.   We get stopped before we get started.

The HOW actually shows up.  It does.  Absolutely.  But we have to BELIEVE it is possible (our desire, our dream, our goal) and take ACTION toward it.  As we do,  the HOW gets taken care of.   

I’m so sad just typing this.  I really am.  What would our world be like if we all decided to not look at that ‘bully sign’ - the HOW? - and decided to go for it anyway? 

Unlimited possibilites.

With love,

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I know, a few letter changes on the end of ‘vibration’ in that title, and we’re talking about an entirely different subject.  Sort of.

We are talking about raising our pleasure factor.  Our energy.  If you haven’t seen ‘What The Bleep Do We Know’, or ‘The Secret’ - both of which have brought this topic of Quantum Physics and Law of Attraction to the Mainstream - rent them. 

I am so passionate about this topic, savvy friends!  Years before the launch of The Secret, I was told to pick up a book called, “Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting”.  I read it, and it changed my life.  Validating what I had sensed - in a very distant way- to be true about life, I devoured the book and began practicing the concepts of manifesting in a more focused way than I had previously.  The net, net:  Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.  Measure everything by how you feel = emotions.  You must incrementally raise your feeling tone/emotional vibration to match that which you desire.  For example, you might be desiring a healthy, juicy relationship, but you vibrate (feel) low because you’re focused on the fact that it’s missing, not gonna happen.  And, equally important, you remain in a lower-vibe ’space’ with tolerations and other miss-matched vibration environments and accepted circumstances.  In this I refer to everything from tolerating using a mal-functioning appliance, to clothing that doesn’t fit well or please you, to friendships and work that is energy-draining and toxic.   We are always at choice, but we often don’t want to acknowledge this, because it equally acknowledges personal responsibility - for everything -down to the coaster on my desktop as I write this!  Ugh…

Oh my, I could go on and on about this subject.  And, in no means do I ‘have it down’ - believe me. I enjoy the challenge of dipping into this regularly and taking inventory of how I am vibrating - what tolerations I need to eliminate - what I need to upgrade, both internally and externally.  It’s much easier said than done.  Why?  Because, as humans, we like to stay in our ‘knowns’ and fear change.  Yes, Savvy Woman, it’s true.  We all operate from our conditioning, that - by the time we are 7 years old - is fairly ingrained in us in order to fit in within our families, communities and society at large.  So, that means, especially as women, a fear of not being accepted, and of rocking the boat. 

If you are on a path of claiming, aligning with and acting on your heart’s desires, you must put your focus on what you want (not what you don’t want)-  and - have the courage to take action that supports you in vibrating and attracting in that which you know, in your heart, to be true for you.  To be, do, and have all  that you desire - that is your birthright.

Which leads to my point that inspired the title of this blog, as quoted from Ask And It Is Given, by Esther and Jerry Hicks (a must read): “The reason you have not already gotten what you desire is because you are holding yourself in a vibrational holding pattern that does not match the vibration of your desire.  That is the only reason -ever…..if you will stop and think about it, or more important, stop and feel about it, you can identify your very discord.”

We must ever so gently, and bit by bit, release our resistance - our thoughts - which is the only disallowing factor involved.

Increased relief (how are you feeling?) indicates that you are releasing resistance, and increasing your vibration - where increased feelings of tension, frustration and anger are indications of you adding to your resistance.

How do we vibrate to match our birthright’s desires?  Aside from taking a serious look at what my tolerations are and making necessary shifts there (sometimes big ones such as my work and relationships) , some things that I make sure to infuse into my daily living to increase/support my vibration are:

- Time with myself to tap into Spirit/Source/the Divine within me:  meditation, prayer, writing, reading

- Inspiring music

- Organized and clear environments of home, office, car

- Play dates with friends or with myself to look forward to

- Focused time visioning myself in the situations, environments and being-ness as if I am already in the desired outcome (ease as a mother,  collaborating with other leaders on projects, working with Oprah, traveling with Larry (my husband) in Africa).

- Excellent self-care:  healthy eating, exercise and sleep.   A regular massage.

Here is to remembering our birthright and releasing all that doesn’t vibrate with it !

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

I was in Miami last week attending Fabienne Fredrickson’s “Inner Game of Abundance” Retreat.  It was fabulous.  Fabienne is known for her business “Client Attraction”, and she’s taking things to a new level to realign with her life purpose, and modeling it in a very open and generous way.  My intuition told me to attend as soon as I heard of it, and quickly my mind/Ego tried to shut it downwith “You already know ALL this stuff, Leslie.  What could be of value here?”  Thank G*D I didn’t listen.  It was an incredible, valuable experience!  YAY for shutting down our EGOs - if just for enough time to act on the inner wisdom that is our true guide!

At Fabienne’s retreat, I heard of this analogy that I knew I must share with you.  And that is:  Life is a series of Trapeze Acts.

YOU are swinging on a Trapeze bar - and you need to catch the other one.   You can’t catch the other one, if you don’t let go.  You MUST set sights on the other bar in order to let go.  And you do this with the knowingness that the net is always underneath you, should you need it. 

How many times have you fervently held on to that first bar, swinging as long as it would carry you, until it eventually comes to a halt because you didn’t let go and grab the other bar that was waiting for you?

We can’t grab that bar if we don’t have our eyes focused on it.  Instead, we may hold on to that first bar, with all of our fears and doubts keeping our attention elsewhere, if not our eyes completely closed.  Staying with the familiar - “at least I’m holding - and hanging on- to this bar.”  That known bar is everything from the way you are use to being in the world (putting others first, afraid, selfish, too nice, lost) to situations that you’ve outgrown - you’re ready to catch that next bar of new work, a relationship, a next adventure.

I think of situations that keep us playing small, staying in the ‘knowns’.  We must be willing to step into the unfamiliar, the unknown = the uncomfortable.

The net is always underneath us.  

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I have this little book of quotes entitled, “Moxie” (www.compendiuminc.com)

All the quotes are full of spirit.   Today I opened it up to this:

“I will dare to just do what I do. Be just what I am. And dance whenever I want to.” 

-Beverly Williams

With love and daring,

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

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Dear Savvy Woman,

I hear you! I’m with you - I swear!  

Despite being a married woman, I continually experience the ‘experience’ of dating via my clients and other single women in my life.   Lately, I seem to get almost as much content from being out in public next to a ‘loud talker’ at a restaurant, or in Walgreen’s on their cell.

Just last night, I was meeting a friend at a neighborhood restaurant to catch up.  I had arrived first and dove into the menu as I was starving.  I couldn’t help but hear the conversation next to me as I silently studied what I would order.

This couple obviously had just met up for a first date.  Conversation was mechanical.  I had arrived just as they were winding up.  What I over heard was them each reviewing how they ‘filtered’ with their dates:  if they went to bars or not, online dating, and even, yes - the Meyer’s Briggs.

I was so sad for these two.  

I know E-harmony does an assessement for appropriate matching - I was a client years ago.  Nothing against them, or any online dating site.

What’s next - ENFJdateme.com?

Listen, I’m all about personal development and compatibility.  I’m a coach.  

AND, no wonder we’ve lost hope as women when we hear, feel and experience this sort of pursuit of ‘the one’.

How romantic is it to discuss dating strategy with someone you are on a date with?   Absolutely ZERO.

Especially, when these ’strategies’ are all behind a computer screen, or tallying up under ‘Zero Risk’ and ‘Proven’ columns.

Is this the reality of Modern Dating?

Maybe for some. 

But I know you, Savvy Woman. 

You don’t want this. 

And you don’t have to have it. 

The more you know yourself and know what you want, the more confident you can be in acting on what’s true for you.

Acting from love.

Not acting from fear.   Fear wants to hide behind things - take a proven way - and acts in discord from the truth of things.

I know you want to believe that you’ll have tons of fun, pleasure, light, and wonder in dating and partnering with your man.

And you can.

You must believe.

If you do - you’ll trust some of those nudges, inclinations and hunches that will lead you to fun, pleasure, light and wonder - and to him.

With love and light,

From my savvy heart to yours ~

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com