Dear Savvy Woman,
I’ve created the results that I’ve desired in my life by focusing on them – as if they were already in my life. What we focus on increases – have you heard that before? If you’ve followed any of my work, I know that you have! :) As humans, we can all waver with this, even if we are pretty well studied here and have witnessed our lives change as a result of this Universal principle and Truth. We must continue to manage, with greater and greater proficiency, the gap between who we BE in the here and now, and who we actually ARE – as divine beings.
When I was single – which, marrying at 36, means I had a good long time of dating and relationships before I met my husband – I for a very long time was focused on LACK. If I was without a date or without a boyfriend, I was frequently coming from a place of ‘less-than’ or ‘not enough’, because I was fixed on what was missing and what I wanted that wasn’t ‘here’ yet.
Are you that woman? Do you constantly look to what you don’t have and look at your friends and strangers and imagine that they are in utopia and complete, while you are in LACK? I understand – I’ve been there. As humans, we can all struggle with this when we want something (relationship, fitness, wealth, adventure) and it’s not ‘here’ yet.
You might not see that you are that woman, because to yourself and from the outside you’re ‘living the good life’. But are you buying it? What are you telling yourself? Are you telling yourself you’re ‘bad’ and ‘unwanted’ if your date doesn’t ask you out again, or you find yourself out of relationship for months or years?
What completely changed my personal life, largely by what vibration I was in, was what I focused on. When I started to really , REALLY focus on what my heart DESIRED, life changed – dramatically. Life got FUN and it FLOWED. It wasn’t seamless from the ‘outside’, but it felt seamless on the inside. I had to let go of a lot – what it was that i “thought’ I wanted and more so, what I had known, and who I had been. I stepped into a larger version of me by focusing on what I wanted, BEFORE the proof that it existed showed up. THAT IS THE KEY.
1. Stop focusing on what you don’t want. Careful here - you might not think that you’re doing this, especially if you’re busy, ‘happy’, etc – so take an honest look at your thoughts. “I don’t want to be single at 40, 50, 60″……. are you running that story in your mind?
2. Start focusing on what you do want, and acting as if it’s already here ( and it is, but you have to raise to the vibration for it to be received into your life. Are you currently vibrating at ‘it’s not here!’ ‘i’m alone – still!’ ‘men suck!’ ‘there’s no available men in San Francisco!’).
3. Your attraction-gauge operates based on your emotions. If you are feeling good (by thinking good thoughts) , and focused on what it is you desire, your vibration will change to the frequency by which your desire is vibrating, and you will attract it in. Let go of the HOW and the SHOULDS, and focus on how you are FEELING and BEING, resting in patient EXPECTENCY.
In good vibes and with love and gratitude,
From my savvy heart to yours,
Leslie
The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach
www.BeLoveSavvy.com
