Dear Savvy Friends,

Ahhhh…i’m still riding on a high from my wine country oasis staycation !!  Or workaction. ;-)  10 heavenly days of unplugged BE-ing and inspired Do-ing.  I’ll be sure to share some pictures to FB soon! Together Larry (my sweetie and hubby) and I had ’scripted’ out that experience over a year ago - our stay/workaction - and then it effortlessly unfolded just days before we ditched the city for the country. I love effortless things - dont’ you?

We are all living by the scripts that we’ve been unconsciously and hopefully, consciously, writing for ourselves and then living - acting - out.

A few months ago I bought a T-Shirt and writeen simply on the front is :  REWRITE YOUR SCRIPT.

Guess what?   We can re-write these scripts that run in our minds and bring us to what we experience in our lives.  We are always at choice.  What we think about, comes about.  Where intention goes, energy flows.

What we may be - or have been  - unconsciously ’scripting’ might have come from our parents or ancestors ideas, society’s ‘requirements’ and/or cultural and gender ‘rules’.  Or simply what we put into place years ago based on our experiences, but since then our life experiences and new desires have caused us to outgrow.

Have you ever stopped and realized that you have arrived at a situation because you on some level, scripted it out?

If we get really clear (and really BRAVE), we can look at where we are and discover the script of the ‘play’ that we’ve been reading to ourselves.

A few ‘life-situation’ script examples:

Old Script:   I’m partner at my firm, I’m deep into my career in law and I absolutely cannot stand what I do but this is what I know how to do to earn the income I need to earn to support my lifestyle.  I’m too old to change.  I’ll lose respect if I try and fail.  What do I know how to do? No one loves what they do for career really, anyway. At least not the ones making any money.

New Script:  I know what I’m doing and I want to change careers.  My happiness and quality of life are so important to me, and my relationships and outlook will soar when I act on what I need to act on here. I know how to be resourceful and attract new opportunities that will be lucrative AND rewarding. I have options. I’ll begin to take steps to investigate what’s next for me.  I know there is support and expertise available.  As I take steps, the Universe rises up to meet me, and will continue to.

Old Script:I’m in this relationship that doesn’t feel good, but what are my options? Sure, this doesn’t really make me feel very secure, empowered, valued or appreciated.  But look around, no one else is very happy in theirs either. Or they’re single and can’t find a decent date.  I guess I’m better off than they are.  And,   I’m so use to this relationship.  I’m sure that one day he’ll get off the fence and really start to step up in this relationship.  This is just how it has to be, for me, I guess.  Maybe one of these days I won’t be able to take anymore.

New Script: I am in a relationship that feels amazing! I feel cherished and respected, and we have such fun together , looking out on the same horizen as we step into our future together.  It’s incredible…there are no games!  So much space has opened up in my be-ing because I don’t have to expend so much mental and emotional energy on it.  Wow! This is fabulous.  We hit speed bumps here and there but I feel so confident inside that I, and we, can cruise right over them.  Life is good. No, life is GOOD!!  (Now, if this current partner can’t rise to the script that she continues to play in her head, that person will fall away and a new partner will come in to play that ‘role’ in her script).

Script writing is something that I do on a regular basis with myself, and with my clients.  We can script out our bigger life-changes and dreams, and we can also script out our day, a difficult conversation to have, or any situation.

Easy 1-2-3’s for script writing:

1)  Make sure you are in a good space, ie. feeling somewhat to very positive and hopeful, as the intentiona and energy you begin this (and anything) with is everything. 

2) If you can, create a sacred space around this by way of lighting a candle, shutting off any distracting and ambient noise (other than inspiring music), and grabbing a cup of tea or glass of wine.

3) With pen and paper (ideally, keep a journal), pick a situation, dream, or vision and write about it, feeling into it from your heart and body, as if you’re in it.  Write in big and expansive ways - if you think you’re ‘going big’, chances are you can still go BIGGER.  This is where the ‘how good can you stand it?’ comes in to play.

4) If you have difficulty with the writing, start with listing words that symbolize and describe the result and situation that you’re scripting. From there you can expand.

Big love,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

Recently I’ve had a few reminders of the importance of this Truth when it comes to going for your dreams; whether it’s to have a loving, reciprocal relationship - build a business around a vision-  or simply to live a rich life with lots of FUN and reward.

You must be willing to take your own journey.  And by this, I mean wake up to YOU, what YOU need, and what’s in your heart. Despite being perhaps a very independent woman in the world, are you honoring your needs and desires-  in what you want to create for yourself both in relationship and in life?

When you do, when you step out into the true unknown, and you ‘burn the ships’ (your safety nets of old, outworn patterns, and sometimes things, like a relationship if it’s not going to work, job or friendships) - this is when you truly are ‘carried’. You’re carried out of the ‘unwanted’ and ‘outgrown’, and into a new land of your dreams.

Taking our own journey means keeping our eye on ‘our prize’. 

I remember when I was single and feeling ‘less-than’ because the man I was dating wasn’t showing up for me the way I needed him to (as in letting down his guards, planning more for the future, etc) and how, rather than honor my needs, my heart and my vision, I would continue to look at how I could be different - sexier, more confident, more beautiful, more witty, more successful.  All I needed to do was love myself enough to admit, ‘Yikes. This doesn’t feel so great’, and then step out on faith and belief that my desire wanted me just as much as I wanted it. (You can replace this relationship desire with anything: health, finances, new employment, entrepreneurship).  

Once those two click in, loving myself enough and stepping out into my own journey on faith, the steps to show myself and the Universe that I was serious about my desire became much easier, despite including sometimes painful choices that would scare the hell out of me.  And still do, as I am applying this to the creation of my business and working for myself now.

Often I notice that if we don’t love our selves enough (self-worth) and/or are clear on what our desire is (we’re not slowing down enough to know but rather are responding to life so we don’t have clarity OR we’re doing the ‘who am i?’ thing  which is also self-worth, because often when we vision and dream, or listen to the calling we still don’t dream big enough), nor believe it’s possible - we simply stay stuck.  And then, when things fall out with the relationship that we were settling in, we wonder what happened and analyze it to death and often blame ourselves.  Or, we stay in the job that we can’t stand but pays the bills and yet shrivel up so much inside that we’re assuaging our pain and stuckness with everything under the sun, and long for a different way to live but as the days click on our belief, dreams, and action steps get more and more suppressed.

When things were hitting rock-bottom with an ex-boyfriend, I finally decided that was it. It took rock-bottom, however. Then, I simply changed my mind and decided.  This was it! The work came then in healing my heart, developing my faith & belief even further, and stepping out.  Living and having fun in new ways. And as soon as I loved myself enough to do things differently and follow that bliss, I met my husband Larry. I hope that we’re blessed with a long, sweet, rich life - living and loving together.  AND, I know that I’m ultimately on my own journey - as each of us are.

To yours,

With love ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com