Dear Savvy Woman,

Let’s be grateful for what is and what matters most to us,  as we enter the holidays and soon say hello to 2010.

I’ll go first by sharing that I am so grateful for:

YOU, for the opportunity to connect with you in this way.

My health and Being: body, mind, spirit, and soul.  

My clients, and all the women who trust - and have trusted - me in guiding them to find their true love.  

All the brilliance, beauty and opportunity that exist on the planet in my lifetime.

My friends and family for their love and support,  and for being who they are in my life (or were), and teaching me what I most need to learn, sometimes to my great dis-comfort! 

The expansiveness and shiny-new experiences that emerge on the other side of the above dis-comfort!

And I’m grateful  - more with each passing day - to my husband Larry for being more than I could have ever imagined as a friend and husband - and teacher.  Last Thanksgiving we did not spend  together (that’s for another blog post or maybe even a book!).  I’m learning so much about myself and about life being in this relationship.  It’s both life-giving and humbling.

All the people that have paved the road for me and you, including my beloved mom who passed away 15 years ago.  I love you Mom, and miss you. 

And as I end this blog, I look inside the book cover of a book I read in the mid-9o’s after my mother passed, that her sister, my Aunt Margo, sent to me “Simple Abundance”, by Sarah Ban Breathnach.  This is syncronistic.  I read on this inside cover what I  know I am to share with you, a prayer that I learned from an Oprah show back then that John Gray shared with the audience, and that helped me to connect to my higher self, to the Universe and to more abundance.

“Oh glorious future, come sit in my heart.  My heart is open to you.

Oh glorious G*d, come sit in my heart.  My heart is open to you.”

Happy Thanksgiving from me to you ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

Discomfort is a signal to us that we’re on to something…

“Your discomfort is actually a gift from G*d.  The Universe is reminding you that there is something you believe in more than what you are currently doing, and it is steering you to your right place.  Your Higher Self is giving you clues toward the prize that awaits you when you remember your worth.  There is something that you believe in, and that is the direction in which you need to move to find real happiness.  In contrast to the sense of struggle that you experience when you deny your gifts, you will be amazed at how effortlessly and joyfully success comes to you when you step toward your heart’s chosen field.  We never have to deny our self in order to win.”

- Alan Cohen, Dare to Be Yourself

I’ve been more and more uncomfortable recently as I’ve been in a deeper place of personal and professional growth.  I decided to become more aware of when I eat sugar, and to modify that behavior (it’s rough but rewarding! ;-), and a little won’t kill me…).  I’ve been uncomfortable as I take steps to honor my needs, despite how those around me may respond.  I’ve been uncomfortable as I step into new-to-me actions leading me toward my desires.

If we aren’t growing, we’re not fully living.  And growth is uncomfortable at times.

We can get to these plateaus and rest for a while, taking in the vistas.  But then we realize the person we’re dating or in relationship with isn’t perhaps one we should continue to be with.  We decide that we can’t stomach one more toxic conversation with someone.  Or, we listen to that inner knowing enough that’s nudging us to interview in an entirely new field -  one that’s lighting us up.

Life can get a bit uncomfortable as we listen to ourselves, honor what we’re hearing, and take actions based on faith, not fear.

So, here is to loving ourselves through the discomfort.

On the other side is peace. And *bliss*.

With love,

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

Recently I’ve had a few reminders of the importance of this Truth when it comes to going for your dreams; whether it’s to have a loving, reciprocal relationship - build a business around a vision-  or simply to live a rich life with lots of FUN and reward.

You must be willing to take your own journey.  And by this, I mean wake up to YOU, what YOU need, and what’s in your heart. Despite being perhaps a very independent woman in the world, are you honoring your needs and desires-  in what you want to create for yourself both in relationship and in life?

When you do, when you step out into the true unknown, and you ‘burn the ships’ (your safety nets of old, outworn patterns, and sometimes things, like a relationship if it’s not going to work, job or friendships) - this is when you truly are ‘carried’. You’re carried out of the ‘unwanted’ and ‘outgrown’, and into a new land of your dreams.

Taking our own journey means keeping our eye on ‘our prize’. 

I remember when I was single and feeling ‘less-than’ because the man I was dating wasn’t showing up for me the way I needed him to (as in letting down his guards, planning more for the future, etc) and how, rather than honor my needs, my heart and my vision, I would continue to look at how I could be different - sexier, more confident, more beautiful, more witty, more successful.  All I needed to do was love myself enough to admit, ‘Yikes. This doesn’t feel so great’, and then step out on faith and belief that my desire wanted me just as much as I wanted it. (You can replace this relationship desire with anything: health, finances, new employment, entrepreneurship).  

Once those two click in, loving myself enough and stepping out into my own journey on faith, the steps to show myself and the Universe that I was serious about my desire became much easier, despite including sometimes painful choices that would scare the hell out of me.  And still do, as I am applying this to the creation of my business and working for myself now.

Often I notice that if we don’t love our selves enough (self-worth) and/or are clear on what our desire is (we’re not slowing down enough to know but rather are responding to life so we don’t have clarity OR we’re doing the ‘who am i?’ thing  which is also self-worth, because often when we vision and dream, or listen to the calling we still don’t dream big enough), nor believe it’s possible - we simply stay stuck.  And then, when things fall out with the relationship that we were settling in, we wonder what happened and analyze it to death and often blame ourselves.  Or, we stay in the job that we can’t stand but pays the bills and yet shrivel up so much inside that we’re assuaging our pain and stuckness with everything under the sun, and long for a different way to live but as the days click on our belief, dreams, and action steps get more and more suppressed.

When things were hitting rock-bottom with an ex-boyfriend, I finally decided that was it. It took rock-bottom, however. Then, I simply changed my mind and decided.  This was it! The work came then in healing my heart, developing my faith & belief even further, and stepping out.  Living and having fun in new ways. And as soon as I loved myself enough to do things differently and follow that bliss, I met my husband Larry. I hope that we’re blessed with a long, sweet, rich life - living and loving together.  AND, I know that I’m ultimately on my own journey - as each of us are.

To yours,

With love ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Friend,

It’s the beginning of April - the start of Spring.

I know that despite the sun and the spring air,  my mind and heart felt the need this morning for some purifying words from Louise Hay.

I wanted to share with you this:

“In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete, and yet life is ever changing.

There is no beginning and no end, only a constant cycling and recycling of substance and experiences.

Life is never stuck, static or stale, for each moment is ever new and fresh.

I am one with the very Power that created me, and this Power has given me the power to create my own circumstances.

I rejoice in the knowledge that I have the power of my own mind to use in any way I choose.

Every moment of life is a new beginning point as we move from the old.

This moment is a new point of beginning for me right here and right now.

All is well in my world.

From my savvy heart  - and mind - to yours ~

Leslie

www.BeLoveSavvy.com