Dear Savvy Woman,

Recently a client of mine was ‘dumped’.  I’m using quotes because I just struggle with that word sometimes,  and I have saved clients (and myself!!) from marinating in that “I was dumped” perspective by offering them this one instead:  “Rejection” is G-d’s protection.  (Insert : Universe, Source, Divine).   You know how it is, you look back and you thank G-d that you were, indeed, ‘dumped’.  Dodged a bullet, in many cases.

But, that doesn’t take away from the sting, and my client “Jane” was definitely allowing herself to feel the fullness of the sting, and beating herself up in the process.  However, with her own awareness, our coaching, and the caring & clear-headed voices of those who cared about her chiming supportively in –  Jane slowly began to get back to life.  She made plans again and began to keep herself busy.

After a long weekend away, she called me for our session and told me that ‘Brian’ had called her.  But he didn’t leave a message.

“He called me!  But, there wasn’t a message.  Well, in fact, my phone had fallen at the sink area of my hair salon and no one found it for days – oddly –  so he could have kept trying me all weekend but my cell was dead when I picked it up on Tuesday.  Maybe he tried me 10 times?  I have no idea. Ok, he probably didn’t.  He probably just pocket-dialed me by accident.”

Jane didn’t, and wouldn’t, know – unless Brian contacted her again.  So, she painfully waited.  She weighed her options and desperately wanted to call him, but she used her own discipline and the voice of reason (yours truly) to remember this truth:  She wanted a partner. She wanted a man who could meet her on the levels she was ready to be met on – someone who would celebrate her as she him.  Brian had (sadly) shown himself to not be that man.  And, I reminded her, this only meant she was closer to the man who would. 

I don’t believe that Brian has tried to contact my client Jane again.  Maybe he did just happen to pocket-dial her that day.  Or maybe he was feebly reaching out to her.  Either way, Jane knows that each day that she focuses on who she is, all that she has and what she wants – and not on what is seemingly lacking in her life - she is a day stronger, wiser, richer, and more hope-filled.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com

Dear Savvy Woman,

I am writing this as I scramble to pack bags and water plants (our only dependants at the moment), all the while trying to rest as much as possible. Why do we get sick right before a big event? I know for me, I was pushing it to the max these past weeks in preparation for this trip to Argentina with my honey, Larry.

This trip was largely my idea as far as the timing of it goes. Because my husband is ramping up his own business this year, and also planned our 14 day trip last summer to Italy for our honeymoon, he was all for Argentina, but asked me to own most of the planning. And I was more than happy to! We also have different ideas of how to plan. I can peruse a few websites and get an instant intuitive ‘hit’ or feel as to if it’s a place for me or not, for instance, with a hotel search. Larry, on the other hand, spends an hour on Trip Advisor combing through the customer reviews to weigh in on his decision – bless his heart. It always pays off..but then again, I have a pretty good track record for choosing things on the fly instictively, and successfully. Opposites attract.

So, we’re on the eve of our long-awaited trip to the beautiful land of Argentina, filled with gorgeous people and rich culture, history and beauty. We’ll be traveling to only two cities, Buenos Aries and Barlioche. I really wanted to ‘hunker down’ in just a few places. My idea of vacation isn’t schlepping bags every night or two, so that we can pack in as many towns and sights as possible. Perhaps in my younger days ;-). Well, I look forward to sharing some stories and pictures with you when I return!

In the meantime, live love and live life!

Ps. I have to say, I feel a new layer of pride and appreciation, as an American, as we travel to another country, on the heels of this Presidential Election.

From my savvy heart to yours,

Leslie

The Savvy Woman’s Love Coach

www.BeLoveSavvy.com